ladies, need some help with GF sexual problem

[champion]

Hello ladies I post on the anabolic board but figured this may be the place to get some help my girlfriend.
She is unable to have an orgasm. She has had 1 orgasm years ago during her first relationship but never since. she has been in 9 relationships and the problem persists. She has a fairly high sex drive and realy enjoys it. She is able to begin climaxing but right before going over the edge she just "loses" it.
Oh she also can not get off by herself with or without toys.

We figure this is some sort of physcological/emtional problem and are trying to deal with any underlying emotional problems she may or may not be aware of. We have an extremely open relationship and I am confident we/she will work this out but was hoping maybe some of you had any ideas. Thanks

champion

 

[Texas Guy]

I'm not a lady, but I'll put in my 2 cents.

It may or may not be a mental problem. It could also be a chemical imbalance in the brain involving the dopamine receptors. The whole orgasm response is very complicated. You may want to work with your doctor and try some of the anti-Parkinson drugs such as Requip (a dopamine agonist).

 

[Dingo12]

Women usually need to work out how to do it themselves b4 they can with a partner. Is she getting turned on 2 start off with i.e. are the juices flowing? Sorry if I am being too explicit.

 

[Phemomena]

i think you hit the nail on the head with the emotional/physcological thought... why not talk to an expert (therapist/councellor) if she's open to it...

she's very lucky to have you stand by her and want this for her... many guys are more concerned with themselves... and she doesn't have to view this as a problem with her or in your relationship... but talking to someone who is trained "medically" on handling these types of things may be the best thing... they might even be able to prescribe something to 'kickstart; things if you will...

start with a family doctor or such, they'll probably be able to refer someone...

 

[luv2workout]

my mother in law is in her fifty's and claims she has NEVER had an orgasm...poor lady

is BabyDoc in the house???????

 

[poohbear]

What kind of stresses does she deal with every day? Has she ever been raped or sexually molested? Has she ever been physically abused by former lovers? How does she know that that one time was a true orgasm?

Please do not answer the above questions. They are just possible questions that might produce a solution to her problem. Unfortunately, they may also produce unnecessary heartache. Ask at your own risk.

Female orgasms are practically all psychological. Consult a therapist.

good luck

 

[Sassy69]

Totally off the subject .. I was just thinking about how great it is that you are interested in understanding what's up with your gf's orgasms. The Big O is often elusive for me, though I REALLY enjoy sex even if I don't get that all the time.

...but the comment I was going to make --- If any of you get a chance to see The Vagina Monologues -- it is truly an excellent revealing of the "secrets" of the vagina.. I know it sounds whacky, but it was a very moving and insightful production. (I saw it in San Fran w/ the ex. The crowd was mostly women with a few guys. Its basically a collection of responses and stories built from interviews with many women about their vaginas. Some had been raped, some had never had an orgasm, some were taught that "it" is a dirty thing, some had wild sex lives, loved the big O, etc. I personally think this "play" (not really a play as much as a stage production) should be required for all men.

Anyway.. just wanted to throw that out....

 

[thebabydoc]

Here I is....

Unfortunately, everyone here has hit the nail on the head.
Very complex issue, probably psychological but could be chemical
great advice from all. A huge problem, especially for men, is THINKING about
it, i.e. worrying if you're gonna have it; that's a common reason for "loosing it"
just before climax.

Definitely need a professional.
Try lovemaking without trying to reach orgasm, what about oral sex?
What triggers the "end" of your workout?
Viagra has also been known to work for women.

Wish I could be of more help.

 

[buksoon]

Did you ever hear it said: "People would be a lot happier if they stopped trying to be so happy" ?

This sounds like a great relationship, and she loves sex with you.

This is far, far from a "terrible problem requiring medical/psychological assistance." I'm sure it will come in time. (No pun intended.) How old is she? Women don't sexually peak until mid-thirties.

But if it doesn't come in time, would it really be so tragic? I don't mean to be the voice of gloom and doom, but ... the sex sounds wonderful and otherwise completely satisfying and the emotional connection sounds like something many people never have.

Just my (very) humble opinion.

 

[champion]

Thanks for the replys people
sorry I don't really have anything else to say, nobody gave me the magic solution .LOL Just one of those we'll work it out in time things and like I said before I'm confident we will one way or another.