Is getting a massage with a happy ending cheating?

[Forge]

Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.

What's the difference between me eating out another chick with her in the room or with her not in the room? As long as she knows about it, its fine right?

As long as the two of you agree it is fine, then yes it is fine. I personally would not be OK with it. It doesn't mean you are wrong or I am right, it just means that you and I define relationships in different terms.

For me, a serious relationship is a monogamous one, both emotionally AND physically. They are intertwined for me, obviously you are able to disconnect the two. That also probably explains why I've only been with 5 women my whole life and you've been with over 5 dozen. But then, I've never had a relationship that lasted less than a year, either.

When I give myself to someone, I give all of myself to them, but ONLY to them, and I expect the same in return. IMHO relationships require constant attention and commitment to be successful, and if you need (or want) to go outside the relationship to have sexual or emotional needs taken care of then there is something wrong with the relationship. It's just the way I am and what I believe in.

 

[Lestat]

As long as the two of you agree it is fine, then yes it is fine. I personally would not be OK with it. It doesn't mean you are wrong or I am right, it just means that you and I define relationships in different terms.

For me, a serious relationship is a monogamous one, both emotionally AND physically. They are intertwined for me, obviously you are able to disconnect the two. That also probably explains why I've only been with 5 women my whole life and you've been with over 5 dozen. But then, I've never had a relationship that lasted less than a year, either.

When I give myself to someone, I give all of myself to them, but ONLY to them, and I expect the same in return. IMHO relationships require constant attention and commitment to be successful, and if you need (or want) to go outside the relationship to have sexual or emotional needs taken care of then there is something wrong with the relationship. It's just the way I am and what I believe in.

Yeah, everything is different for everyone I suppose.

I've only had TWO serious girlfriends.... but they are both amazing girls.

The rest were all fun, but I just couldn't get close.

 

[wnt2bBeast]

i think there is a difference between a man going to a strip club and a woman going..im not saying that i wouldnt let my SO go to one..but if it became sort of a weekly habit then i would think something is up..women are allowed to get a lot more friendlier than the guys..guy tries to touch a female on stage you can bet hes gonna be out on his ass

happy endings are cheating, come on lol how would you feel if youre girl went around giving blowjobs technically no one is touching her lol

 

[Dial_tone]

Is it cheating if you boink your training partner? I mean they see you all sweaty and flustered anyway....maybe I should just starting working out with babes I want to boink first.....wait, I don't even have a gf............carry on!

 

[Sub-Zero]

I'm sorry, but FANTASY is NOT cheating.. no fucking way no how.. if so, then masturbating and not thinking about your wife or girlfriend would be cheating.. that is just wrong dude.

I think Phaded has it right

its still a form of cheating im my opinion...not saying i wouldnt do it,- shit id fuck anything any oportunity i had even if i was with someone (if they were keeping me happy tho i wouldnt have a reason)

but i still think if ur with someone, and daydreaming about fucking someone else or wishing u were with them, its still kinda cheating the person- even if its not sexual cheating

 

[Sub-Zero]

Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.

thats sort of what i was saying with th ewhole draydreaming about fucking or porn... if its emotional its cheating her, if its just simple physical attraction its fine in my book.

but i also think that even if there is no emotional attatchment such as banging a hooker, that its still cheating, just because i think that( dont feel like going into it its obvious why).

 

[theoak01]

Im my opinion anything your not totally comfortable doing with her in the room,and her being ok with is cheating. and Im sorry I dont know any woman who would be ok with that

 

[strangebrew]

And people wonder why the divorce rate is so high...Funny.

 

[Testosterone boy]

And people wonder why the divorce rate is so high...Funny.

Part of the reason for the lower rate in Europe is that they are less uptight about these things.

As for me....I'm pretty uptight.

 

[r.gotti]

Im going to hell