I wonder what women think is more appealing: the big boys grunting and lifting eye popping weight, or the leaner, more modest and quiet guys who lift light with high reps. Personally, I prefer my spotter slapping me in the face as hard as he can and yelling at me before I bench. I am a little overbearing at times, but that's just me - intensity brings the immensity has always been my motto. I notice that the weaker yet leaner guys throwing around the girly weight seem to get more female attention though. Is the leaner, ripped to shreds body type more sexy to a woman as opposed to the big boys? Or is the big AND ripped look the bomb?