you sound like a romantic sort of guy, but.....hmmmm, you seem to be having trouble getting advice from the ladies here, eh? perhaps its the repetitive use of the word "cunt" thats scaring them off? maybe you should try using "gash" instead. women love flowery descriptive words.
Bud...use any other word but "cunt". I would say that is the one most hated word by all woman. Delete it from your vocabulary unless it is to really piss a lady off.
www.sexuality.org is a fantastic sex-positive site. I used some of their techniques for male genital massage (hand jobs) -- it sent my man through the ROOF. He couldn't get enough.