Is kissing or flirting cheating????

[Kakdiesel]

LOL I had an interesting discussion about this question with my best friend's girlfriend last night..she went totally off on me (while we were all trashed of course) about how flirting is NOT cheating..but in my opinion it is...

In my opinion, anything you would NOT do in front of your mate is cheating...that was my argument..(and no assholes, I'm not talkin about farting or picking your nose or shitting in front of them--I know you smart asses too well )

 

[bignate73]

In my opinion, anything you would NOT do in front of your mate is cheating...that was my argument..(and no assholes, I'm not talkin about farting or picking your nose or shitting in front of them--I know you smart asses too well )

if i dont fart in front of them, i feel i am cheating them. i have some quality emissions and for her to love me, i dont like to hold back my impulses.

welcome back bro. thought i would set this party off properlike.

 

[Night Fly]

Flirting is NOT cheating unless you are emotionally interested in the other person. I think that kissing, FUCKING, and anything else like that is...

Just my .02

 

[slickdadd]

Kissing is definitely. No doubt. Flirting is close and i wouldnt say its cheating but its still pretty shallow and not cool.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

Webster's defines flirting as "showing amourous interest without any depth of feeling". By that definition I would consider it cheating.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I tend to disagree. I think it is too bad, but flirting is a dying art form. There is NOTHING wrong with a little laughing and smiling and harmless, friendly discourse...as long as BOTH parties involved KNOW that it is NOTHING MORE. I flirt equally with children, females and males. Of course, the situation must be appropriate ie job interview = INNAPPROPRAITE.

My third daughter is also a shameless flirt - it is her nature as it is mine. For goodness sake, the poor little old blue-haired ladies can not get out the door at the salon when I bring her with me because she there is my Monika batting her eyelashes and chit-chatting away, "Gee your hair is pretty lady. My name is Monika and my mommmy is getting her hair cut....etc, etc, etc"

Now physical contact such as kissing is definitely a NO-NO and if there is ANY DECEPTION or MISREPRESENTATION then the flirting has gone too far.

....just my .02

 

[KAYNE]

Flirting is NOT cheating unless you are emotionally interested in the other person. I think that kissing, FUCKING, and anything else like that is...

Just my .02

NIGHTFLY---WOULD YOU BE "DATING" SOMEONE THAT YOU ARE NOT EMOTIONALLY INTERESTED IN???

 

[Bikini Mod]

I'm not nightfly...but may I say that yes, I have on occasion dated someone I was not "emotionally interested" in. Isn't that the purpose of dating?...getting to know someone? Maybe I have just been out of the loop for far too long, but tell me that is not a single board member here that has not gone out on a date that they were not REALLY interested in, but thought they were nice or funny or were just REAL bored on any given night of the week?!

 

[The Varnsen]

Could you be more empty?

 

[cyberflash]

Flirting can be a cultural thing ....

I've lived in Scandinavia where women flirt more than here ... in summer, the part are full of almost naked people ... u can look and flirt ... it's even normal to swap partners ... so CULTURE is a big factor ...

In the Middle East, women are not even allowed to LOOK .... so they wear a veil on their face and are cloth from head to toe ... husbands don't even know how their wives look until they get married ..

The rest are in-between these two extremes ...

 

[Hannibal]

Now physical contact such as kissing is definitely a NO-NO and if there is ANY DECEPTION or MISREPRESENTATION then the flirting has gone too far.

....just my .02

I would have to agree. You have to be careful with flirting however. Both participants must understand the situation. If one person thinks it's harmless flirtation, and the other thinks there is more to it...people get hurt

 

[Rider09]

Kak I feel the same way you do . Anything that you do with another person that you wouldn’t feel right doing around your girl besides friendly talking may not be cheating but that’s a fine line . Personally when I’m with a girl she is number one. I could talk with 10 hot chicks but it wouldn’t mean shit. I am very picky so all my girls are hot. Anyway kissing is cheating. I guess its if you don’t feel comfortable for lack of words when interacting with another woman than your proly flirting witch leads to cheating and if you do feel comfortable then it really don’t matter cause your proly gonna cheat.
I guess I’m kinda old school oh well some woman out there must still like that kinda thing

Oh yea I had a response to your reply to my post “ any models here? Some questions”

 

[KAYNE]

SIMPLY PUT, IF YOU DONT WANT YOUR MATE DOING SOMETHING, WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT SOMETHING?

 

[Bikini Mod]

I HAVE NO PROBLEM with my mate flirting. As long as it IS UP FRONT THAT HE IS TAKEN and it is nothing more than harmless, pleasant intercourse (TALKING, hehe).

How does this make me shallow? If a pretty girl asks you what time it is then makes a silly remark about how she rushed for nothing and only missed the bus and got a runner in her stockings for her trouble while chuckling a bit about her wasted effort, does that mean that she wants to fuck your brains out?....I DON'T THINK SO!!!

I have NEVER behaved in a fashion that is unbecoming of a wife or mother.....just because I like to laugh and have a good time - I let EVERY GUY KNOW THAT I HAVE FOUR KIDS - UPFRONT and that I AM MARRIED - FOUR KIDS WORTH OF MARRIED......if that is not enough to let a guy know that I am only being pleasant and that my personality is warm and congenial then he has mental problems and needs serious therapy! Believe me, if I want a guy's johnson - THERE WILL BE NO MISTAKE!!

GEEZE - you need to loosen up, Varnsen.

 

[bignate73]

If a pretty girl asks you what time it is then makes a silly remark about how she rushed for nothing and only missed the bus and got a runner in her stockings for her trouble while chuckling a bit about her wasted effort, does that mean that she wants to fuck your brains out?

man i hope so!!!!!

 

[Night Fly]

NIGHTFLY---WOULD YOU BE "DATING" SOMEONE THAT YOU ARE NOT EMOTIONALLY INTERESTED IN???

Why, yes, in fact, I would. I have dated several guys (just like bikinimom said), that I was not interested in emotionally. I just thought they had a great personality or something. I also did it to see if they would grow on me...basically trying to give them a chance. Granted, it didn't work, but I sure tried.

I mean, I am sure that you have gone out on a date with someone not knowing much about them...or have you not?

 

[blood_drinker]

im with slikdad(sp) on this one.
It isn't cheating, but if you are doing it I feel it is a sign you are not getting enough from your relationship - time to mend something up or move on.

FUCK THIS ! Once I caught my gf rubbing her ass on some fuck in the cafeteria line. that pissed me off majorly...and i told her the same thing i said on the first paragraph. that is it - end of topic. lol , i hereby close this topic.

 

[Burning_Inside]

it's not flirting unless you derive some sort of non-romantical/sexual feeling or intent from it. Which means you have to not be human apparently. However, every relationship between 2 people have their own rules, so, if you want it to be, then it is, if not, then it ain't.

 

[Kakdiesel]

Damn..good responses..keep it coming...but i have to stick with my guns here, ANYTHING i wouldnt do in front of my GF would be cheating in my opinion..

 

[Hannibal]

I also did it to see if they would grow on me...basically trying to give them a chance.

You're all heart Flygirl...J/K

And Bikinimom I don't think you could be considered shallow. As long as both people are up front with one another...flirting is definitely a good thing. You just have to be sure that both of you know where the boundaries are

 

[WODIN]

Since I started farting in front of the wife....Life is gooood....

 

[Kakdiesel]

LOL WODIN reminded me of a good story....my friend at college had this girl he started seeing in his bed..and the girl was like fartin while he was fingering her..anyways turns out she farted a lil TOO much and she shit on his bed sheets..LOL LOL he took her ass home right away, stop talking to her for good, and threw away his sheets...how embarrassing is that!

 

[tomcat]

Flirting, May or May-Not be cheating, but is sure can be dangerous...

 

[Troll]

i think we should cure aids and just all fuck each other.
unless you shit the sheets, that's just gross.

 

[vixenbabe]

I consider myself outgoing.Some may consider it being a flirt, so be it!

My man knows that I love him and accepts me for who I am. After all, it's what attracted him to me in the first place. He is secure in knowing that I love him and the trust is there for us both! Nothing wrong with a good , honest flirt as long as no one gets hurt!

I just happen to enjoy people, male and female's alike. I know NO STRANGERS!

 

[Maximum Intensity]

Kissing -- by all means, kissing is cheating. However, I don't think there is anything wrong with innocent flirting. We do it all the time -- at the gym, at the grocery store, at the gas station, etc. A lot of people don't even know they are doing it. I think the problem lies in todays definition of flirting. I agree with BM on this one -- flriting is dying art form.

 

[Jimsbbc]

Flirting = paying attention to someone. It is not physical, so how could simply paying attention to someone be cheating on your mate? I guess there are different levels of flirting, but really, I think it is harmless, or atleast until your girl gets pissed

 

[runner]

i have flirted with no intent for anything more to happen (and nothing DID happen), but i don't think it's a sign that there is a problem with my relationship.

i think for me it's more of a self-esteem or power thing. i like getting someone i find attractive to want me bad. perhaps this indicates psychological problems on my part, i dunno, but i really don't feel like i'm "cheating"...

 

[JohnnyO]

I do the same thing .. if I can't get SOMEONE to like me at the club I feel like a failure, like I'm not good looking enough. But I never actually intend to go to bed with these people.

 

[runner]

if you need a real self-esteem boost try it at the gym, johnny. if you can't get THOSE horny queens to want you, then you really ARE in trouble....

 

[kat]

If you THINK it's cheating then it is.

My buddy thinks if his girlfriend is having sex with another girl then its not cheating. If its a guy, then it is cheating. Personally, I think anything that involves clothes off and your spouse not in the room is cheating. But, that is how those two think of it.

My own personal rule is: if it involves bare skin from the neck down its cheating. If my BF thought kissing someone was cheating then he wouldn't be around for very long because my friends, male and female are very affectionate, both with me and him.

It all depends on what your personal moral ground is. The trick is to find someone who stands on the same hill.

 

[Evildee]

Non of it is cheating if the other person doesn't find out.....right?

 

[guards]

Kissing IS cheating. I can say from personal experience that if your are considering cheating on your GF/BF or spouse.......DON'T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You'll feel like shit, they'll feel like shit, and NOBODY ever wins.

my 2cc's

 

[Sassy69]

Let's add a dimension to this - to a lot of people the idea of cheating involves a physical contact between the two parties. What about cyber? A married friend of mine doesn't consider that cheating. I think he's full of shit. If you are communicating intimate intentions to someone besides your "significant other" (this assumes there is that understanding the you and the significant other are actually signficant to each other), that is cheating.


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[Si|vio]

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oh man, that was gold... couldn't hae done it better myself...

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