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jenscats5
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I have been officially deemed "Unbearable" today by my hubby.....
How have you competitors dealt with it if you've had them??
How have you competitors dealt with it if you've had them??
I'm not a competitor, but I have had my fair share of bitchy days when cutting. Luckily, my husband is the MOST mellow, laid back guy. I can be extremely irrational - esp when I was doing the magazine/commerical thing - I was up one minute and feeling hot, then down and feeling sloppy the next. I learned I just had to step back, tell hubby I needed some alone time, even just in another room. I always made sure to tell him that it wasn't him, I was just feeling bitchy.
If you are feeling bitchy, then it is your responsibility to take ownership of that and tell him "I am sorry, I am just in a foul mood right now." Assuming he didn't do anything - and you are just feeling cranky.
Maybe you need a "time out" - some time NOT together. GO lay down and read a book, take a nap, do some yard work, run errands, do yoga, sit in a sauna, go swimming, etc. Just do your own thing.
If you are feeling bitchy, then it is your responsibility to take ownership of that and tell him "I am sorry, I am just in a foul mood right now." Assuming he didn't do anything - and you are just feeling cranky.
Maybe you need a "time out" - some time NOT together. GO lay down and read a book, take a nap, do some yard work, run errands, do yoga, sit in a sauna, go swimming, etc. Just do your own thing.
i just found out my cousins wife had a baby...its a boy...sorry if thsi is completely off the subject
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jenscats5
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Daisy_Girl said:
I'm trying to do that but he won't leave me alone.....
"Come outside, go for a walk" blah blah blah....I told him to leave me alone, which is when I got the "unbearable" comment....Hmmm, well then, it is his fault. I would tell him, look if I am so fucking unbearable, why do you want to be around me??!??! Then go find a bunny to boil. 
Ooops, sorry Bunny, didn't mean you, lol
Go for a huge power walk .... maybe you'll walk faster than him and then you will get your alone time. SOmetimes working out that aggression helps.
Ooops, sorry Bunny, didn't mean you, lol
Go for a huge power walk .... maybe you'll walk faster than him and then you will get your alone time. SOmetimes working out that aggression helps.
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jenscats5
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Daisy_Girl said:Hmmm, well then, it is his fault. I would tell him, look if I am so fucking unbearable, why do you want to be around me??!??! Then go find a bunny to boil.
Ooops, sorry Bunny, didn't mean you, lol
Go for a huge power walk .... maybe you'll walk faster than him and then you will get your alone time. SOmetimes working out that aggression helps.
I'm watching all my goofy shows on DVR right now.....he finally went outside....ah! peace!
LOL he said he's "walking on eggshells" -- but at least I'm not the only moody person cutting.....bah!
Thanks DG!!
Sassy69
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Give him a heads-up that you are goign to be moody esp on low carb days. He's just trying to help and its not fair that you make his life hell because you are cutting. It takes some amount of communication to just say - look this is a consequence of what I'm doing for competition. And explain to him during those moments the best thing he can do is just give you some space. You don't mean to get snitty or short but the best thing you can do is just be alone and for him to not take it personally. Sort of like when its PMS time and you dont' want to say or do something that makes him feel bad but you are just in that mood and better to let it pass and accommodate it than get worked up about trying to deal w/ it. Those moments might be a good time to let him focus on himself and go play a round of golf - -call it "Me Time" if you want, but its goign to be a big part of your life over the next several weeks and wont' get better. But that's your chocie to do that and not his. And worse, he probably can't relate if he's never been low carbing. But just tellign him to fuck off because you are in a pissy mood doesn't really help him if he doesnt' even understand the source of it all.
Hope that helps
Hope that helps
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jenscats5
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Sassy69 said:Give him a heads-up that you are goign to be moody esp on low carb days. He's just trying to help and its not fair that you make his life hell because you are cutting. It takes some amount of communication to just say - look this is a consequence of what I'm doing for competition. And explain to him during those moments the best thing he can do is just give you some space. You don't mean to get snitty or short but the best thing you can do is just be alone and for him to not take it personally. Sort of like when its PMS time and you dont' want to say or do something that makes him feel bad but you are just in that mood and better to let it pass and accommodate it than get worked up about trying to deal w/ it. Those moments might be a good time to let him focus on himself and go play a round of golf - -call it "Me Time" if you want, but its goign to be a big part of your life over the next several weeks and wont' get better. But that's your chocie to do that and not his. And worse, he probably can't relate if he's never been low carbing. But just tellign him to fuck off because you are in a pissy mood doesn't really help him if he doesnt' even understand the source of it all.
Hope that helps
LOL Well, I didn't say that, but did say "Well just leave me alone then!"
But I'm finding it hard while doing this to relate to others to a certain extent -- cuz I'm finding myself getting irritated at certain things said to me....So I don't really get "upset" till someone says something "stupid" so to speak.
Glad I don't work!!
I agree with Daisy Girl. Get away from him. Men are far too selfish for any of the "this is the way I am today" answers to be of any use. They don't care if that's the way you are when you low carb, they just want it stop. Understanding, for most men, is very lived. You're best bet is avoidance.
jenscats5 said:LOL Well, I didn't say that, but did say "Well just leave me alone then!"
But I'm finding it hard while doing this to relate to others to a certain extent -- cuz I'm finding myself getting irritated at certain things said to me....So I don't really get "upset" till someone says something "stupid" so to speak.
I'm finding this is happening to me as well. I'm doing something pretty strict, and I just don't have patience for certain things anymore. Sometimes the sound of someone's voice sets me off. For the next 2 weeks, I decided to "be alone" (not a shut-in - but "be alone'), until this routine is over (it will keep me focused as well). I'm so close to my goal, I can taste it.
I definitely understand the "not relating to others." My lifestyle and the people I want to be around has completely changed.
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Ulter said:
At the BB show I went to recently I bought myself a Pink Boy-Beater that says "It's all about Me!" and has "me me me me" all over it....LOL
playmatesky
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I know when I was doing major dieting....weeks witout much carbs except lettuce....I was a mean A$$ bitch! OMG! And your especially mean to your loved ones. I would drink green tea. It would give me a little boost. That and Yoga. Even reading can seem hard when you dont have the energy to stay focused but Yoga seemed preety easy and kept me away from anyone I could attack. lol Good luck babygirl!
Yeah I have been ridculous lately myself getting back on the band wagon. I think my testosterone levels are up because I feel like ripping everyones head off again, and my temper is beginning to get out of control, and I can't focus. It's very difficult and I haven't really found anyway to vent my anger yet but to just work-out harder....
MrsJnuts
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I can def. relate to this as the closer I get to my comp. I can't tolerate people and have no patience w/their questions esp, at the gym when I'm trying to work out and always on a time sched. I have my 2 kids in the nursery there, so every min,. I try to use effectively. I'm 10 days out and just want to hibernate, my neighborhood is non-exercising mommies that think I'm nutty anyway.
Sassy69
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Like I said - its part of learning to do competition dieting. Because you are in "training" 24/7, you need to make it work w/ your life in general. Esp for those close to you, you really can't explain it to them if they haven't experienced it - but you can just say listen this is how it is, you don't need to understand it, but this is what I expect will happen and this is how I am plannign to deal with it -- just give me the room to deal w/ it and don't take anythign I say personally because I don't mean it. At work, it gets a little more hairy and esp on your low carb days, you need to be aware of it and maybe just carry a stress ball w/ you all day
playmatesky
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Like I said - its part of learning to do competition dieting. Because you are in "training" 24/7, you need to make it work w/ your life in general. Esp for those close to you, you really can't explain it to them if they haven't experienced it - but you can just say listen this is how it is, you don't need to understand it, but this is what I expect will happen and this is how I am plannign to deal with it -- just give me the room to deal w/ it and don't take anythign I say personally because I don't mean it. At work, it gets a little more hairy and esp on your low carb days, you need to be aware of it and maybe just carry a stress ball w/ you all day
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Sassy,
Sounds like you got the talk down to the T baby! Thats how its spoken. lol
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Sassy,
Sounds like you got the talk down to the T baby! Thats how its spoken. lol
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jenscats5
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My trainer's wife has also competed -- she told me today that at the lower bf %'s women tend to be irritable also.....helps to keep it in perspective...
nikkita
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In my experience, those mood swings lead to tons of misunderstandings, arguments and even broken relationships... because I thought that they "needed to understand me", however people doesn't have as much resistance and can be easily hurt.
I think it is just learning how to manage your mood swings so that they doesn't affect your social life... after all, you don't need that kind of stress during contest preparation. Try some anger management techniques.
I think it is just learning how to manage your mood swings so that they doesn't affect your social life... after all, you don't need that kind of stress during contest preparation. Try some anger management techniques.
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