Ladies: Question about orgasms...

[the-short-one]

ok lemme splain something to you!! You do not have to orgasm in each and every position to enjoy being with your SO!!! Just the togetherness, the closeness is exciting! There is no way that someone can orgasm in each and every position! It just cannot happen. As long as both are enjoying each other, why not explore and try new things? I consider myself very tri-sexual! I will try anything once, well sometimes twice...If I like it then I continue, if not, well then, it hurt nothing to try!!

so true.

 

[mrplunkey]

Well... let me give a little more info and you guys can see what i'm noodling over.

Let me compare two extremes -- women I have direct experience with.

One was limited... orgasmed in oral and cowgirl only. And even then, in a very specific sequence. Also, she was a one-shotter... one orgasm then no interest in even pursuing another. So if you slipped-up and she came with oral, we didn't even try the cowgirl position that night.

Now the other one was the other extreme... orgasmed with oral, missionary, doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, from the side, legs over my shoulders, etc. etc. Very multiorgasmic too.

As for me, I actually go in phases. I'll go for 2-3 months where I can't get enough doggie. Then, for some reason, doggie won't be as appealing and I'll want more missionary. Then... sure enough, 2-3 months later, oral seems to be my big turn-on.

With both women, when it comes to satisfying them, I've found myself settling into "routines" for our day-to-day sex. For example, with the multiorgasmic girl, it was oral x 2 orgasms, missionary for 1 or 2 orgasms, doggie for 2 orgasms, then I'd come.

With the other woman, it was oral, brief missionary, cowgirl, missionary (for me, because she was rough on my dick -- not a good rider), cowgirl, missionary, cowgirl -- and she'd orgasm on the 2, 3 or 4th cowgirl.

So here is my theory (and it's just a THEORY):

Women can settle into "proven" methods of orgasm because they are predictable and reliable and familiar. It isn't that they are bored or boring, it's just that they enjoy the reliability that comes with using a proven technique.

Of course, the countertheory is that I'm just really bad to get into sexual ruts with my partner and lack the creativity to break these ruts on a regular basis!

 

[feisty11975]

another thought -

if she's not freaked out by you bringing a vibrator into the mix, then bring one. women who have difficulty achieving orgasm find it easier with a vibrator. some women can't orgasm at all without them.

it would efinitely spice things up in the bedroom.

BTW - she probably won't get off with the vibrator vibrating inside her. direct clitoral stimulation with it will almost certainly do the trick.

I have never used a vibrator during intercourse. I was married to a very boring person for a very long time. It is now time to play!! lol

 

[the-short-one]

Well... let me give a little more info and you guys can see what i'm noodling over.

Let me compare two extremes -- women I have direct experience with.

One was limited... orgasmed in oral and cowgirl only. And even then, in a very specific sequence. Also, she was a one-shotter... one orgasm then no interest in even pursuing another. So if you slipped-up and she came with oral, we didn't even try the cowgirl position that night.

Now the other one was the other extreme... orgasmed with oral, missionary, doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, from the side, legs over my shoulders, etc. etc. Very multiorgasmic too.

As for me, I actually go in phases. I'll go for 2-3 months where I can't get enough doggie. Then, for some reason, doggie won't be as appealing and I'll want more missionary. Then... sure enough, 2-3 months later, oral seems to be my big turn-on.

With both women, when it comes to satisfying them, I've found myself settling into "routines" for our day-to-day sex. For example, with the multiorgasmic girl, it was oral x 2 orgasms, missionary for 1 or 2 orgasms, doggie for 2 orgasms, then I'd come.

With the other woman, it was oral, brief missionary, cowgirl, missionary (for me, because she was rough on my dick -- not a good rider), cowgirl, missionary, cowgirl -- and she'd orgasm on the 2, 3 or 4th cowgirl.

So here is my theory (and it's just a THEORY):

Women can settle into "proven" methods of orgasm because they are predictable and reliable and familiar. It isn't that they are bored or boring, it's just that they enjoy the reliability that comes with using a proven technique.

Of course, the countertheory is that I'm just really bad to get into sexual ruts with my partner and lack the creativity to break these ruts on a regular basis!

here's the thing. all women are different when it comes to sex/orgasms. but the popular consensus here is that it gets boring doing the same old thing.

 

[feisty11975]

Well... let me give a little more info and you guys can see what i'm noodling over.

Let me compare two extremes -- women I have direct experience with.

One was limited... orgasmed in oral and cowgirl only. And even then, in a very specific sequence. Also, she was a one-shotter... one orgasm then no interest in even pursuing another. So if you slipped-up and she came with oral, we didn't even try the cowgirl position that night.

Now the other one was the other extreme... orgasmed with oral, missionary, doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, from the side, legs over my shoulders, etc. etc. Very multiorgasmic too.

As for me, I actually go in phases. I'll go for 2-3 months where I can't get enough doggie. Then, for some reason, doggie won't be as appealing and I'll want more missionary. Then... sure enough, 2-3 months later, oral seems to be my big turn-on.

With both women, when it comes to satisfying them, I've found myself settling into "routines" for our day-to-day sex. For example, with the multiorgasmic girl, it was oral x 2 orgasms, missionary for 1 or 2 orgasms, doggie for 2 orgasms, then I'd come.

With the other woman, it was oral, brief missionary, cowgirl, missionary (for me, because she was rough on my dick -- not a good rider), cowgirl, missionary, cowgirl -- and she'd orgasm on the 2, 3 or 4th cowgirl.

So here is my theory (and it's just a THEORY):

Women can settle into "proven" methods of orgasm because they are predictable and reliable and familiar. It isn't that they are bored or boring, it's just that they enjoy the reliability that comes with using a proven technique.

Of course, the countertheory is that I'm just really bad to get into sexual ruts with my partner and lack the creativity to break these ruts on a regular basis!

I am going to repeat this one more time

ITS NOT ALL ABOUT ORGASMS!!!

 

[StickFigure]

ok lemme splain something to you!! You do not have to orgasm in each and every position to enjoy being with your SO!!! Just the togetherness, the closeness is exciting! There is no way that someone can orgasm in each and every position! It just cannot happen. As long as both are enjoying each other, why not explore and try new things? I consider myself very tri-sexual! I will try anything once, well sometimes twice...If I like it then I continue, if not, well then, it hurt nothing to try!!

I sure am willing to test this one out!

 

[feisty11975]

I sure am willing to test this one out!

Well so am I!! I just don't think it is possible. Maybe the first couple times being together but it just can't happen everytime. If it does then we are going to have to retire cause I won't let you out of the bedroom

 

[StickFigure]

Well so am I!! I just don't think it is possible. Maybe the first couple times being together but it just can't happen everytime. If it does then we are going to have to retire cause I won't let you out of the bedroom

we'll see!

 

[feisty11975]

we'll see!

Hey I am totally willing to try!! It sure will be fun!!

 

[the-short-one]

how ironic that i am over here giving advice on sex while at the same time venting in another thread about how i don't have any.