Need some help with my wife

[Pure Drama]

Hello ladies, I'm new to EF, I've been working out off and on for around 7 years but going strong for the past 2. Well here's my delimma, I love fitness and everything about it but my wife doesn't really understand. How can I get to understand and get her to get into it also. We have a 4 year old daughter and my wife's body is still looking good, she says she needs to improve but doesn't really want to go to the gym. She has so much potential if she would apply herself she could have the body of a fitness model. How can I get her interested in working out and eating proper? Please help.

 

[zedhed]

Hey bro, show her a pic of Mrs. P and then show her a pic of Rosy O Donnel. Her choice???

 

[Mrs_P]

Hey bro, show her a pic of Mrs. P and then show her a pic of Rosy O Donnel. Her choice???

You are too funny Zedhed, you are way too kind with me, .. Thanks

 

[Mrs_P]

Hello ladies, I'm new to EF, I've been working out off and on for around 7 years but going strong for the past 2. Well here's my delimma, I love fitness and everything about it but my wife doesn't really understand. How can I get to understand and get her to get into it also. We have a 4 year old daughter and my wife's body is still looking good, she says she needs to improve but doesn't really want to go to the gym. She has so much potential if she would apply herself she could have the body of a fitness model. How can I get her interested in working out and eating proper? Please help.

Welcome,

It's great that you are into Fitness & a healther lifestyle, it could be hard when your spouse is not as enthusiastic about it. It could be tricky how you approach this, women can be overly sensitve when it comes to diet/excercise advise from their spouse. I suggest you start by talking to her about how good your feeling & about the positive impact being healthy has had on you.

If she's not used to excersicing or eating healthy the changes she has to make will take some time, but is never too late. Praise her & tell her how u think even thou she looks great she would benefit from working out & eating healthier.. maybe u guys can do some fun outdoor activities together like bicycling, rollerblading, hiking, anything that u both enjoy. O lot of times we get used to a sedentary lifestyle & we get comfortable & think that we could never change our habits, I think if she finds somethig she enjoys it will be easier to get her to try other things.
You can both join a gym that has childcare & u can take that time together & excercise & talk & reconnect, trust me even if she's not too trilled about the gym, she's gonna wan to spend some adult time with u.

Once she starts moving & seeing results she's gonna want to make changes in her diet, u can even cook a few times a week, which she will appreciate & cook healthy alternatives to what she's normally used to eating.

You can try all this, but remember the choice is hers, and no one can make another person change (IMO) unless that other person wants to change. She might be content with the way she looks, not everyone wants to look like a "fitness model", she might really be happy with how she looks, if that's the case then your gonna have to accept her the way she is & make the best of your relantionship.

Good luck to u both

 

[Pure Drama]

Thanks Mrs_P, she does want to get into fitness she just lacks the motivation. She is already slim she says she wants to tone up so she started doing yoga a while back then stopped, I say fitness model because that's what she is always looking at saying I wish I looked like that, I love her no matter what, just want her to know she can make a change.

 

[trex74]

Thanks Mrs_P, she does want to get into fitness she just lacks the motivation. She is already slim she says she wants to tone up so she started doing yoga a while back then stopped, I say fitness model because that's what she is always looking at saying I wish I looked like that, I love her no matter what, just want her to know she can make a change.

Hi, what sports does she like? Maybe suggest she sign up to do a sport once a week. Like dance class, volleyball, basketball, skating, ultimate frisbee, whatever, just something that is fun, not a chore. It's amazing how that can boost your energy and improve your life in other areas. Yoga is relaxing, but it is not a sport that gets the blood moving, and there is not much tolerance for hilarity in that kind of room. She needs to enjoy herself and play.

 

[Pure Drama]

She enjoys bike riding but hasn't been doing it lately, should I just sit down and talk to her about. I just don't want to come off as being a jerk by bringing it up.

 

[trex74]

Why don't you go for a bike ride together? That's a great way to be active. Can someone watch your daughter for a couple hours while you guys go?

 

[Pure Drama]

That's the only problem, it's hard for us to do stuff together because we really don't have anyone to watch her rite now. She should be starting soon, maybe we will be able to do it then, I suggested we join a gym with a child care and she seemed interested, I wouldn't have any problem bringing her with me. Thank you for helping with my dilemma trex74.

 

[trex74]

That's the only problem, it's hard for us to do stuff together because we really don't have anyone to watch her rite now. She should be starting soon, maybe we will be able to do it then, I suggested we join a gym with a child care and she seemed interested, I wouldn't have any problem bringing her with me. Thank you for helping with my dilemma trex74.

My pleasure, good luck to the both of you. My friend goes to a gym with child care and she loves it.