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jenscats5
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I have been officially deemed "Unbearable" today by my hubby.....
How have you competitors dealt with it if you've had them??
How have you competitors dealt with it if you've had them??
I'm not a competitor, but I have had my fair share of bitchy days when cutting. Luckily, my husband is the MOST mellow, laid back guy. I can be extremely irrational - esp when I was doing the magazine/commerical thing - I was up one minute and feeling hot, then down and feeling sloppy the next. I learned I just had to step back, tell hubby I needed some alone time, even just in another room. I always made sure to tell him that it wasn't him, I was just feeling bitchy.
If you are feeling bitchy, then it is your responsibility to take ownership of that and tell him "I am sorry, I am just in a foul mood right now." Assuming he didn't do anything - and you are just feeling cranky.
Maybe you need a "time out" - some time NOT together. GO lay down and read a book, take a nap, do some yard work, run errands, do yoga, sit in a sauna, go swimming, etc. Just do your own thing.
If you are feeling bitchy, then it is your responsibility to take ownership of that and tell him "I am sorry, I am just in a foul mood right now." Assuming he didn't do anything - and you are just feeling cranky.
Maybe you need a "time out" - some time NOT together. GO lay down and read a book, take a nap, do some yard work, run errands, do yoga, sit in a sauna, go swimming, etc. Just do your own thing.
i just found out my cousins wife had a baby...its a boy...sorry if thsi is completely off the subject
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jenscats5
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Daisy_Girl said:
I'm trying to do that but he won't leave me alone.....
"Come outside, go for a walk" blah blah blah....I told him to leave me alone, which is when I got the "unbearable" comment....Hmmm, well then, it is his fault. I would tell him, look if I am so fucking unbearable, why do you want to be around me??!??! Then go find a bunny to boil. 
Ooops, sorry Bunny, didn't mean you, lol
Go for a huge power walk .... maybe you'll walk faster than him and then you will get your alone time. SOmetimes working out that aggression helps.
Ooops, sorry Bunny, didn't mean you, lol
Go for a huge power walk .... maybe you'll walk faster than him and then you will get your alone time. SOmetimes working out that aggression helps.
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jenscats5
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Daisy_Girl said:Hmmm, well then, it is his fault. I would tell him, look if I am so fucking unbearable, why do you want to be around me??!??! Then go find a bunny to boil.
Ooops, sorry Bunny, didn't mean you, lol
Go for a huge power walk .... maybe you'll walk faster than him and then you will get your alone time. SOmetimes working out that aggression helps.
I'm watching all my goofy shows on DVR right now.....he finally went outside....ah! peace!
LOL he said he's "walking on eggshells" -- but at least I'm not the only moody person cutting.....bah!
Thanks DG!!
Sassy69
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Give him a heads-up that you are goign to be moody esp on low carb days. He's just trying to help and its not fair that you make his life hell because you are cutting. It takes some amount of communication to just say - look this is a consequence of what I'm doing for competition. And explain to him during those moments the best thing he can do is just give you some space. You don't mean to get snitty or short but the best thing you can do is just be alone and for him to not take it personally. Sort of like when its PMS time and you dont' want to say or do something that makes him feel bad but you are just in that mood and better to let it pass and accommodate it than get worked up about trying to deal w/ it. Those moments might be a good time to let him focus on himself and go play a round of golf - -call it "Me Time" if you want, but its goign to be a big part of your life over the next several weeks and wont' get better. But that's your chocie to do that and not his. And worse, he probably can't relate if he's never been low carbing. But just tellign him to fuck off because you are in a pissy mood doesn't really help him if he doesnt' even understand the source of it all.
Hope that helps
Hope that helps
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jenscats5
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Sassy69 said:Give him a heads-up that you are goign to be moody esp on low carb days. He's just trying to help and its not fair that you make his life hell because you are cutting. It takes some amount of communication to just say - look this is a consequence of what I'm doing for competition. And explain to him during those moments the best thing he can do is just give you some space. You don't mean to get snitty or short but the best thing you can do is just be alone and for him to not take it personally. Sort of like when its PMS time and you dont' want to say or do something that makes him feel bad but you are just in that mood and better to let it pass and accommodate it than get worked up about trying to deal w/ it. Those moments might be a good time to let him focus on himself and go play a round of golf - -call it "Me Time" if you want, but its goign to be a big part of your life over the next several weeks and wont' get better. But that's your chocie to do that and not his. And worse, he probably can't relate if he's never been low carbing. But just tellign him to fuck off because you are in a pissy mood doesn't really help him if he doesnt' even understand the source of it all.
Hope that helps
LOL Well, I didn't say that, but did say "Well just leave me alone then!"
But I'm finding it hard while doing this to relate to others to a certain extent -- cuz I'm finding myself getting irritated at certain things said to me....So I don't really get "upset" till someone says something "stupid" so to speak.
Glad I don't work!!
I agree with Daisy Girl. Get away from him. Men are far too selfish for any of the "this is the way I am today" answers to be of any use. They don't care if that's the way you are when you low carb, they just want it stop. Understanding, for most men, is very lived. You're best bet is avoidance.
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