need ideas

[markshark]

been with my gf for over a year. things are going good but im trying to think of new ways to surprise her. i send flowers to her work and just planned a weekend vacation for us in the poconos but im trying to think of something that isnt real expensive that will spark her emotionally and sexually for me. i want to keep this relationship alive. im open for any ideas that anyone could think of.

 

[DJ_UFO]

Go to Macy's or JC Penny. Specially JC Penny always have good deals on jewelry. Get something simple for her like a nice necklace or bracelet or a ring; you know what she prefer, and you know what she likes. Hide it somewhere in the house (if yall live together) and let a note for her to find it. Put it over a small simple card with the right words.

 

[drwost]

Leave notes with clues that will lead her to the next clue all over the house..and eventually to some jewlery or lingerie with a bottle of champagne and some hot body lotion...or just meet at the door naked with a 6 pack!

Get a nice hotel room, order a "couples massage" and after the massage people leave...

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

OK bro here are my 2 cents. You don't need to be always buying her stuff and planning secret getaways and being overly creative to keep a relationship alive. Those things are much more effective in moderation and when they are not expected. It's like I tell my baseball players - "try easier". Sometimes we can try so hard that it backfires and in this case, even though your intentions are great, you can make a girl feel smothered. If you want your relationship to thrive and last the number one piece of advice I can give is to have fun together. If you want to "spark her sexually and emotionally" be an honest guy. Women love honest bro, believe me. The fact is that guys lie, it's just in the DNA. If you're honest, you'll be the rare exception. The second piece of advice bro is this. Women are very intuitive. It scares the living shit out of me. They know our intentions even more than we do. If you send a girl flowers or give her diamonds because you're hoping that it will make her want you more and are hoping she's going to fuck your brains out the next time she sees you she'll know that's why you did it. My experience is that although women like these things, they love thoughtful gestures that have no alterior motive way more. Pick your moments. Give her a massage after she's had a shitty day and then DO NOT try to fuck her later that night unless she comes on to you first. Ask her if she wants to meet you at the park on her lunch break for lunch - the key to this one is again to try easier. Don't try to plan some crazy elaborate lunch that's all gimmicky and uncomfortable. Just pick up something from the deli and have a good time hanging out. Overall bro, just try not to come across as a desperate guy that's always trying to come up with a way to keep her.

 

[advanced-stealth]

bluetwistedsteel67 very good post.

 

[markshark]

OK bro here are my 2 cents. You don't need to be always buying her stuff and planning secret getaways and being overly creative to keep a relationship alive. Those things are much more effective in moderation and when they are not expected. It's like I tell my baseball players - "try easier". Sometimes we can try so hard that it backfires and in this case, even though your intentions are great, you can make a girl feel smothered. If you want your relationship to thrive and last the number one piece of advice I can give is to have fun together. If you want to "spark her sexually and emotionally" be an honest guy. Women love honest bro, believe me. The fact is that guys lie, it's just in the DNA. If you're honest, you'll be the rare exception. The second piece of advice bro is this. Women are very intuitive. It scares the living shit out of me. They know our intentions even more than we do. If you send a girl flowers or give her diamonds because you're hoping that it will make her want you more and are hoping she's going to fuck your brains out the next time she sees you she'll know that's why you did it. My experience is that although women like these things, they love thoughtful gestures that have no alterior motive way more. Pick your moments. Give her a massage after she's had a shitty day and then DO NOT try to fuck her later that night unless she comes on to you first. Ask her if she wants to meet you at the park on her lunch break for lunch - the key to this one is again to try easier. Don't try to plan some crazy elaborate lunch that's all gimmicky and uncomfortable. Just pick up something from the deli and have a good time hanging out. Overall bro, just try not to come across as a desperate guy that's always trying to come up with a way to keep her.

yeah it seems like thats what i have a problem with. i needed to see someone say that/