Big Rick Rock said:
I think the trouble comes in when: having to get a beautiful girl in a private place, with a comfortable surface to lay down on, that is sheltered from the sun so you have the option of putting the lights out.
I just ask them straight out if they'd like to check out my appartment. No need to turn it into rocket science. If you try to make up an excuse, she'll know, and think you're a liar, then you'll get nothing. The fact is, it does not matter too much what you say in this circumstance, either she wants to go in her house, or not, she's already decided, so the only thing left to do, is ask.
Then once inside, talk, foot massage, then just before the back massage I tell them "I'd like to turn out the lights if you don't mind, I find the dark much more relaxing." Done. Can we say easy!
Also, get a good dimmer, and btw, comfortable surface = bed!
Big Rick Rock said:
You basically have to be “in-there” as a friend or close acquaintance before you get to that point (this might mean you have a chance to sleep with her any way). The dirty talk sounds good. I would probably try to ease into it though.
Nothing could be further from the truth imo. Once a friend you
stay a friend. Woman don't like to take the chance of ruining a good friendship, unless you are a complete Romeo, which I am
not!
As soon as you meet a woman is the best time to start flirting because they think this is naturally you and that you're a seductive kinda guy. If you make friends with them and then all the sudden start trying to hold her hand or touch her she'll wonder what the fuck's going on. She might even think it's kinda creepy. Then again, Romeo is the exception here.
I give them the comfort of knowing that they can ditch me whenever they want, and this helps to lower the anxiety that prevents them from engaging in these activities. Once they know I'm a sex-machine, and I will not cause them stress, they are far more accepting to making love.