Need some help with my wife

[Pure Drama]

Hello ladies, I'm new to EF, I've been working out off and on for around 7 years but going strong for the past 2. Well here's my delimma, I love fitness and everything about it but my wife doesn't really understand. How can I get to understand and get her to get into it also. We have a 4 year old daughter and my wife's body is still looking good, she says she needs to improve but doesn't really want to go to the gym. She has so much potential if she would apply herself she could have the body of a fitness model. How can I get her interested in working out and eating proper? Please help.

 

[zedhed]

Hey bro, show her a pic of Mrs. P and then show her a pic of Rosy O Donnel. Her choice???

 

[Mrs_P]

Hey bro, show her a pic of Mrs. P and then show her a pic of Rosy O Donnel. Her choice???

You are too funny Zedhed, you are way too kind with me, .. Thanks

 

[Mrs_P]

Hello ladies, I'm new to EF, I've been working out off and on for around 7 years but going strong for the past 2. Well here's my delimma, I love fitness and everything about it but my wife doesn't really understand. How can I get to understand and get her to get into it also. We have a 4 year old daughter and my wife's body is still looking good, she says she needs to improve but doesn't really want to go to the gym. She has so much potential if she would apply herself she could have the body of a fitness model. How can I get her interested in working out and eating proper? Please help.

Welcome,

It's great that you are into Fitness & a healther lifestyle, it could be hard when your spouse is not as enthusiastic about it. It could be tricky how you approach this, women can be overly sensitve when it comes to diet/excercise advise from their spouse. I suggest you start by talking to her about how good your feeling & about the positive impact being healthy has had on you.

If she's not used to excersicing or eating healthy the changes she has to make will take some time, but is never too late. Praise her & tell her how u think even thou she looks great she would benefit from working out & eating healthier.. maybe u guys can do some fun outdoor activities together like bicycling, rollerblading, hiking, anything that u both enjoy. O lot of times we get used to a sedentary lifestyle & we get comfortable & think that we could never change our habits, I think if she finds somethig she enjoys it will be easier to get her to try other things.
You can both join a gym that has childcare & u can take that time together & excercise & talk & reconnect, trust me even if she's not too trilled about the gym, she's gonna wan to spend some adult time with u.

Once she starts moving & seeing results she's gonna want to make changes in her diet, u can even cook a few times a week, which she will appreciate & cook healthy alternatives to what she's normally used to eating.

You can try all this, but remember the choice is hers, and no one can make another person change (IMO) unless that other person wants to change. She might be content with the way she looks, not everyone wants to look like a "fitness model", she might really be happy with how she looks, if that's the case then your gonna have to accept her the way she is & make the best of your relantionship.

Good luck to u both

 

[Pure Drama]

Thanks Mrs_P, she does want to get into fitness she just lacks the motivation. She is already slim she says she wants to tone up so she started doing yoga a while back then stopped, I say fitness model because that's what she is always looking at saying I wish I looked like that, I love her no matter what, just want her to know she can make a change.

 

[trex74]

Thanks Mrs_P, she does want to get into fitness she just lacks the motivation. She is already slim she says she wants to tone up so she started doing yoga a while back then stopped, I say fitness model because that's what she is always looking at saying I wish I looked like that, I love her no matter what, just want her to know she can make a change.

Hi, what sports does she like? Maybe suggest she sign up to do a sport once a week. Like dance class, volleyball, basketball, skating, ultimate frisbee, whatever, just something that is fun, not a chore. It's amazing how that can boost your energy and improve your life in other areas. Yoga is relaxing, but it is not a sport that gets the blood moving, and there is not much tolerance for hilarity in that kind of room. She needs to enjoy herself and play.

 

[Pure Drama]

She enjoys bike riding but hasn't been doing it lately, should I just sit down and talk to her about. I just don't want to come off as being a jerk by bringing it up.

 

[trex74]

Why don't you go for a bike ride together? That's a great way to be active. Can someone watch your daughter for a couple hours while you guys go?

 

[Pure Drama]

That's the only problem, it's hard for us to do stuff together because we really don't have anyone to watch her rite now. She should be starting soon, maybe we will be able to do it then, I suggested we join a gym with a child care and she seemed interested, I wouldn't have any problem bringing her with me. Thank you for helping with my dilemma trex74.

 

[trex74]

That's the only problem, it's hard for us to do stuff together because we really don't have anyone to watch her rite now. She should be starting soon, maybe we will be able to do it then, I suggested we join a gym with a child care and she seemed interested, I wouldn't have any problem bringing her with me. Thank you for helping with my dilemma trex74.

My pleasure, good luck to the both of you. My friend goes to a gym with child care and she loves it.

 

[Rebecca D]

My husband motivated me by turning working out into something we did together. I lifted weights with him and he would actually do stepbox class with me. (remember those). When we had kids we would put them in the jogging stroller at least three days a week and go walking. They also make a buggy for kids you can pull with a bike. Whatever you do, make it enjoyable for her...especially at first.

Rebecca D

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

Hello ladies, I'm new to EF, I've been working out off and on for around 7 years but going strong for the past 2. Well here's my delimma, I love fitness and everything about it but my wife doesn't really understand. How can I get to understand and get her to get into it also. We have a 4 year old daughter and my wife's body is still looking good, she says she needs to improve but doesn't really want to go to the gym. She has so much potential if she would apply herself she could have the body of a fitness model. How can I get her interested in working out and eating proper? Please help.

do you really truly want your wife to look like a fitness model?

Well, heres a diet to get started-

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/w...lding-training/fitness-model-diet-358559.html

Think you will be dining out alot? not on a fitness diet.

Think she will have a cocktail or some wine once in awhile? nope

Howabout watching every calorie, counting every gram of protein/carbs/fat & weighing every food? Yup!!

Not to mention the endless hours of cardio (morning before breakfast & evening) with weight-training on practically no carbs, spending a small fortune on protein powders, fat-burners & other must-have suppliments.

You should really think about it if you want your wife to look like a fitness model! its a big commitment & a huge sacrifice. Fitness models are in the gym 5-6 days a wk, 2 hours a day. Not be mean, but do you really want that?

 

[Pure Drama]

Just want to thank you all for your replies, it probably sounds bad that I said my wife could be a fitness model just wanted to say that I used that as an example because that's the women she looks at and says she would want to look like that. But I can't lie, if she wanted to do that I would love it because I would push myself harder and it wouldn't be no problem having a diet that would be on point.

 

[all4fitness]

Hey, I had a very similar situation with my girlfriend. Shes very slim and petite and never really had to work hard to look good. She used to be a pro ballroom dancer and when she no longer competed on that level she lost her definition. She was contently saying how she wanted to tone up, but when it came down to it she never found enough motivation to go to the gym with me. So I decided to get her active at home. A couple months ago I found this awesome set it's called the Bolt Pack, I purchased it on amazon. I didn't say I bought it for her but for us! And when I started using it at home I got her to try. The first few times she was hesitant, but because the device is so simple to use and assists her with the workout she really got into it. And now uses it on a daily basis. It also comes with a digital jump rope which is a great form of cardio and since you mentioned you have a child she could easily use it to also play with them. All and all I'm really glad I bought this set. She herself can't believe how amazing and easy it is to exercise. And now shes becoming more active overall. Hope this helps!