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Any of you guys have times in your life when you feel things are not going the way you want with the people in your life.
My aas boys. Lets hear it
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Yo needto. Haven't been on here in a few years. I see you really came up thought, that's what's up! Everything good bor? I'll only complain about getting laid off like a month ago and having shoulder surgery early this year!
needtogetaas
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Well holy shit bro. Its been a wile since I seen you bro. You sure our a sight for sore eyes ain't ya.
How you been man? Hell I been ok I guess. I got no huge complaints. The boy's and girls here on ef have been nothing bu the best to me. We all share love all the time around here.
Few close people in my life have always held me back but that is always to be expected in life right. I mean we all have our vises right.
Tell me how you been bro.
perryscoon
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Yep, I have a girlfriend that couldn't care less that I am a bodybuilder and it really bothers me. She doens't work out at all and doesn't acknowledge my hard work at all. I want a girl that appreciates it. After all, I bust my ass in the gym 4-5 days a week to look this way. I feel I deserve it.
Nope, I don't allow people in my life that are "acidic" just the way I live. I don't have lots and lots of friends that i have to commit time to, my family is most important. My kids are older with kids of their own, and that's fine with me. The friends i have are all good people, give you the shirt off their back and don't talk crap about people. They are willing to take and give advice and never have a discouraging word..
Sorry, but thats just the way it is.. and in business, i don't do business with people i don't like at any price..
But it takes a lot of life to get to that point to be able to do that..
Sorry, but thats just the way it is.. and in business, i don't do business with people i don't like at any price..
But it takes a lot of life to get to that point to be able to do that..
I hear that dude. I been pretty good. Got me a good gf now, about 3 years. I'm even starting to get my build back after my surgery. Muscle memory for the win!!
Don't let them folks hold you back bor, just use them as motivation to keep improving Needto! I'm so happy to be back "home"! Them other sites suck lol.
RADAR
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I agree 100% I deal with the public and i can tell you there will always be some people you will never please i try to go the extra mile after all that fails,i tell them to go to hell!
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needtogetaas
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LMAO true story. Wife tells me daily she could care less if I go to the gym or not. She could give a fuck less what I look like and this is not what she cares about.
So I stop going to the gym ( not stop but stop going as much) and now She is telling her friends, people at the stores we reg go to and everything that ( Well I am pissed. He only goes to the gym 1-2 times a week now). Lol for some one who swears to god she don't care she sure tells a lot of people about it when I am not working my ass off in the gym
perryscoon
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One of the hardest parts of life is learning how to ignore people that try to interfere with your dreams. I have gotten much better at it over the years but its still tough. You really have to be a selfish bastard and shut people out in order to achieve success it seems.
it sucks but that is the truth. Just put your energy on the people who put their positive energy on you. Ignore all others.
hey needto sounds like your hurting bro....let it out if you think it will help but remember what you say in cyber world never goes away and can be held against you later in court..lol...trust me i know....but thats another story. Man i will say i know several people that work hard but your are right up there....brother you hustle to make your business top notch and although it might not seem like it is noticed...but it is...trust me this country boy from Tennessee is glad to cal you friend.
Agreed. I used to live on this site (as Needto knows) and I just came back on here and was SHOCKED at how much work he put into his new line of products. Incredible and I'm very impressed and proud to have known him before all this. Needto was always a little crazy but that's why we love him haha.
my wife is 100% ok with all that i do but its not important to her in any way. its my hobby/obsession/dream and thats it. she actually thinks the verry large size looks gross but deals with it. she also tells me that my big legs make my dick look smaller lol.
i know myself that this does not pay the bills or contribute to my family in any way. its what i do for myself and it consumes a lot of time.
i know myself that this does not pay the bills or contribute to my family in any way. its what i do for myself and it consumes a lot of time.
If it contributes to you being a happier person, it helps the family bro. Don't forget that. If my significant other had an issue with what I do, she'd have to be gone. She would be trying to make me someone I'm not and that's not good.
centeroiler
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Without it trying to sound like a cliche, woman can be very cold towards a man's ego. They either don't think before they speak or they could sometimes care less that their words hurt you. I think they think we men are machines without feelings sometimes. I'm with you guys in that I have a girl that absolutely refuses to acknowledge my transformation and goes out of her way to poo-poo on everything I do to improve my physique. I also bet she would be all over it to our friends if I allowed myself to get fat again and stopped working out. It really hurts sometimes. Have you explained how much it bothers you?
I'm a lot older than you and probably have quite a bit more experience with this, so I've learned to deal with it. You've always been there to help me so I'm always around for advice if you want to PM me. Chin up, not out bro.
I'm a lot older than you and probably have quite a bit more experience with this, so I've learned to deal with it. You've always been there to help me so I'm always around for advice if you want to PM me. Chin up, not out bro.
All the time bro...life throws a lot of curve balls at you when you least expect it.
abomb555
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Stryker1992
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Bro, you have no idea the bullshit I am going through right now! Unreal, I laughed when I saw this post. I just went, huh, I am not the only one!
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bluetoolpaul
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I feel you man. You can't make everybody happy all the time. Make more money, get in better shape, work harder, spend more time w/ the family. Sometimes a person's expectations of us are quite unrealistic. If you're investing a shitload of time to become financially secure your workouts are eventually going to suffer b/c you can't keep burning the candle at both ends. Some people want the world and no matter what you do keep wanting more. Not only that but when a chick says something about your physique it hits you like a brick. All bodybuilders are hyper-sensitive about it. It's like telling a chick she needs implants or could stand to lose a few pds....never a good situation.
needtogetaas
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Radar I know you are a true friend man. You been with me from day one. I have been more then happy to turn around and support you they way you were there for me.
You are just one of the thousands of reasons that prove karma comes back around. This is why I love you so much.
needtogetaas
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Joe man I was worried about you the other day. Made a thread about you if you did not see it. I was wondering what happen to you. Good to see you are still with us. I hope you stay with us for years to come.
needtogetaas
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This is a huge problem for me. I can not be this way. I have to share me life with people and I have to care about people. I just have to. Its who I am.
needtogetaas
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O I know my friend. I know. I live the open book though and that has made me who I am. I trust the people around me. I trust the people I help to turn and help me. If i can not do that then what do I do it all for.
needtogetaas
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LMAo yes I was crazy and always will be. Yup you were here for the early needto days and I am glad you support me in the ventures I am in now. You are a good bro.
needtogetaas
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HA HA good shit man good shit. Glad to know my boys are in the trenches with me.
ConanX
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It's funny but I have been very down lately myself over some of these same issues. Both my girl and my family don't give 2 shits about my bodybuilding. I mean, I went from just under a measly buck 80 to 200lbs with under 8% bodyfat.
At first I was like around 188lbs and had around 15% bodyfat. Not too great. Decent build but nothing special. My girl would make me feel like shit because her ex-bf was very low bodyfat and she would always bring him up whenever talking about fitness. It made me pissed off so I cut my cals big time, upped cardio, used some ECA and got down below 180 with some abs. Looked very lean but I wasn't happy with myself because I wanted to be big and strong. I felt embarassed around the guys because I used to be a decent size but now I looked like a scrawny beachboy. Even my own mother laughed at me and said I'm not a man.
Well, meanwhile the girl could give a shit less. All that hard work and determination and she didn't care about my abs or the fact that I didn't have an ounce of fat on me. Fuck it. I realized I can't make her happy so I bulk. Get up to 215lbs and feel like a king. But I would hear comments all the time about me being bloated and fat, or whispers of steroids. The girl thought I just pigged out on mcdonalds the past few weeks when I was actually eating very clean and never allowed my bodyfat to get higher than 13%. Some people gave compliments, others just said I was big and looked stupid. My family was disappointed and my dad said that I have to get my abs back and that I look a bit overgrown.
Again...fuck...so I wait my time and then cut like a mofo. Now, at 200lbs and less than 8%bf with an 8 pack and veins coming up my lower abs, striations everwhere, leg seperation, etc etc....nobody says shit! I mean, I really think I look GOOD. My brother who is honest with me is in complete awe and so are a bunch of people in the gym. But outside of that....with the people I really care about...I don't get ANYTHING. I took my girl to the gym with me where she did cardio and I did arms. I made sure I got a sick pump and all the striations and veins came out. I am talking to her and I say "honestly, do I look like I lost any fat to you?" she said "i don't know, you look the same I guess." That killed me. I mean, here I am BUSTING my ass and making sure my diet is down to the T, popping winstrol and taking needles in the ass....and this is what I hear?
I continually figure out that you can't make anybody else happy. People will tear you down no matter what. Even people you love or who love you, for some reason, they just have a way of beating the shit out of you mentally. You have to be strong and know what's best for you. In the end, you have to make yourself happy because if people truly love you, they will accept you for who you are.
Rant over...lol
But Needto, keep it up. You know that you have a great bunch of bros who got your back. You have been putting a lot of dedication into these forums and your products and your support is truly appreciated. You've helped me on numerous occassions, just as I'm sure you have helped countless other bros out there. Keep it up man. It means a lot to us.
At first I was like around 188lbs and had around 15% bodyfat. Not too great. Decent build but nothing special. My girl would make me feel like shit because her ex-bf was very low bodyfat and she would always bring him up whenever talking about fitness. It made me pissed off so I cut my cals big time, upped cardio, used some ECA and got down below 180 with some abs. Looked very lean but I wasn't happy with myself because I wanted to be big and strong. I felt embarassed around the guys because I used to be a decent size but now I looked like a scrawny beachboy. Even my own mother laughed at me and said I'm not a man.
Well, meanwhile the girl could give a shit less. All that hard work and determination and she didn't care about my abs or the fact that I didn't have an ounce of fat on me. Fuck it. I realized I can't make her happy so I bulk. Get up to 215lbs and feel like a king. But I would hear comments all the time about me being bloated and fat, or whispers of steroids. The girl thought I just pigged out on mcdonalds the past few weeks when I was actually eating very clean and never allowed my bodyfat to get higher than 13%. Some people gave compliments, others just said I was big and looked stupid. My family was disappointed and my dad said that I have to get my abs back and that I look a bit overgrown.
Again...fuck...so I wait my time and then cut like a mofo. Now, at 200lbs and less than 8%bf with an 8 pack and veins coming up my lower abs, striations everwhere, leg seperation, etc etc....nobody says shit! I mean, I really think I look GOOD. My brother who is honest with me is in complete awe and so are a bunch of people in the gym. But outside of that....with the people I really care about...I don't get ANYTHING. I took my girl to the gym with me where she did cardio and I did arms. I made sure I got a sick pump and all the striations and veins came out. I am talking to her and I say "honestly, do I look like I lost any fat to you?" she said "i don't know, you look the same I guess." That killed me. I mean, here I am BUSTING my ass and making sure my diet is down to the T, popping winstrol and taking needles in the ass....and this is what I hear?
I continually figure out that you can't make anybody else happy. People will tear you down no matter what. Even people you love or who love you, for some reason, they just have a way of beating the shit out of you mentally. You have to be strong and know what's best for you. In the end, you have to make yourself happy because if people truly love you, they will accept you for who you are.
Rant over...lol
But Needto, keep it up. You know that you have a great bunch of bros who got your back. You have been putting a lot of dedication into these forums and your products and your support is truly appreciated. You've helped me on numerous occassions, just as I'm sure you have helped countless other bros out there. Keep it up man. It means a lot to us.
jacshelb
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Conanx, Dude, that's rough! That's one negative environment to be in. No one I spend time with would act like that. If they do I cut them out. It's either be reasonably kind (as I would be to them) or don't expect me to participate. I just don't have time for that kind of negativity. But, it's tough when it's your family. Still, there have been times when I made no contact with either of my parents and certain other important people because I wanted no part in their behavior. Every situation is different though. All the best!
Needto, I'm with you man on not being able to be super selfish etc. I'm an open book type too and just don't have it in me to be consistently mean or anything like that- I can get there if pushed or when a situation calls for it. But, for the most part I don't want to live like that either. I guess, for me, there becomes a fine line between being kind and "spoiling" someone. If someone is taking advantage of me in any way I have to "pull back" a bit and rethink my approach to the situation.
This is a silly example, but... I have one rental building at the moment, 5 units. One day I was working on this lady's apartment who is consistently rude, abrassive, and demanding. I'm up there checking on the wiring or something and on the way out she just hands me a bag of garbage like, "Here, you take this out!" I calmly looked down at her and said, "I've got other things to do Rita, I'm not your bitch." And, then walked away. I wouldn't have done that with someone nicer, but someone nicer wouldn't have been that rude to me in the first place. If anyone asked for my help I'd gladly give it, but don't bully me or try to manipulate me. That's my take on it. I try to love everyone, but respect is earned!
Needto, I'm with you man on not being able to be super selfish etc. I'm an open book type too and just don't have it in me to be consistently mean or anything like that- I can get there if pushed or when a situation calls for it. But, for the most part I don't want to live like that either. I guess, for me, there becomes a fine line between being kind and "spoiling" someone. If someone is taking advantage of me in any way I have to "pull back" a bit and rethink my approach to the situation.
This is a silly example, but... I have one rental building at the moment, 5 units. One day I was working on this lady's apartment who is consistently rude, abrassive, and demanding. I'm up there checking on the wiring or something and on the way out she just hands me a bag of garbage like, "Here, you take this out!" I calmly looked down at her and said, "I've got other things to do Rita, I'm not your bitch." And, then walked away. I wouldn't have done that with someone nicer, but someone nicer wouldn't have been that rude to me in the first place. If anyone asked for my help I'd gladly give it, but don't bully me or try to manipulate me. That's my take on it. I try to love everyone, but respect is earned!
SOME (not all) gals don't want their man to be TOO happy or contented with life away from them. they somehow think that if their man is happy away from them that they have somehow lost their control/influence over him.
this is also known as "Feminine Logic".
RADAR
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SOME (not all) gals don't want their man to be TOO happy or contented with life away from them. they somehow think that if their man is happy away from them that they have somehow lost their control/influence over him.
this is also known as "Feminine Logic".
I thought you weren't saying nuttin about nuttin?
RADAR
airsmith2k
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i feel you on that one
only on that thread; only on that topic.I thought you weren't saying nuttin about nuttin?
RADAR
79steeler
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Hey Needto we all think your a sexy beast. Thank's for all your help bro, you have helped everyone in this thread so much and so many other as well, I'm sure it's countless. They should give you the Sandow just for all the help you've given others.
I have to say the last six weeks have been a crazy time for me with the heart attack and surgery and all. I have to say that my girl has been the best women I have ever been with throughout it all. If I'm bummed out about being out of the gym and not lifting for the last six weeks she tells me how sexy I look and that she can't tell I've lost size. If I complain about this huge scar running down my chest, she tells me she thinks it's sexy. Kristine has been great to me and I just want to give a shout out to her.
By the way bro's just started lifting again this week. Gonna take it easy and work back up to get my strength and size back. Then blast off once again.
I have to say the last six weeks have been a crazy time for me with the heart attack and surgery and all. I have to say that my girl has been the best women I have ever been with throughout it all. If I'm bummed out about being out of the gym and not lifting for the last six weeks she tells me how sexy I look and that she can't tell I've lost size. If I complain about this huge scar running down my chest, she tells me she thinks it's sexy. Kristine has been great to me and I just want to give a shout out to her.
By the way bro's just started lifting again this week. Gonna take it easy and work back up to get my strength and size back. Then blast off once again.
iron_matt-CB
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so true bro... so trueSOME (not all) gals don't want their man to be TOO happy or contented with life away from them. they somehow think that if their man is happy away from them that they have somehow lost their control/influence over him.
this is also known as "Feminine Logic".
perryscoon
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I'm pretty sure most people don't like bodybuilders, especially girls, but to me its a hell of a lot better then being an unnoticed average guy. Fuck em.
Needto,
Straight from the heart of Sasqatch a man who is a counselor and gifted psychologist people will always try to hold you back based on their fears or jealousy. But truth is, and know this comes from LOVE "NO ONE CAN HOLD YOU BACK BUT YOU!!!" I dont know you that well or your wife for that matter but there is something deeper going on. Communication is key and LOVE is the lock. Communicate in love and find out whats bugging her in return yo will learn what is bugging you and then you can grow together and not apart... I have had both types try to hold me back in life but when I learned only I hold myself back then i was able to move forward. Truth is life is scary so many unknowns... Communicate with her my friend let her know how much you love her and let her know how you feel when she says certain thing. Speak to her like she is a flower I know sounds corny but it will work and I know your a lover. Shoot me a PM would love to chat with ya and help anyway I can.
needtogetaas
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Its all good. I love you bro's like brothers. And of course he woman too. They are over there kicking ass on the woman forum now. You guys should go over and check them out. Got some big guns over there now too.
Ok so here is a good example. I walk into the 4wheel parts store today, been going there for years, and they all know me. One guy says "so steroids whats up?" In my quick whit I reply with "not much crack pipe how are you?" The manager just looks at the guy and laughs. The guy then says in his little kid voice how do you do crack anyway!!!! See people are often so screwed up and they dont even know it. So I leave you with this question what is normal??? LOL there is nothing normal in life....
perryscoon
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Just remember, when people start saying you're on roids, thats a compliment! It means you've accomplished what you asked for. So, to think that you're going to do roids and never have anyone think you are is just unrealistic. Even if all you ever do are winny or var cycles, you may not get huge but you'll be cut, veiny, and unatural looking. You may be able to fool people that don't know any better but once you start taking shit like dbol and tren, even the non-workout folks will begin to notice.
great feeling!needtogetaas
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some one send me a pm ....
LCBUTLER
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I hear that. Here is how I see it: I am many things...father, boyfriend, musician, bodybuilder, and I love all those things...so if my girl says she loves me and I love those things, sooner or later she will realize that she loves those things too.
Just my .02
LC
needtogetaas
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Or she will crush all those things for you like most woman do.
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