Need some advice..please answer

[woollis2]

Okay...I'll try to make this short. I must warn you....I'm very insecure with this.....

If you have read some of my recent posts, you know I'm going through a divorce...k? K. Well, I have this new man in my life, he's absolutely great. He's been divorced for 3 years (and he has an absolutely adorable 8 yr old daughter I might add). We've been taking it slow...he has stayed at my apartment a couple of times and I stayed at his house for a short period before I went to work (we fell asleep on his couch). We have teased each other, etc. But we haven't actually fucked. He don't want to move fast or push me away or scare me or whatever.

SO....here's my question. I want a way to rock his world the first time we have sex. I want to make him remember it. Just in case his exwife was the best he ever had.....I want to make their sex seem like a walk in the park compared to me. Don't get me wrong, I have NEVER had any complaints, but call me insecure I guess. I just don't want any of that first time with a person awkwardness (ya know....you don't give it your all sometimes because it's all new type of think...catch my drift?). Give me some tips or things to do to him that would make any of his past partners seem like cake compared to me.

Is it too obvious that I'm insecure and nervous????

 

[wiseguy1]

I have NEVER had any complaints

Since you said that you have never had any complaints why not do the samething that you did with other guys. If your teasing him and taking it slow this guy probably has a major hard on for you so just about anything would work. The sex in a new relationship is always good I don't think you have much to worry about hes probably thinking the samething about you.

 

[woollis2]

wiseguy...thanks for the confidence...sex is good in a new relationship, but it can be a very nerve-racking thing. your're trying to make everything perfect (let's face it....it's not always perfect) and you're trying to do your best....i'm very nervous...okay....i've never felt this nervous before...EVER!!! i'm 25 yrs old and i'm nervous? good lord! the anticipation is so overwhelming also. it's great! he's on the road (trucking...he really wants to stop...to have a normal life...to see his daughter more often...so we can spend time together...etc.) so it's like this big MAJOR EVENT that is going to happen soon...like this next weekend probably if everything goes right with his loading schedule....and i'm like AAGHHHH! NERVOUS.....what does this say...me being this nervous? anyway....enough rambling...

but again, thank you for your reply.

 

[katz]

Don't worry he will be nervous too. Don't think about his x. think about his voice, smell, hands, breath. There are tooo many other things to think about.

 

[needsize]

Just show him how much you want him by being an active participant and taking the time to pay attention to his body. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a woman that acts like you should feel privelged just to be having sex with her; nothing is a bigger turn on than a woman who shows that she wants you as bad as you want her, and is obviously enjoying it just as much.
Nothing fancy is needed.

 

[Cindy99]

i think just the opposite is true. just lie there and let him do all the work, then he'll realize that you're too good for him, and he'll try harder and harder to please you....

seriously, the fact that you're concerned about it means you'll be great - its all about attentiveness.

and i bet he's even more concerned than you are and he's wondering what he can do to make you have the time of your life, so remember to pretend you are having the time of your life, even if you're not. guys are really gullible (see posts re: penis size, cumming multiple times, bench press, anything on this board really), they'll believe whatever you say, so tell him he's the best, the biggest, etc., in other words, STROKE HIS EGO AND HIS PENIS, AND YOU'LL BE FINE!

 

[the nature boy]

get a porno and mabye you'll pick up some tricks.

However I'm sure you'll rock his world anyway. You've been taking it slow and I'm sure he respects that...... but we're talking about a man here. men like sex. and like cindy said we're gullible. I'm sure you'll have a good time. Try and relax, if you're too nervous you won't be able to enjoy it 100%.

 

[woollis2]

Thanks guys for all the responses. I've dated alot of guys, had one night stands, and had 3 serious relationships (that I knew from the beginning weren't going to work...long story..) and I've never been so nervous. Maybe this means I really care about him. Okay...let's face it....I've fallen for him... and from what my best friend (he's male) and my other close friend said (he's male) he might have actually fallen for me too. They would never lie to me or tell me things to make me feel better...believe me...they've told me before if I didn't want to hear it. My best friend said he'd bet his truck that he's fallen for me (his truck is his baby and it's worth 30,000 dollars) and he's 99.9% sure. My other friend said the same thing.

I'm sure I'll be okay...once I feel his touch, smell his great smelling body, see his sexy face, and feel him close to me again...all that nervousness will disappear.

I can't wait. I'll let you guys know how it goes.

Thanks again for your replies.

 

[woollis2]

OMG! It was great. The best I've ever had. That's no joke!!!! He is the only guy that has ever found my G-spot, he is the only one that has about done anything right!!!!! He loves to cuddle afterwards (I know...mushy to some of you...but I love it). I spent 5 days with him until he had to go back on the truck. I will see him again this weekend. I got to meet his daughter. She is an absolute doll. She wore me out playing barbies.

But as far as being nervous....I am no longer nervous. It WAS AMAZING. NO WORDS CAN DESCRIBE WHAT HAPPENED OR EITHER OF US FELT!! And the best thing...the two things that turned me on the most....he actually cared to TRY and please me...AND...he is vocal, especially when he comes. OMG. That is all it takes. I don't like it when all guys do is just breath hard. It's so fucking amazing.....I'm getting horny just thinking about it.

I CAN'T DESCRIBE IT AT ALL........HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!!!!!!!!!

I'm glad that I met such a great guy. We have alot in common. And I'm glad that the sex is great.

 

[the nature boy]

isn't it nice when you really feel for someone when you have sex with them. I forgot what that's like, which is too bad.