News from Russia ex-wife burns man's penis

[5150guy]

violence directed upon mens genitals by women

This woman tries to make herself the "victim" instead of taking responsiblity. She claims not to be a violent person........what a joke.

This woman was rejected by her ex lover from and open marriage and then tries to eat his testicle after her sexual overtures had been rejected.

Perhaps Shakespheare had it right all those years ago...hell knoweth no furry like a woman......

What if this was a man who bit of his woman's breast or labia? I bet the women would be coming out of the woodwork to condem the guy and volunteer their own cruel and unusual punnishment(perhaps creative would be more accurate).

So ladies what should happen to both of these women mentioned in this post? I have just seen too much of a double standard when it comes to women doing stuff like this.



]http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/merseyside/4253849.stm[/QUOTE]

 

[musclemom]

Re: violence directed upon mens genitals by women

This woman tries to make herself the "victim" instead of taking responsiblity. She claims not to be a violent person........what a joke.

This woman rips off her ex lover from and open marriage and then tries to eat his testicle after her sexual overtures had been rejected.

Perhaps Shakespheer had it right all those years ago...hell knoweth no furry like a woman......

What if this was a man who bit of his woman's breast or labia? I bet the women would be coming out of the woodwork to condem the guy and volunteer their own cruel and unusual punnishment(perhaps creative would be more accurate).

So ladies what should happen to both of these women mentioned in this post? I have just seen too much of a double standard when it comes to women doing stuff like this.

There is no double standard when you only hear one side of the story.

Women lash out once in a blue moon and that makes us all fucking bitches? The incidence of male violence against women (in particular stranger attacks) far, far outweighs the few crimes of passion when the worm really turns.

One pissed off ex wife torched her ex husbands crotch, it makes news, right up there with the words of Stalin: "One death is a tragedy; a million is a statistic."

How many people do men hurt every year? How's this for a nice figure:

"The FBI estimates that only 37% of all rapes are reported to the police. U.S. Justice Department statistics are even lower, with only 26% of all rapes or attempted rapes being reported to law enforcement officials.

In 1994-1995, only 251,560 rapes and sexual assaults were reported to law enforcement officials -- less than one in every three. (National Crime Victimization Survey, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1996.)" http://www.paralumun.com/issuesrapestats.htm

BTW, I'm not comparing burned off gonage to rape, I just picked rape because it is an easy statistic to Google. I could have tried to find out how many women might be living in abusive relationships, or how many women die at the hands of an abuser ...

And men can be pissed off bitchy assholes when a relationship goes sour, too (just pay better attention to this board and all the pissing and moaning you hear from the guys).

It's a dog bites man story. Right up there with the dwarf with a Hoover superglued to his pecker.

 

[5150guy]

Re: violence directed upon mens genitals by women

There is no double standard when you only hear one side of the story....

...It's a dog bites man story. Right up there with the dwarf with a Hoover superglued to his pecker"


I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you did not read the second article that I cited regarding the woman who tore off the man's testicle becuase he would not given into her sexual advances. Did you read the second article? If not my second post is not going to be in context.

For your information I read the complete story regarding the woman who burned her ex's penis, and I checked the story with several other media outlets before I made the post, and I will explain your assumptions later.

Here are some excerpts from the second BBC Article that I cited:

.....A woman who ripped off her ex-boyfriend's testicle with her bare hands has been sent to prison....Amanda Monti, 24, flew into a rage when Geoffrey Jones, 37, rejected her advances at the end of a house party, Liverpool Crown Court heard...

There was no provocation brougth forward in the trial other than the woman's sexual advances were not recieved. Hence the refrence to Shakespeare-hell knoweth no furry ..... Call Shakespeare a fool or a sexist if you wish, but there is a great deal of commentary on human nature to be found his plays and writings.

She pulled off his left testicle and tried to swallow it, before spitting it out. A friend handed it back to Mr Jones saying: "That's yours."

This woman did not do this in private. People were around. An eye witness confirmed that this woman tried to eat his severed testicle. Sexual assualt/rape is one thing. Genital mutilation is another thing, but when you add trying to eat the severed mutilated testicle, the whole thing is raised to a new level of rage, hatred, and insantity.

....Monti admitted wounding and was jailed for two-and-a-half years....

She admitted to what she did in Court, and she told her story in a Court of law. How is her side of the story missing here?

.....Sentencing Monti, Judge Charles James said it was "a very serious injury" and that Monti was not acting in self-defence....... The court heard that Mr Jones had ended his long-term but "open relationship" with Monti towards the end of May last year.......The pair remained on good terms and on 30 May she picked him up from a party in Crosby and went back for drinks with friends at Mr Jones's house.....An argument ensued and Mr Jones said there was a struggle between them......In his statement, Mr Jones said she grabbed his genitals and "pulled hard".

He added: "That caused my underpants to come off and I found I was completely naked and in excruciating pain."

.....The court heard that a friend saw Monti put Mr Jones's testicle into her mouth and try to swallow it.....She choked and spat it back into her hand before the friend grabbed it and gave it back to Mr Jones. Doctors were unable to re-attach the organ....In a letter to the court, Monti said she was sorry for what she had done....She said: "It was never my intention to cause harm to Geoff and the fact that I have caused him injury will live with me forever. I am in no way a violent person." ....The letter added: "I have challenged myself to explain what has happened but still I just cannot remember. This has caused much anguish to me and will do for the rest of my life.....

Not a violent person? Stupid is as stupid does=violent is as violent does. Any bets on whether this is the first time she has asaulted someone or exibited violent and antisocial behaivour? This woman is now portraying herself as the one who is suffering here, and her comments minimize what she did to this man.

If you as a woman are not deeply upset, offended, appalled, disgusted or disturbed by this woman's actions, then you need to take a deep look at yourself just as would any man who was not equally affected were this a man inflicting this kind of violence and genital mutilation upon a woman


Now onto the original article that I posted regarding the russain woman who set fire to her husbands penis. For your information I read the article before I posted it, and I believe a more indepth review will reveal that you made some very big assumptions.

Here is the same story straight from the Pravda:

A female Muscovite burnt her ex-husband’s penis in revenge for his adultery. The Tvoi Den newspaper reports that the man was taken to hospital with burns all over his body, but his jealous ex-wife did not feel guilty at all.

http://english.pravda.ru/society/stories/22-08-2007/96233-penis-0

The woman named only as Irina, 41, was married to Dmitry, 48, for 19 years. The couple divorced three years ago but shared the same apartment afterwards. Irina took her revenge upon Dmitry at the moment when the man could repulse the attack neither physically nor psychologically. Shortly before the incident the man broke his heel, so he could not walk a lot and spent much time at home.


When the incident took place Dmitry was watching an adult program on a night TV channel. His ex-wife grabbed a bottle of vodka and approached the man sitting in front of the TV set. She spilled some vodka on him the man and wanted to set him on fire with a match but her attempt. The flame died out in the air.

Dmitry could hardly realize what was going on and made no attempts to stop the crazy woman. Then, Irina made a wick of a newspaper and threw the burning paper aiming at the man’s crotch. Dmitry told doctors that he had felt terrible pain but could not extinguish the fire. He started burning like a torch. At first, Irina was just observing how the ex-husband was agonizing but then decided to send for a doctor.

Doctors say that Dmitry could have burned alive if the woman had not called an ambulance. Severe burns were found on the man’s arms, legs, chest and penis.

Dmitry can not explain the reason of the ex-wife’s action. He said that the idea to divorce suddenly occurred to Irina three years ago, and the woman would not explain to the man why she wanted to divorce him. Dmitry also has no idea regarding the reasons of the recent incident. Irina at the same time does not feel guilty and insists that ex-husbands must be punished even if they once were unfaithful.
Translated by Maria Gousseva

This woman made a choice. The fact that they lived together for three years after their divorce was due to "economic reasons". However, she could have left, but she chose not to. Lets look at the facts: The couple was divorced for three years prior to this incident of violence and potential homicide. The woman stayed due to "economic reasons".

Where was this woman deprived of a choice to leave this situation?? Where does her responsibilty to make her own life better start to fall strictly upon her shoulders?


....Now I'm not, in any shape, form or fashion, excusing what she did.........He's sitting there going "I don't know what I did to deserve this?!" Oh, horseshit. He knows exactly what he did....

You just made a huge assumption, and what alleged potential provocation do you think justifies her response or would elicit such a response by an innocent healthy well adjusted woman void of serious pyscholgical disorders?

The only thing that the article mentions as a posible motive is that the woman wanted to punish him for his past affair. Again, she could have left, and I think the legit question is why didn't she? Using money as an excuse is a cop out if this guy was so digusting to live with.

..... and something tells me that his EX-wife had told [him] just because we have to frigging live together she didn't want to see his hairy fucking scrote or some such thing.....

And what does this statement and sentiment have to do with making her actions anything resembling cause and effect? Also, that "something" is likely your own experiences and biases, and you have made huge assumptions regarding her lack of culpability and intent for her actions.

Again, she was not legally forced to live there, and she was not being intimidated to do so. If seeing the man naked watching an adult TV program is that bad, go else where. Or perhaps she could chose not to look. We tell our children stuff like this all the time. In addition, all to often being offended or getting pissed off about something is a choice and there are those who enjoy their anger and the self endowed carte blanche they feel when they are acting from anger.

Do you have a problem with admitting that women are capable of and more often than a good many women would like to admit do in fact resort to evil, twisted acts that degrade and brutally hurt men [and children as well]?

....I'd love to see an interview with the wife I bet she knows EXACTLY why she lit him up....


This is perhaps the one thing we agree on regarding the two articles that I posted--yes she does know why she burned this mans genitals and nearly killed him.

The key question is can there be any real justification for her actions? Was there any reasonable provocation? This side of self defense is there any justification? Also,if she wants to retaliate, why must she direct this violence towards his genitals? What does her choice reveal about her?

The big clincher is that what would you be saying and feeling if this was a woman who was similarly burned by a man was for similar circumstances? If your responses are not eqaul and identical for both genital burning scenarios, then you are in need of some serious self examination.


The facts are:

1. The man was dealing with an injury that had him incapaciated.
2. This woman made two attempts to set fire to this man.
3. She used an accelerant--this indicates calulation and premediation.
4. Her only stated justification was becuase he had an affair?
5. The couple had been divorced for three years?
6. She could have left but chose not to likely due to having to accept a lesser standard of living.
7. This violence was not just violence, it was directed towards his gentials


It was long since time to move on and in her case move out as well. She should have looked to stay with family, stay with freinds, get a new appartment with another single woman who is in similar circumstaces, but dont resort to violence. The fact that her brutality was directed towards his genitals only makes her violence that much more wrong, evil and disturbing.

Minus a "smoking gun" of her being raped by this man prior to this incident, or a history of proven DV, where is the justification for what this woman has done? There is no cause and effect here. Furthermore, violence does not solve these problems or bring about healing, and if a woman hates a man and his genitalia so bad that she resorts to genital mutilation and in the other case eating mutilated genitalia (this is Dahmeresque), what does it say about these women?


PS I have worked with DV treatment teams, and I have worked with rape victims and victims of sexual abuse. I have helped investigate child sex abuse cases, incset, an sexual assault. I have an idea of what the reality of these heinous crimes are about. I did not just fall of the turnip truck, and I have seen the ugly underbelly of society up close and personal. It knows no boundaries of gender, race, religion(or lack there of) nationality, level of education, or socioeconomic status.

 

[CrazyRussian]

 

[Cal_21]

My ex girlfriend burned my dick...stupid dry-humping slut

 

[musclemom]

Re: violence directed upon mens genitals by women

PS I have worked with DV treatment teams, and I have worked with rape victims and victims of sexual abuse, I have an idea of what the reality of these heinous crimes are about. I did not just fall of the turnip truck, and I have seen the ugly under belly of society up close and personal.

Okay, so you worked in DV, then you should know the stats but clearly this bugs you. So you're saying what? It's okay that legions of men treat scores of women and children like punching bags or target practice, but a couple of thoroughly pissed off bitches are a signal of the End Times?!

If you were to even quadruple the amount of crimes women commit against men, it's still not even close to half the amount of abuse that men dump onto people who are, by their nature, smaller and weaker than they are all the fucking time. I lift heavy weights and I'm STILL only slight more than 1/3 as strong as the average man. What the fuck is the average woman? Yeah, that's an even fight ...

His heel was broken. You work in DV, I work in ortho and neurology. He was, in no shape, form or fashion to protect himself, dramatically incapacitated??? HORSESHIT. Broken heel doesn't even warrant a cast, just an air boot, barely. Sometimes all it calls for is a supportive shoe.

Actually, no I'm not deeply apalled. I virtually don't give a shit about these petty ass bullshit crimes of passion, they're small potatoes. Women by their nature are not violent. A handfull of oddball cases don't come close to the amount of bullshit men have done and seem hell bent to forever perpetuate. I virtually discount crimes of passion, totally different ball of wax from say BTK, John Wayne Gayce, Ted Bundy, et. al.

Tell ya what, count the names on this list (make it easy on yourself, just do USA) give me a final ratio of male names to female names.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_serial_killers_by_country

And you wanna talk about being burnt alive? Just take a long hard look at the shit that goes down in Islam countries? Real nice shit there, throwing acid in the face of a woman who's not following religious law or suspected of a potential inpropriatity. Jesus, at least that Russian bitch suffered remourse after her initial attack and called the paramedics. Ever hear of the Hindu practice of Sati/Suttee? Wiki that one, real happy family shit, right there. Hey, let's go to recent history, what about THIS fucker, he turned it into a spectator sport:

http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?sec=health&res=9D0CEED7113CF93AA25754C0A9659C8B63

"A 44-year-old Korean immigrant doused his girlfriend with gasoline on a Queens sidewalk yesterday morning and set her on fire with a cigarette lighter as her 10-year-old son looked on, the police said. He then splashed more gasoline on his own clothes and embraced her in a bear hug, and they fell to the ground in flames. Both were in critical condition last night. "

How about these loving fathers ... there's so many of them it runs to 10 pages, lots of happy reading there.

http://www.crimelibrary.com/criminal_mind/psychology/fathers_who_kill/4.html

You want me to be apalled over a couple of crimes of passion? OPEN YOUR EYES there's a WHOLE FUCKING WORLD of goddamned cruelty, nastiness, evil and hurt out there and you ARE NOT doing one bit of good by saying ONE sex is nastier over the other.

You want me to get all choked up and horrified from my gender's perspective because some broad ripped a guys ball off or another tried to toast some dudes privates? What am I supposed to do when I hear about assholes like John Liss and Chris Benoit? Hang myself?

 

[5150guy]

Re: violence directed upon mens genitals by women

Musclemom:

Let me respond

"Okay, so you worked in DV, then you should know the stats but clearly this bugs you. So you're saying what? It's okay that legions of men treat scores of women and children like punching bags or target practice, but a couple of thoroughly pissed off bitches are a signal of the End Times?!"


No I am not saying or implying any of the above, and an intellecutally honest reading of my posts would tell you this. I never made excuses for the atrocities and violence men have commited towards any one-be they man, woman, child or animal. Nor did I in any way discount how reprehensible and abhorant violence, cruelty and the inflicting of pain upon others is regardless of the gender of the perpetrators or the gender of the victims.

"You want me to be apalled over a couple of crimes of passion? OPEN YOUR EYES there's a WHOLE FUCKING WORLD of goddamned cruelty, nastiness, evil and hurt out there and you ARE NOT doing one bit of good by saying ONE sex is nastier over the other"

I think as a socitey we should be appalled by all cruelty, violence and killing whether it is perpetrated by males or females-- I am. For you to make any judgment regarding this or my character is clearly unwaranted.

My life's work has been centered around helping and treating both males and females who have been damaged by the cruel and violent actions of others.

Let's look more specifically at this statement "you are not doing one bit of good by saying that one sex is nastier over the other". I never said that one sex is nastier than the other. Nor was it implied not even in the appeal to Shakespeare to illustrate my point.

I am calling you out and challenging you to docuement where I said or implied this. You are bringing an ad homenin and condesending flavor to this discussion that is not productive nor is is called for.

In addition, I have never said that violent, immoral, amoral, degrading, brutal, evil, or hurtful actions are any more excusable when comitted by either gender. Also please point out where i said or implied that accross wide sample that women commit acts of violence more often then men.

Also I made no claims or comparisons regarding which gender has been involved in more serious crimes or more frequently inflicted more pain and death upon women and children, and you know this. We both know what the statistical research tells us about the ratio of men to women currently in prison accross the world for various types of violent crimes icluding rape, murder and assault.

Actually, no I'm not deeply apalled. I virtually don't give a shit about these petty ass bullshit crimes of passion, they're small potatoes


I differ with you on this. These are not petty crimes, and were something like this to happen to you or one of your loved ones, I doubt that you would be deaming them to be just petty crimes that you dont care about.

Futhermore, your use of profanity adds nothing to the legitimacy of your post, and it surely does not add any power to your case. It does however, bring an tone of acrimony to your post.


So Muscle mom I will bring this matter back full circle. All I pointed out is that these two events happened. I pointed out that I struggle to see any justifcation or cause for what these women did. I did raise the point that these women need to take responsiblity for their actions and for improving their own lives and circumstances, and I would say the same were the tables turned. I also pointed out that these women are NOT innocent victims.

If you are not seeing it by now, I have denounced violence and cruetly accross the board, and I have not made exceptions for either gender.

I raised my concern about a seeming double standard on how more than just few and insignificant women react to cases such as these two and the John Bobbit case for example vs when a man does something similar. I also attempted to bring focus to the question of what women think should happen in cases such as these two and what would bring justice in comparision to genital mutilation of women by men.

I have also pointed out that violence directed mutilating person's genitalia is heinous, twisted, cruel, and the product of an unhealthy mental state, and this mutilaiton can be and is perpetrated by both women and men. I really think we agree on this point, but that setiment got lost in the energy of your post.

I also raised the question of why violence and mutilation of these men's genitalia if only revenge or self defense was the motive. As captian Ahab once said,"a little lower layer....."

Please do not twist my words or imply commentary and positions that I did not even venture into. Obviously you have strong feelings on this subject, and this has touched on a sensitive and volitile area for you. So much so that you missed the points that i have raisedand failed to consider the questions that I have raised relative to these two scenarios.

There is no need for the drama and misdirected angst that you have brought into this discussion.

 

[musclemom]

Re: violence directed upon mens genitals by women

So Muscle mom I will bring this matter back full circle. All I pointed out is that these two events happened. I pointed out that I struggle to see any justifcation or cause for what these women did. I did raise the point that these women need to take responsiblity for their actions and for improving their own lives and circumstances, and I would say the same were the tables turned. I also pointed out that these women are NOT innocent victims.

Okay, you don't get my point. You think I'm sitting here thinking, oh, poor babies, the women should get off scot free. Uh uh. Do the crime, do the time. I'm just saying, good for you sister. Ever see the Cell Block Tango in Chicago? One of my favorite pieces, and my favorite lines from it:

"Now, I'm standing in the kitchen
carvin' up the chicken for dinner,
minding my own business,
and in storms my husband Wilbur,
in a jealous rage.
"You been screwin' the milkman,"
he says. He was crazy
and he kept screamin',
"you been screwin the milkman."
And then he ran into my knife.
He ran into my knife ten times.."

I've always thought if more men, as a whole, had a little more respect for women, thought that maybe they were more formidable, a physical force to reckon with, then MAYBE they might not shit on them quite so much. Not saying that's true, but one thing men understand better than compassion or empathy, is fear, that's how most of them operate. It's the nature of the beast. Everything in the world, for a lot of them, comes down to who controls the fear and who has the power; it's how business rises and falls, it's the heart of sports, and it's how they try to control their relationships. I'm not saying all men, not by a long shot, but enough that the bullshit still continues. Women didn't start it, women don't perpetuate it, but since we're smaller, weaker, and have less testosterone, we get carried along in the tide.

As for genital mutilation, get over it. They only made female genital mutilation illegal in Muslim countries this year. There you go again, women mutilating genitals, doing it to their own daughters, no less ... ONLY to make the men happy. No anesthetic, pain, infection, maybe death, for what? To guarantee virginity and to maintain control.

If you are not seeing it by now, I have denounced violence and cruetly accross the board, and I have not made exceptions for either gender.

I raised my concern about a seeming double standard on how more than just few and insignificant women react to cases such as these two and the John Bobbit case for example vs when a man does something similar. I also attempted to bring focus to the question of what women think should happen in cases such as these two and what would bring justice in comparision to genital mutilation of women by men.

I have also pointed out that violence directed mutilating person's genitalia is heinous, twisted, cruel, and the product of an unhealthy mental state, and this mutilaiton can be and is perpetrated by both women and men. I really think we agree on this point, but that setiment got lost in the energy of your post.

Let's talk about genitalia. I've read some of your posts, particularly more than a few on BTS. For someone who tries to take the moral high road you have NO problem with rolling around in the gutter with the rest of the low brows. Looking at your posts, overall, there are hints of hypocrisy and condescension. There's a part of you that does not like women, buddy. Love them maybe, lust after them certainly ... but there is a part of you that hates them just because they have that precious pussy, too.

I also raised the question of why violence and mutilation of these men's genitalia if only revenge or self defense was the motive. As captian Ahab once said,"a little lower layer....."

You were what, a college lit. major or minor? Shakespear, the best loved plagiarist of all time (nobody thinks of that shit, though, the guy never had an original thought in his entire life); Ahab, the guy who used God to justify an arrogant obsession? Interesting choices ... gimme a break

Please do not twist my words or imply commentary and positions that I did not even venture into. Obviously you have strong feelings on this subject, and this has touched on a sensitive and volitile area for you. So much so that you missed the points that i have raisedand failed to consider the questions that I have raised relative to these two scenarios.

The first intelligent observation you've made.

I don't care how long you've worked the hotline in a domestic abuse call center, I grew up in a household where daddy beat the shit out of my mother and would slap me upside the head or bounce my head against a wall, or scream at me until I was sobbing and shaking. His way of dealing with mistakes you made, when he was in the wrong mood (I'm talking, dropped a glass of milk, applied the brakes to hard to the car, got bad grades), was to punch me in the head. Makes a really cool sound, this really solid ringing, and you know your eyeballs shake for a few seconds there?

You want a picture of DV?!? Here's a slice of what my reality was for 16 years: My father was 6'2" and weighed about 265. My mother was 5'7" and maybe weighed 150. When I was 9 years old my parents got into an argument and then things got too quiet. I look and see my father, standing on my mother's back, and stomping her head. This is not toe tapping, this is STOMPING. I was 9 years old. I had to make a decision to do SOMETHING to hurtmy father to save the life of my mother, RIGHT THEN. Because there wasn’t 911 in 1974, and even though I was 9 I knew that if something didn’t stop him she was gonna die. What were you thinking about when you were 9? Long story short, I took a running shot with a push broom and knocked my father off of my mother, and to this day I remember trying to decide if I should use the wide part, the head, or the handle to do the job.

I have no sympathy for two types of people: anyone who abuses the weak and anyone who tolerates being abused.

You posted those articles, not because of the genital mutilation factor. I can pull up 1,000s of examples from the past decade alone of men mutilating animals and women and children, and I have cited some of this information, a fact you choose to overlook. This shit goes on day in, day out, world wide. What bothered you was women tearing apart men's privates, nothing more. It taps into something primal in you.

The hypocrisy and selective blindness of people like you are half of what perpetuate oppressive situations to begin with. Your right hand is absolutely clueless what your left hand does. And you don’t even see it.

What you may do IRL and what you feel in your heart are NOT the same thing. Lie to anyone else on this planet, continue to lie to yourself as you already do, but you would NOT be making some of the comments you have if you truly respected women as equals.

Take your statistical analysis and answer one simple question: How many men commit crimes of violence against women and children worldwide on a yearly basis? Now how many women commit crimes of violence against men and children on a yearly basis? The numbers aren't even close.

You're just all upset by soft, sweet, malleable, nurturing women turning in harpies and going after your precious goods and scared to death to meet one of these harridans

The fact is, crimes of passion rank extremely low on the violence scale. They are generally not planned, you blow your cork and then you react. People do not plan to rip testicles off with their bare hands and attempt to swallow them -- if you were going to plan an act like that it would be far easier to be prepared to cut them off with kitchen shears and mash them with a mallet, IMO.

Do yourself a favor, buy a lead lined codpiece and back off. I've read enough of your posts to see a consistently patronizing tone when it comes to your opinion of women. You don’t know what you’re talking about, you get your information from books. Like the one person I met who worked for Children Services, had been married for a few years and I asked him how many kids he and his wife had and he said, “Oh none, we don’t want any.” Right up there with a priest giving marital advice. Until daddy bounces YOUR head off the wall, or holds a gun to YOUR mother's head, don't ever tell me about domestic violence or what it's like to live with it, or how it shapes your life or your perceptions of the world.