i think we've lost that "spark"

[Dean Kuntz]

I think at least for me it's the inevitable outcome of a monogamous relationship. NOBODY can maintain passion in a long marriage!!!!!!! TRUST ME THIS IS TRUE AND FIND SOME WORKAROUND!!!

 

[bodacious]

I think your relationship is a friendship. A wonderful, loving, compassionate relationship. You turn into such a pussy with her.Question. Were your mother and father lovey dovey when your were growing up? I think you are an emotional amoeba.
I would be jealous of other girls too, if you weren't fucking me.
You said to me that we wouldn't work b/c if the sex was gone, I wouldn't stick around. I think, speaking totally neutrally here, that there is something else out there for you.
You hold onto her b/c she is "what you want in a wife". There are a million fish in the sea. Someone out there is a combination of friend, companion, lover, soulmate. You have to give yourself a chance to find it. You seem so scared to be alone. You are 28, sexy as hell, talented, smart. You can't have a marriage with no passion. Or can you?
Keep looking.
p.s. People do change. People grow. People learn. "spark" you either have it or you don't.

 

[kasey25]

Hi Drummer, I agree with porn4life. It sounds like you have a great partner for life and a true best friend. Now you should decide if that is enough. I couldn't imagine not having the sexual tensity in a relationship.

My questions would be, are you completely satisfied (and are just wondering if something is wrong with you/or that your relationship is doomed) or are you feeling sexually deprived? I couldn't quite tell if you were complaining.

Also, how does your girlfriend feel. Is she complaining about the lack of sex or is she happy as is? I can't imagine two people being satisfied with the few times a year.


I would think, eventually the best friend/great partner thing will explode into a nasty situation and someone is going to be hurt. My advice would be to really open up with your girlfriend and make sure things will be alright (the way they are) as time goes on. Who knows maybe the two of you can weather any storm, sounds like a great foundation.