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I Feel Like Dying....Heartbreaking Personal Problem...Long Read..but please help

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Drizzt8

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I am so so devastated.....my GF of a year has been student teaching in Buffalo since Sept....we lived together all summer...I am 5 hrs away in Albany....we were great friends for a year before we started dating and its been wonderful....we had the PERFECT relationship.....everything was so special between us....we were torn apart after finding out she had to move to Buffalo for one semester to student teach....we planned on living together after she returned and often talked of future marriage...I loved this girl with all my heart and soul.....For the past week or so she has been acting very strange....not calling NEARLY as much....not e-mailing....she told me she would call one night last week and when she didnt I called her...she acted REAL wierd on the phone....she lives with her Aunt and Uncle and she said no one was there with her...well I hear a guy cough in the background.....and I call her on it ...all calmly...she lied to me for 10 minutes straight saying no one was there....finally, ger Aunt and Uncle come home and start talking to the guy right in the background! She finally admitted..saying it was JUST a friend who came over to help her with this project she was doing..she SWORE to me that she did not want to date other people...didnt want to even take a break or break up loved me more than ever and wanted me to look for an apt. for us to live in together....Well...we talked on last Fri. and I told her that I am at a real low point in my life...nothing seems to be going right..Im worried about my dad who has cancer etc...and I tell her I really need some support from her over the weekend....she ended the conversation with "You are my everything...I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL"Well she NEVER EVER called me once....she finally e-mailed me yesterday saying that I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU and Im sorry...have been extremely busy..etc..well I was so so suspicious and I found out the number of the guy who was at her house last week...she told me his name....and I called his place at 6AM this AM....and asked for her...and she was right next to him in bed....she was cold and unemotional to me over the phone...saying "Im sorry"....she JUST MET HIM 3 weeks ago....he a 27 year old Global Studies teacher...Im 26 and shes 23 by the way....she said shes been sleeping with him and staying there at his place all this past week....I am utterly devastated and destroyed...I feel like Im dying ...I dont even feel like living right now....I have never felt this much pain before in my life....its destroying me...I've lost 14 lbs in the last 10 days....and now I see no end to it....I am so messed up guys....
 
Better you know now that she would lie and cheat then get married have 2.5 kids, a dog, a mortgage and her nagging mother living in the geust room.

I can understand you are upset and torn up by this but if you take her back and shit you are an idiot and she wont really respect you. Dump and dodge! Go get laid and have some fun....
 
Bro i know this totally sucks, and it feels like the pain will never go away, but
if she does that to you, she isnt worth it..i mean i can understand an accident but this is a little different, it seems as though she has moved on, but it seems like she didnt want to hurt you!

Bro, get your shit together, get back in the gym and mush on bro
 
it may seem like the end of the world now, but it's not, it's the end of a relationship, and one that wasn't, for whatever reason, meant to be...

look at it this way, would you have rather this happened after you went ahead with living together/marriage? WODIN's dead on with that one, think of this as a blessing in disguise...

you have to pick yourself up and go on with life... it'll be difficult at first, but distract yourself (the gym can be the perfect place for that...) don't let it destroy who you are... you survived without her before she came along, you can do so again now...
 
Drizzt8 said:
I am so so devastated.....my GF of a year has been student teaching in Buffalo since Sept....we lived together all summer...I am 5 hrs away in Albany....we were great friends for a year before we started dating and its been wonderful....we had the PERFECT relationship.....everything was so special between us....we were torn apart after finding out she had to move to Buffalo for one semester to student teach....we planned on living together after she returned and often talked of future marriage...I loved this girl with all my heart and soul.....For the past week or so she has been acting very strange....not calling NEARLY as much....not e-mailing....she told me she would call one night last week and when she didnt I called her...she acted REAL wierd on the phone....she lives with her Aunt and Uncle and she said no one was there with her...well I hear a guy cough in the background.....and I call her on it ...all calmly...she lied to me for 10 minutes straight saying no one was there....finally, ger Aunt and Uncle come home and start talking to the guy right in the background! She finally admitted..saying it was JUST a friend who came over to help her with this project she was doing..she SWORE to me that she did not want to date other people...didnt want to even take a break or break up loved me more than ever and wanted me to look for an apt. for us to live in together....Well...we talked on last Fri. and I told her that I am at a real low point in my life...nothing seems to be going right..Im worried about my dad who has cancer etc...and I tell her I really need some support from her over the weekend....she ended the conversation with "You are my everything...I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL"Well she NEVER EVER called me once....she finally e-mailed me yesterday saying that I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU and Im sorry...have been extremely busy..etc..well I was so so suspicious and I found out the number of the guy who was at her house last week...she told me his name....and I called his place at 6AM this AM....and asked for her...and she was right next to him in bed....she was cold and unemotional to me over the phone...saying "Im sorry"....she JUST MET HIM 3 weeks ago....he a 27 year old Global Studies teacher...Im 26 and shes 23 by the way....she said shes been sleeping with him and staying there at his place all this past week....I am utterly devastated and destroyed...I feel like Im dying ...I dont even feel like living right now....I have never felt this much pain before in my life....its destroying me...I've lost 14 lbs in the last 10 days....and now I see no end to it....I am so messed up guys....
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Take solace that she was not good enough for YOU. Better now than later.

btw - remember that since she cheated WITH him, chances are she'll cheat ON him...Fact of life.
 
you have to be strong!

it seems as if you were really in love with her but everything happens for a reason. you'll see...it'll take some time but when you are completely over her and you move on, you'll meet someone alot better. and then you'll say to yourself, i'm glad i'm not with that other girl anymore.

find someone to talk to...that usually helps when im feeling that way.

it's not the end of the world, its just time to start over and make the best of everything that's given to you. get your ass in the gym to keep your mind off of everything. you have to keep yourself busy so you don't drown yourself in your sadness.

keep your head up! :heart:
 
Bro I really feel for you. That is the most painful thing that she could do to you. Just remember that time heals all wounds. Don't fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself. Keep going to the gym and try to live your life as normally as possible. Don't do anything stupid to yourself. You now know that your girl was not what you thought she was. She is a miserable low down person. Believe me, it is better that you found that out now instead of after you go married. Hang in there bro.
 
I can honestly tell you from experience (my x wife cheated on me with more guys than you can imagine)... at one point, I thought I wanted to die. Literally. With time... it does ease up. I know that's the common, generic response. But it is true. I still think about it... every day to be honest. Certain things still chime memories of her taking her top off at parties... and I get angry all the time about it. And we've been divorced for two years.

Even though the relationship is dead... it can still haunt you. Try to keep your chin up, and take it a day at a time. And by God get back in that gym, man. I can't stress that enough. Keep strong physically. It will help you to be strong mentally, and vice versa.
 
i just got depressed reading all that. holy shit that sucks. not much can be said to make you feel better right now...been there tried that. just know that the karma gods will come back and not only make this girl regret what she did, but also give you a good person who won't do this kind of thing to you. best wishes on a speedy emotional recovery and onto the next girl.
 
Like everyone else has said, you dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky and take out your anger/hurt at the gym it's the best therapy in the world. Remember, the best revenge is living well.
 
oh man,,,

your not my twin are you...every one here has read my situation, and it is almost exactly like yours. It's been a month now, but the pain still lingers. I went from 195 to 174 so it's normal to drop a lot of weight. Right now you feel numb, cold probley have the shakes.

Damn im sorry, never wanted anyone to have a month like me.
Hang tough man, and use your family, friends and ELITE as support. Let the good of the world enter your life, that what I had 2 do.
 
Soory to hear that shit happened to you, I live here in albany, if you want we can go to this guys place in buffalo and "talk to him". No offense she is an honorless whore, without enough decency to be honest with you she lacks integrity, morals, and conviction, do you really want to be witha bitch like that. REVENGE that is the key, HATE is the ultimate motivator, get into the gym and let the ANGER fly....... So when you see her next........ :kaioken: :kaioken: :kaioken:
 
Man I just read this with total dread inside.

What the fuck is with people today? I dont know if anyone else has said this yet but she is a fucking whore-slut-bitch for what she did period.

Anyways I hope for you to get over this, its hard but I will avoid any cliches here and just say most of us would feel the same as you do but we dont die, we move on.
Tough but true.
 
My friend... the EXCACT thing happened to me!!! about 2 years ago. Just reading your story has brought tears to my eyes.

If you want my honest opinion... kill her. I am sooooo sorry that I did not kill the little whore bitch that did this to me.

It takes 2 years or so to get over this totally... but the best advice I gan give you is to not have ANY contact with her at all. I know it is going to be hard... but just do it. If you want to hear my whole story shoot me a PM... it is alot like yours.

Keep your head up.... remember who is #1..... and think of a good plan on how to kill her and get away with it.
 
"Like everyone else has said, you dodged a bullet"

Let the truth be told. God himself intervened and freed you from a fucked up life. Be greatful for his mercy bro, and get up & move on. Like mentioned earlier, atleast you didn't marry the bitch and let her take half of everything you own. Count your blessings and move on. You will look back later and be grateful you didn't stay with her afterall.
 
:( Bro- You not alone many people have gone through the same thing your going thorugh. I myself broke up with my gf about 5 1/2 months ago and I'm still feeling the pain. all i can say is no matter what DO NOT call her because it will just make the pain last longer then you want. Everytime I felt down I called my ex and that just made it worse because when we talked it seemed like she had no time for me anymore and that just made the pian stronger....... Go out and try to enjoy yourself..I know it's not what you want to do but thats what you need to do bro.....
 
Tough times never last but tough people do.

Hold your head up and know you matter and that it's not your fault at all.

Time will heal, just stay the course
 
So Sad, Been There

Yo Bro that's seriously rough.
Same shit happened to me Last sept. it drove me so goddamned insane I wanted to die, a lot. I did as a result of this crap lots of things I would ordinarily not have. For instance I let some insane fuck (LordSust) I had just met stick needles in me even though I swore long ago I'd never do any drug. I did shit loads of G with beersw to wash it down and all kinds of other ridculous shit. In May the same fucking thing happened to our other rromie with his girl of five years. That shit was so depressing (fortunately I was on my very first cycle then so I wasnt too depressed). This summer I was talking to the stupid Ex and I realised just how much better my life is without wasting all my time money and energy on someone who does not give two shits about me. Just dont let this shit run or ruin your life. I gotta go now But I'll check up on this post later.

PS - oddly enough , yeah we are all in Albany too!
must be something in the water
 
That is horrible. IGNORE her completely!!!! You have to ignore her...whatever strings are attached cut them ASAP!!! Give her her shit..I know you have something she wants back...get this dickering over with..BE COLD AS HELL AND MAKE SURE YOU GET LOADED UP WITH YER BOYZZZZ VERY SOON. Go to a club and find a skank. That is why God put skanks on this earth, for times like this.....Think of ways to better yourself!!! Don't let it rip you up. Fuck her and her Global Studies faggot..what a tool. Teacher fucking a student..real professional..sounds like a real cool guy to me...I heard it might be RyanH..hahaha Get loaded, get laid and cut the strings from the bitch!!!!!!!! Goog luck, LIFT HEAVY(with good form), always think light weight, push hard, fuck the next tight pussy that smiles at you!!!
 
Big Brother Val said:
I can honestly tell you from experience (my x wife cheated on me with more guys than you can imagine)... at one point, I thought I wanted to die. Literally. With time... it does ease up. I know that's the common, generic response. But it is true. I still think about it... every day to be honest. Certain things still chime memories of her taking her top off at parties... and I get angry all the time about it. And we've been divorced for two years.

Even though the relationship is dead... it can still haunt you. Try to keep your chin up, and take it a day at a time. And by God get back in that gym, man. I can't stress that enough. Keep strong physically. It will help you to be strong mentally, and vice versa.
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Listen to Val. Additioanlly, cut it off now. NO contact. NONE WHATSOEVER. And don't give her any justification for what she did in the form of calling her, nagging at her, etc... delete any notes, messages, e-mails before you read/hear them.

What you will come to realize is that there is no reason or justification for what she did. People that do things like this do them because they have built a justification in their minds. Those justifcations are built on false logic, and as such, aren't credible -- it is impossible to make sense of something built on faulty logic.

What it comes down to is she did it because she is selfish, because she wanted to, and because she thought she could get away with. I'm serious NO CONTACT especially while she is still with the OM. If she sincerely breaks it off with the OM and wants to work it out, then she must agree to couples counseling. Also, it will NEVER work unless you guys are together YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST BE PHYSICALLY present for this to have a chance in Hell (if that is what you want).

Even if you guys patch it up, you both will have to live w/ the damage and you both will have A LOT of HARD, MENTALLY ABUSIVE work to do to make it an equitable relationship. I say, dump her since you're not married and have no children together.

Stay physically active and talk to a therapist (insurance covers it) if you want to. Go to www.marriagebuilders.com and read the basic sections, they also have a great infidelity support bulliten board. I also want you to pick up a book titled "Letting Go Of Love" by Colgrove Bloomfield McWilliams.

YOU WILL SURVIVE
IT WAS HER CHOICE, NOT YOURS
NOTHING YOU DO CAN CONTROL HER ACTIONS
YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOUR OWN ACTIONS
YOU DESERVE BETTER
THERE ARE OTHERS OUT THERE THAT WILL GIVE YOU WHAT YOU DESERVE

Also, remember this -- who are you going to buy a car from, the confident, reassured guy or the guy that is crying to you and begging you to buy from him. Remember this in your dealings w/ her. Begging, crying, pleading is not attractive and makes it easier to let you go. Don't give her the chance. Break it off and keep a tough face around her. Don't be cruel or vindictive, just be real.

When it gets tough, repeat: I am alive, I will survive... sounds stupid but it works

Hang in there bro.

I know it seems like the world is ending.
 
Damn bro, I feel for you... heartbreaking for sure.

But, I liked Jimsbbc's thought. God works in mysterious ways. Things that seem so incredibly shitty at the time, is when most people try and give up, contemplate suicide, contemplate Dballers idea of killing her, and question "If there was a God, why would he do this to me." Understandable feelings for a human to have,
that feels so empty inside. "Sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." It may not seem true with all the hurt you have right now, but if you keep your head up, be righteous... and this thing we call "time" will heal your wound, and lead you to a person that is better for you. In the meantime, be strong, sane, and keep your head up the best you can.

Good luck my friend.
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Im really sorry to hear that bro. Just keep on, in a few weeks youll be back to your old self and will be better able to put this behind you. ANd remember, alcohol is NOT your friend. Good luck!1
 
That hurt to read. Just remember that everyting has to happen for a reason, it sux, but at least you didn't marry her and find out shes been cheating on you. Good luck and take care
 
get in line, brother. every other week this happens to someone (usually its a guy, but rarely its a woman who gets cheated on).

do you want to join B.I.T.C.H.E.S.?

try taking to tyrosine, pseudoephedrine HCL & 5htp. that will (to a degree) replenish the chemical withdrawl that is causing this hell you are in.

my god. i've never had that. the worst was when i lost maybe 3 hours sleep over a woman. i've never lost weight over a girl (unless you count dieting to find one). maybe im just cold & unemotional.
 
This REALLY seems to be a common trend...UN-FUCKING-BELIEVABLE.

I know a bro here who can sure sympathethize with you Drizzt8

I dont even know what to say, that shit hurt just reading it...ughh

What the fuck is wrong with women today? Seriously? :confused:
 
Forget about her. I know it sounds unrealistic but it is the best thing you could do for YOURSELF.
Go to the gym, give yourself some goals, grab life by it's balls.

It will get better.....:think: :beer:
 
NicolePap said:


Frack baby-- it works both ways-- see my post above-

xooxxo

Nicole
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draggon got it pretty bad. she was a girl


why does that happen? invariably, the cheater either

1. finds someone new in a few weeks
2. get closer to the new person after a few weeks than they are to their current lover

why
 
Frack,

I gave him some of the sound advice you hit me with...
 
This is almost unbearable....

I am numb right now....I cannot put into words how I feel right now...the pain is so great...We truly were a PERFECT couple....I NEVER cheated on her and I had many chances...I wanted nothing but to make her happy and she was my world...my EVERYTHING....She told me how much I meant to her repeatedly....always telling me how much she loved me....and that I was her dream come true. I lived with her in this apt. for months....and she left all her stuff here....its sourrounding me in our room....I have to sleep in OUR bed ....the one WE slept in together all those nights.....this apt. is killing me.....Even though nothing makes me feel any happiness at all right now....I cannot thank everyone enough for their responses....just knowing that people take the time to reply and know what I am feeling gives me a glimmer of hope of making it through the day....I am dead inside right now....my heart and soul is unbelievably crushed and twisted....but I thank you all....so much
 
Wodin, Cornholio, The Machine have given you sound advice. I can't add anything to it.

Also, it is good to see HighIntensity finally getting over the "why me" part of his loss as well.
 
I personally went through a bad time last year when it seemed that one thing after another was happening. I had girl troubles, people dying etc......not a good time. Things will get better but you need to deal with whats going on inside your head first. It will take some time and will be tough, I won't lie to you about that. But you will come through it stronger and be a better person for it, trust me. All the kind words in the world won't help much right now but move on and show your strength. I lost a bunch of weight last year when my incidents happened but it was because I was at the gym all the time doing cardio. I would just zone out and then look down and realize that I'd been on for a half hour or 45 mins already. Only you can stop the downward spiral my friend it's your decision to make. My thoughts are with you.
 
Been there...almost the exact thing happened to me a few years back.

She was living 1000 miles away while I was finshing school. She called and wrote all the time. I flew down for a week for my birthday and she was acting really strange. We went to a bar and she even disappeared on me for an hour...on my birthday. Her friends were really nice but were also acting strange because they could tell I was pissed. Besides, they were like 140lbs and I'm close to 185-190.

Anyhow, after the week was over, she just about dumped me off at the airport. I decided to call her house the following Monday morning at 7:55 AM...because I knew she was supposed to be at work by 8AM. Some guy answered the phone by her bed. I did this 4 mornings in a row and had the same results. On Friday, she had the nerve to call me and tell me I must have dialed the wrong number. I could hear a guy in the background at 12 PM...and she said it was the TV..she was watching 90210 at 12 in the afternoon.

Anyhow...I lost my shit. I drove non-stop to try and catch her. It took her 10 minutes to answer the door. I went upstairs to her room hoping to catch the guy only to hear the downstairs door slam as I was upstairs with her. Go figure.

Take it from me....RUN AWAY from her BS. You can never ever trust her again and that makes a miserable relationship.

Even 6 months after it happened, I was still so upset that I crammed my new truck into a telephone pole at 85 mph with a blood-alcohol level of .34 by the time they got me to the hospital.

She's trash. She'll probably call you and write to you. She'll apologize and possibly even try to get back at times. Since I would never hit a female, the best you can do is tell her to "fuck herself" and ignore her for life.

You need to get out with your friends...your family...hell...maybe even talk it out with people. Otherwise, you'll be miserable and will make yourself really sick. What right does she have to stab you in the back and then fuck up your life? She has none so don't let her do that to yourself.

Everyone here is correct. You learned a great lesson about her. Now is so much better than later when you are even more involved.

Someday, you'll meet up again. And when you do..make sure she regrets fucking you over till the day she dies.
 
That killed me just to read it....I invite you to join B.I.T.C.H.S....

SM
President, B.I.T.C.H.S.
Bashing In The Cunts, Hos, and Sluts
"Viewing Women With Extreme Prejudice"
 
oh my god. i am SO SO sorry. I seriously started crying reading your post. i don't know how people can be so cold. my heart goes out to you. i don't know that anything will help but time and some HARD work on your part (psychological, spiritual, etc), but maybe i can make a suggestion or two:

--get a notebook and start writing. write everything you feel. don't leave that shit boiling inside you. putting your feelings onto paper is a very valuable tool.

--write her a LONG letter saying everything inside you. call her everyname in the book if you want. tell her you love her if you want. tell her how hurt you are, etc.

--start meditating, praying, etc... whatever your "thing" is for dealing, start now. you will not get through this with time alone. the worst thing that could happen at this point is to allow that stupid bitch to continue to throw your life into turmoil by your staying angry. note i said STAYING angry. you certainly have every right to BE angry right now.

I will keep you in my prayers for certain.


As a side note... if you want to give us her e-mail address, i'm sure a few of us would be MORE than happy to give that stupid slut a piece of our minds.
 
Hey I recently was left for a piece of white trash twice my age last Aug. Use this to your advantage, focus your energy on getting bigger and stronger and get someone better...then rub it in her face.
It takes tim to get over her but one day you will just not give a fuck about her anymore. It beats having to mary her then get dvorced. Then youd end up with no girl and no money. There's much better out there.....
 
DO NOT.... I repeat....... DO NOT take this girl back..... she lied to you. If you take her back, she will do it again...... Your heart is a mess right now and it will be for a while....... but you will get over it... trust us... you will.......... and the weight loss thing is normal in a situation like this.......... all I did was drink beer for 2 weeks after this shit happened to me..... lost 20lbs......... have since put back on the lost 20 and 15 more.... the only thing that kept me going was dragging my ass to the gym and getting pissed at the weights........ after a while it wasn't the weights I was battling......... it was I against I .......... and I won so will you..........

Weightlifting is the best form of Prozac out there............
 
thefantom1 said:
DO NOT.... I repeat....... DO NOT take this girl back..... she lied to you. If you take her back, she will do it again...... Your heart is a mess right now and it will be for a while....... but you will get over it... trust us... you will.......... and the weight loss thing is normal in a situation like this.......... all I did was drink beer for 2 weeks after this shit happened to me..... lost 20lbs......... have since put back on the lost 20 and 15 more.... the only thing that kept me going was dragging my ass to the gym and getting pissed at the weights........ after a while it wasn't the weights I was battling......... it was I against I .......... and I won so will you..........

Weightlifting is the best form of Prozac out there............
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Preach it Fantom!!!!

StoneCold also gave you good advice bro!! Seems there are alot of us who have gone through this. It took me a good amount of time. Just keep telling yourself you are #1
 
You're way better than she is Drizzt, and there are many many women out there who will want you. There's not much you can do to recover immediately but the pain will go away a little at a time.
There's good advice here from all the EF brother and sisters. Don't worry we got yo' back.
 
About that apartment...

Dude ,
the first time a woman cheated on me we were living together. What did I do ? Well I lit a little fire with her things ...burned real nice , I was 19 and that fire still warms my heart to this day.
Now the second time was a little different , I took the photographs we had together , took out a knife and asked her what do these mean to you (we were arguing obviously). When she said nothin , then I shredded the whole pile. Bitch was still cryin over it two months on ,far as I was concerned she didn't deserve those memories - I couldn't stand the thought of her looking back over our love after she shit on it from a skyscraper.
Fuck her .... she sure fucked you.
 
I've said it many, many times on this board. It's that old Biblical pearl:

THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

A billion, trillion crosses to bear in this life, but you'll get thru it. Just gotta wait.

To speed up the wait, I would tell you that I don't believe any human is worth torturing yourself for. That's called idolatry: loving a false god, subjugating yourself, making yourself almost a "captive". (Wow, I sound like such a Bible-freak tonight.)

Fact is: this girl has given you a gift. She has proven herself soooo unworthy, allowing you to move on more quickly. Feel bad about being misled, about the disappointment. But don't think for one minute you've lost your "one true love."
 
Even though you are really devastated, it is not something to kill yourself over. I don't think there is any reason to bad mouth her, things happen, just get yourself together, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and show her what she missed out on. If you are really depressed keep yourself busy, it will keep your mind off of her. You will find someone else, just relax.
 
Thank you

I MUST thank everyone who took the time to write to me and reply to these threads....and to Dillon35 for creating a whole new thread....I am so devastated right now....I never mentioned in my original post one of the things that crushed me to the very core of my being....her new guy didnt know she had a BF....so I TOLD her I would make sure he DID know because it wasn't fair to him either....she had the heartless insensitive inhuman nerve to say to me "No! Why do you want to ruin this for me"? HOW COULD SOMEONE BE SO CRUEL! This remark still haunts me...it hurts so bad....my heart and soul are crushed and the world is grey to me..but as I said in my reply in Dillon's post....All of you have given me hope....
 
Tell him man, its not his fault and no guy should have to go through this, and chances are he will too. If he knew, then Id skin his ass
 
Yes you should definitely tell him! If he didn't know, then he did nothing wrong, and probably deserves to know what kind of scum he has been associating with.

I can't believe that fucking bitch said that to you. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me her e-mail address!!! I would really like to give this slut a piece of my mind.

I don't know why... but i've been thinking a lot about your situation. I have prayed for you every night since first reading your post, and will continue to do so.
 
Undecided....

I have written her quite an e-mail.....putting all my feelings down....I just don't know if I should send it to her or not....Im so confused and messed up....Im not totally sure if I should send her this one last thing...or just turn my back and forget about it totally....its killing me inside....
 
Drizz..post her e-mail address.

Haunting? Try being dumped at the airport and told "I can't wait for you to board because I have a date tonight"

The good thing was.....All that anger helped me lift harder. I juiced ever since then. I was so furious that it actually helped me in a lot of ways.

I could literally rip her head off and shit down her throat now if I wanted to.

Lots of fish in the sea bro....time to go fishing.
 
Hey bro,

I feel so bad for you, I went thru something almost exactly
the same. It sucks. It really sucks.
I wish I had some words of wisdom for you,
but your story has left me speechless.
Good luck to you, Take care of yourself.


And as for your fuckin' cheatin' whore woman...:finger:

Bitches.......AARRGGHHH!!!:mad: :mad: :mad:
 
I feel so so crushed...cant even out into words....

She called me yesterday....I asked her why she was....she said "Because I told you I would and because I care about you"....never even apologized....that was it....she is not coming back....staying out there with him.....we had plans for Thanksgiving, Christmans and New Years....now these will be a living hell....a waking nightmare for me..I was with her last New Years...kissing her at midnight....I know she will have to come get her stuff but I dont think I can be here....I will break down when I see her and I do not want to do that in front of her....this is killing me....I lay in bed at night...OUR bed and feel the empty space beside me and know that 5 hrs west of me she is in his arms.....it is the only feeling in my life that makes me want to die....I know that is wrong....but it is indescribeable....everything is so gray and dismal to me....its like my world is falling down around me....beating me into the ground....need to vent to stay sane....thanks.....
 
Don't worry Bro.. you will make it. Trust me. You may or may not believe in God.. but he will get revenge for you. She will get herpes or somthing for doing this to you. I pray she gets cancer.
 
Damn I hate to say it, but women are the masters of "The grass is greener over here" What she did is nothing very unusual. Women are always on the lookout for something better......sad but true
 
Re: I feel so so crushed...cant even out into words....

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She called me yesterday....I asked her why she was....she said "Because I told you I would and because I care about you"....never even apologized....that was it....she is not coming back....staying out there with him.....we had plans for Thanksgiving, Christmans and New Years....now these will be a living hell....a waking nightmare for me..I was with her last New Years...kissing her at midnight....I know she will have to come get her stuff but I dont think I can be here....I will break down when I see her and I do not want to do that in front of her....this is killing me....I lay in bed at night...OUR bed and feel the empty space beside me and know that 5 hrs west of me she is in his arms.....it is the only feeling in my life that makes me want to die....I know that is wrong....but it is indescribeable....everything is so gray and dismal to me....its like my world is falling down around me....beating me into the ground....need to vent to stay sane....thanks.....
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She still has stuff at your place??? GEEEEZ...can you say BONFIRE???? DO IT!!!! Did she have ANY regard for your feelings?? Fuck no. Burn her shit then ask her never to talk to you again and get some revenge on the guy she fucked. Look up revenge shit on the 'net. I'm telling you if you let people walk all over you all your life you WILL be miserable. Don't listen to people who say "Don't stoop to her level". Fuck that...she ripped your heart out get her back tenfold. My first wife cheated on me then moved in with the guy, like an ASS she left earrings here that meant the world to her, her mom had given them to her. They were diamonds. She asked for them back and I gave her cubic zirconium ones, she knew they were fake and begged me for them. I took those mega valuable things in to work and put then on the clearance blocks of a 5000 ton press. They were pulverized. Maybe the most cruel thing I had done. I sent them back to her with a naote that said " Look at these next time you want to ruin someone's life as a damn joke-now go die" I'm a hell of alot better person today for getting people back that fucked me over, turning over a new leaf is for sissies who go thru life apologizing.
 
Get her stuff out of YOUR apartment. Keeping it around only magnifies your misery. Do you think she is thinking about you right now? No. She's not. Then go buy the book I told you to in my first post and go see a therapist.

If you want to send the shit to her, do that. If you want to put it in storage, do that. I wouldn't burn it, that could lead to legal ramifications, the crux of which would be you having to be exposed to her more.

Stay strong... NO CONTACT... NOT FOR ANYTHING!!!

Most affairs crumble within 6 - 8 mos of inception.

There is absolutely no chance for you guys while he is in the picture. Let her find out all of the problems with him, etc., now that she doesn't have you to lean on. There is also no chance if you are not physically there.

Let it go. Buy the book I told you to and get rid of her shit. Remember, NO CONTACT for the immediate time being. Go to www.marriagebuilders.com too, like I said in the first post.

Keep venting too, that is very helpful. And normal. BTW everything you are feeling right now is normal.
 
in 3 months time the pain will be much less... in six months time you will just feel a bit of hurt.. in a year you will feel very little towards that girl - you will have moved on. I recommend you find another girl... you need some girl company - to take your mind off your ex.
 
Fuck legal ramifications.... take that bitch's shit and either burn it or sell it off. Thats basically what she did to you. There won't be a goddamn thing she can do about it. Take her valuables and sell them. Jewelry, clothes, electronic, whatever you can find. Then take the money and do something nice for yourself. Go on vacation, gamble it away, etc. Just don't buy something material that you'd want to keep, because it will always be a tie to her, and you don't want that. Take other stuff she values that isn't worth money (pictures, letters, gifts from friends or family, etc) and burn it. Then put the ashes in a big box and mail it to her with a list of what it used to be.

and bro.... i've changed my mind about the high road. Give us that bitch's e-mail address!!!
 
Update....still feel like a part of me is missing

Well....it has now been almost 3 weeks since this all happened to me....its been the worst 3 weeks of my life.....she came home to her parent's for Thanksgiving....and brought him with her....I talked to her on the comp. and told her to come get her stuff out of my apt....she tried to tell me that I would have to wait till around X-mas....I was like...I dont think so....its not fair for me to have to look at all these bags of her stuff....not too mention her shelves,pillows,stereo,phone all still in my room.....she was so so cold...she still has never properly apologized and still has not even asked how my dad is doing (he has cancer)...and my family was so good to her....I left for like an hour and a half...while she AND HIM showed up to get her stuff....its now all gone....she didnt leave a good bye note or anything....I cannot understand the depths of human insensitivity and cruelty sometimes....its heart wrenching and mind boggling....ahhh...the holiday season...so begins my torture.....
PS-I need to thank Dillon35, High Intensity, Frackal, Sexual Mustard, Dballer...and many more for your support..it means a lot....and yes..I do believe I am ready to officially join B.I.T.C.H.E.S.
 
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"That which does not destroy you, will make you stronger."

I know this sounds cliche but believe me when I tell you that time heals all wounds. Each day will get a bit easier.... the pain will singe just a little less and you will even laugh again.... you have my word.

She did you a HYUGE favor. Think about it.... would you have been able to let her go had she not been such a calloused bitch? Believe me when I tell you I KNOW HOW MUCH IT HURTS. I still live with the pain daily, not because of the loss of love. No, but because of how someone with whom I shared my hopes, dreams, MY LIFE - could do the cruel things that he has....

But in the end, it is all good. I am getting stronger every day - and SO WILL YOU. Then when you least expect it, an honest and genuine love will slowly find its way into your heart... How do I know? I don't know anything for sure.... but I still believe. I HAVE TO. If I give up this hope then I'll die on the inside.... I am too wonderful to let that happen - AND SO ARE YOU!

:)
 
Dude, that's horrible. I can't even imagine the pain you are feeling. Just know that eventually you will get over it. Killing that whore will help immensly. I honestly would drive up there and beat the shit out of her. Or you could pick her up for a talk and drop her off in the ghetto in the middle of the night.
 
DRIZZ HANG IN THERE BUDDY, YOU AND I ARE IN THE SAME BOAT...

WHERE BETTER OFF...
 
Hey Drizz...getting rid of that stuff makes it easier. I went thru the same exact thing once too. My story is so similiar to yours that it was weird reading your first post on this thread.

Good riddens....now go bang someone else like a screen door in a hurricane.
 
Your welcome,
But no offence, you need to get off your ass and go to the gym.
She is living happy and you are letting her win, i don't know how many times i have to tell you that before you get it through your head, the more you wine the weaker it makes you and she will see it as weakness, and i told you 3 weeks ogo to GET RID OF HER SHIT, and now is even a better reason to burn it because she brought the mother fucker home and she didn't take the time to come and get it.


If you had cheated on her...........think about that, think about what a woman would do. She would have cooked thanksgiving dinner on all the stuff that you would have left behind.
 
Sell her shit.

Use the money to hire a hit man.

Kill her.

Rob her corpse and go get yourself a hooker.
 
You should of put a hex on your place so when a guy male other then yourself walked in the door, it would trip, and he would explode getting gore all over the bitch.

If only....
 
DILLON

Dillon...thanks for the kick in the ass....I have been back in the gym....slowly getting back to where I was....and all her stuff is gone...I never whined to her...I was just adamant about her getting it out this weekend...no way was it going to stay here till Christmas....I just cannot believe she showed up with him and took so long that 2 hrs later...they were still there....I saw him standing outside my place....packing stuff into his car....I felt it smart to keep driving....Anyway..just to let you know I appreciate your advice....and I am def. off my ass and training again...living again...good times and bad times still...like a roller coaster...and the holidays will make it worse...but I'll win....I know this now....thanks again....
 
it could be worse...

bro i totally feel for you. its the most fucked up, helpless, aching, painful feeling in the world. as bad as you feel, its better for you not to be with a girl like that. i think i felt even worse than you do though.

last year i had the perfect girl. she is the only girl i know that truly loved me. i was immature at the time and broke up with her over some trivial, meaningless bullshit. i looked her in the eye and told her i didnt want to be with her while she was crying and begging me to stop saying what i was saying. once i realized how bad i fucked up it was too late. she was serious with another guy and would not give me another chance. she cried on the phone and told me that she would never have broken up with me but now its too late to go back. if it wasnt for my immature, fucked up thinking i know we would have spent the rest of our lives together. a day doesnt go by that i dont think about that.

damn, now i want to die!:(

seriously bro, you will make it. stay busy, party with your friends, fuck random bitches and train like a motherfucker!
 
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