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well, really i have a lot more, but for the purpose of this thread i'm only discussing three of them.
friend #1: I've known for a number of years. never asks for anything from me, although i would gladly do what i could. when i've needed anything, he's there in a heartbeat to help.
friend #2: I've known for about a year. has asked for small favors, copies of magazines i have and read, articles, etc. I have offered help and support tons of times without being asked. He has offered support in return, but not much more.
friend #3: a new friend. but so far, a good one.
so i mention to all three that i would like a letter of recommendation for something. Its not totally necessary, and i didn't ask any of them specifically, i just said that i'd like one. of course, there's no cost except postage, and the time is whatever they would have liked to spend on it.
friend #1: sent me a beautiful, well thought out letter. very personalized and clearly spent a lot of thought on it.
friend #2: nothing.
friend #3: emailed me a nice letter to send, and said they hoped it was enough but would gladly mail me one too.
I think I've discovered that friend #2 is a "fair weather friend" only. that sucks.
friend #1: I've known for a number of years. never asks for anything from me, although i would gladly do what i could. when i've needed anything, he's there in a heartbeat to help.
friend #2: I've known for about a year. has asked for small favors, copies of magazines i have and read, articles, etc. I have offered help and support tons of times without being asked. He has offered support in return, but not much more.
friend #3: a new friend. but so far, a good one.
so i mention to all three that i would like a letter of recommendation for something. Its not totally necessary, and i didn't ask any of them specifically, i just said that i'd like one. of course, there's no cost except postage, and the time is whatever they would have liked to spend on it.
friend #1: sent me a beautiful, well thought out letter. very personalized and clearly spent a lot of thought on it.
friend #2: nothing.
friend #3: emailed me a nice letter to send, and said they hoped it was enough but would gladly mail me one too.
I think I've discovered that friend #2 is a "fair weather friend" only. that sucks.
side of things, agreed with Raina, better to know in advance over a relatively small thing than when the help is REALLY required
