I want YOUR advice...

[TheSystemHasFailed]

Ok, let me start by saying I am a male, and am posting this here as I think I would appreciate some females opinions on this. Bit long winded, but stick with it...

So me and my ex of just over 2 years broke up last June 2010 whilst on holiday. Things hadn't been going well, and I had enough. It was the most awkward decision to make, especially being on holiday with her family, but looking back it was the right one at the time. We met up a few times since until last october, but honestly I wasn't really wanting to get back with her. My reasons for breaking up with her? Could get bitter, jealous, and childish quite easily. However, she also gave me alot, which I guess I took for granted.

So I started going out with someone new in Dec, started good but soon turned sour by march, and she broke up with me. Being with her made me really how much I had before. I found myself missing my ex, and contacted her by text, really to see if she had changed and we could be friends and what she had been upto. She seemed different, but as soon as she made an off colour comment, I snapped that I had a new girlfriend, and she got funny saying 'don't fuck up this relationship', implicating I messed up ours. So I thought you know what, leave it. She even tried to make me feel really guilty for contacting her by saying 'does your girlfriend know you are texting me?'

I was up near where she lived last Sunday, as I am every Sunday, and I thought I would go see her. Got there, no one in and her number seemed like she had changed it. Now as the sun comes back around again, I reflect on all the good things we had and good things she did for me. When I contacted her I told her that and told her that without her I wouldn't be where I am. But she just seemed more annoyed. I seem to be doing particuarly shit with the female race ATM, and maybe it's telling me something.

So I'm at a crossroads... Do I pursue her, track her down, and maybe try again, or do I leave it and leave my future in the hands of fate?

 

[Rebecca D]

Leave it be.....You are trying too hard which will only annoy her. A simple text is nice, several text is annoying, showing up unannounced border lines on being creepy.

Right now you need to concentrate on other aspects of life and see if she comes back to you. If it is "meant to be" she will let you know. Besides, it seems like true love only strikes when you aren't looking for it.

My 2 1/2 cents worth of advice

Rebecca D

 

[TheSystemHasFailed]

Leave it be.....You are trying too hard which will only annoy her. A simple text is nice, several text is annoying, showing up unannounced border lines on being creepy.

Right now you need to concentrate on other aspects of life and see if she comes back to you. If it is "meant to be" she will let you know. Besides, it seems like true love only strikes when you aren't looking for it.

My 2 1/2 cents worth of advice

Rebecca D

Yeah you are probably right. I just wanted some advice from ladies as I feel i would of gotten some generic answers from the guys.

If anyone else has anything to add I would like to hear it...

 

[musclemom]

Yeah you are probably right. I just wanted some advice from ladies as I feel i would of gotten some generic answers from the guys.

If anyone else has anything to add I would like to hear it...

First piece of advice, you really would get plenty of female responses by posting in C&C. Technically this is a "no guy zone."

Second, move on. You broke up with #1 for a reason, she's only looking good now because apparently #2 broke up with you and -- I have no doubt -- pointed out that she wasn't willing to put up with things that #1 would.

Third, you're verging on stalking and WAY over thinking things.

Fourth, like yourself, be the best you that you can be, and love will follow. Seriously, there are plenty of women (smart, beautiful and single) and they gravitate to a confident guy like moths, on the other hand, they run from a clingy, needy guy instantly like you haven't bathed or brushed your teeth for a year.

 

[Mrs_P]

I agree with Rebecca, you have to be careful how you approach her, you don't want to look like you are trying too hard, women say they want their men to be persistant, but being too persistant can make you seem desperate.
I could imagine how you feel, sometimes you don't know what you have until you loose it, but honestly, if you were unhappy with her when you where in the relashionship, going back together now will not make the problems you had with her disappear.

I think you should take some time for yourself, people break up & jump into a new relashionship way too fast, only to sometimes find themselves in an unhappy situation again.
If you feel she was the one, then continue contacting her from time to time & try being her friend, see where that takes you.

Good luck !