need legal advice kind of!! Help!

[EnderJE]

What's best for the kid? Should you fight it or just let it go?

 

[Sub-Zero]

This is difficult for you, but you need to consider the likelyhood of the childs well being in a loving, intact, two parent home. As opposed to you fighting them in a protracted legal battle and thereby causing damage/confusion to your child. Just from the information youve given here youve only been in the childs life for 5 months, which means the mother could pick up and start over with someone else which would greatly benefit the child to have a two parent household with a mother and father. Since it was only 5 months the child wont ever remember who you were anyhow.
One more thing that I know is tough to think about is that any man that is willing to adopt someone else's child in order to make a family work has top notch character and has the childs and mothers best interests in mind.
Some things shouldnt be messed with and this is probably one of them bro. My vote would be to terminate your parental rights.
The damage and confusion to the child would far outweigh the emotional benefit you would receive from any sort of parental custody and contact.

preciesely

 

[Buddy_Christ]

he cant adopt your son without the courts terminating your parental rights first. you must be notified by the courts of the proceedings. they have to have grounds for termination. i would fight her.

What she said.

On top of that, fight to get back into this child's life. There's no reason that the guy she plans on marrying can't be a part of your son's life, but you can still be involved as well.

He's only 2, and if you get into his life again now, he'll never know that you were absent from it before. Trust me on this one, I know for a fact, as my dad legally adopted me when I was 2 and I never knew until he finally told me many years later.

I would NEVER give up the rights to my child, ever.

 

[slat1]

I don't envy your situation

 

[nutsnack]

I was doing rec drugs at the time and i quit.. i was 18 years old at the time i was VERY immature and i've grown up.. the reason i've waited a yaer and a half was b/c it was IMPOSSIBLE to get ahold of her she ran and hid from me and i did everything in my power to find her and when i did she tells me she's engaged.. obviously you guys that are saying forget it do not have kids.. i understand it will be hard on the kid going through a parental struggle but how hard is it going to be on him when he's 10 or so years old and is told "so and so isn't your real dad.. ure real dad is a pussy and wouldn't fight to see you"

I do no drugs now and rarely ever drink.. i have matured a lot since then and there is no way a court could label me as an unfit parent so the only way she could make him the legal guardian is to make me get labeled as an unfit parent?

 

[Smurfy]

you need to fight.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I was doing rec drugs at the time and i quit.. i was 18 years old at the time i was VERY immature and i've grown up.. the reason i've waited a yaer and a half was b/c it was IMPOSSIBLE to get ahold of her she ran and hid from me and i did everything in my power to find her and when i did she tells me she's engaged.. obviously you guys that are saying forget it do not have kids.. i understand it will be hard on the kid going through a parental struggle but how hard is it going to be on him when he's 10 or so years old and is told "so and so isn't your real dad.. ure real dad is a pussy and wouldn't fight to see you"

I do no drugs now and rarely ever drink.. i have matured a lot since then and there is no way a court could label me as an unfit parent so the only way she could make him the legal guardian is to make me get labeled as an unfit parent?

fight then.

 

[Daisy_]

The court is definatly going to bring up why didnt you do anything for a year and a half, and you are going to say what?
i would fight too, but dood you need to be trying a bit harder all of the time, not just when you find out he is being adopted by another man. I know you said that you searched and searched. How did you end up finding her? Was she really hiding from you? I am not conflicting with what you are saying I just want to get some more facts.
also are you willing to move to Florida? How far are you from floida?