I cant take it anymore!!!

[TheOak84]

STILL no sex from my GF... Since my last post which was a lil over 6 weeks ago... Shes just not horny, we talked about it, she said she doesnt know why. She seems to have more fun with her friends then with me. I suggested we break up, she said no she loves me etc. Does this happen after 3 years of being together? Is it normal? we see eatchother at LEAST 1 hour a day. when we do spend time its usually a whole day or days in a row like a weekend.

im so stressed over it. it cant be my body. maybe its hers? maybe she thinks shes not attractive, but then again, she doesnt do anything to change herself.

Is it apathy?

 

[TightSlacks]

She is done with you, but is too insecure to leave you. She will the second she finds someone else.

Sorry bro. It happens to all of us.

Seriously, break up with her, and stop dragging it out. If that is you in your avatar, then you will get all the girls you want.

Oh. Bang some strange ASAP!

 

[Wulfgar]

she is fucking another guy...i guarantee it 150%

 

[redsamurai]

I whole heartedly agree with the previous two posts....although, she "might" not be fucking another guy.....she's certainly done with you. She does not love you, and she is evil for telling you so. Seriously....the fucking bitch doesn't have the honor to do the right thing, even though it means she'll be alone for some time. These are the type of women who should be thrown off a cliff in a burlap sack. By the way, I would feel the same of a man who would string a woman like this....

I'm really sorry for you bro....but if you wait, it will only hurt that much more when she does break up with you and you find out she's dating another guy. You'll be sitting at home feeling like shit while she'll be out dating a guy she's been seeing all the while she was with you.....get out NOW!!!

 

[Arabian]

Sorry to hear this. Good luck

 

[PBR]

she is fucking another guy...i guarantee it 150%

i will concur....you know its not normal behaviour. the mind, if allowed- will go thru a million scenerios every day. some may be true, some may not. but it will tear you down and exhaust you. do yourself a favor, say "good-bye"...go thru your range of emotions (because you will) its normal...and go on. life is short and it doesnt wait for anyone...im sorry bro. been there. Peace.

 

[deco]

That's weird especially when it's comming from the girls side.
But honestly, I don't think there's a need for that much stress. Sexual desire always dies down from what I've experienced and heard from others. I'm sure there are ways to maybe fix the problem, my advice would be to start fucking other girls. It's the number 1 solution to not getting bored with hitting the same old pussy everyday, plus since you ain't really hitting it, you really aren;t losing anything. As a matter of fact it will take your mind of that subject, keep you busy and entertained.
I wouldn't be too sure about her banging another cock, although in a girl it's very possible cause from a guys perspective I don't think anyone with balls atached to their body will be giving a fuck about banging some strange ass by a mistake and going to her girlfriend the next day. Save the guilt feelings for when you are 30 with kids.

 

[deco]

you sound like a girl by the way. Just the other day I heard a similar story from a girl who's sister can't get her boyfriends dick up lately

 

[Gymgurl]

At that point she most likely is not to interested with you and if she has more fun with her friends then you need to move on Oak...Oh and whack one out you might feel better

 

[KD1]

Yup she is either...

1.) Fucking some other dude.
2.) Looking for some other dude, not interested anymore, will dump you when she finds someone.
3.) Found some other dude, hasnt fucked him yet, but feels like sleeping with you would be "cheating" on him. As soon as she fucks him, you are gone.

Either way, you need to move on.

 

[KD1]

you sound like a girl by the way. Just the other day I heard a similar story from a girl who's sister can't get her boyfriends dick up lately

Deca dick?

 

[PBR]

That's weird especially when it's comming from the girls side.
But honestly, I don't think there's a need for that much stress. Sexual desire always dies down from what I've experienced and heard from others. I'm sure there are ways to maybe fix the problem, my advice would be to start fucking other girls. It's the number 1 solution to not getting bored with hitting the same old pussy everyday, plus since you ain't really hitting it, you really aren;t losing anything. As a matter of fact it will take your mind of that subject, keep you busy and entertained.
I wouldn't be too sure about her banging another cock, although in a girl it's very possible cause from a guys perspective I don't think anyone with balls atached to their body will be giving a fuck about banging some strange ass by a mistake and going to her girlfriend the next day. Save the guilt feelings for when you are 30 with kids.

i think he is in a serious relationship here...i could be wrong , but 3 years is awhile...going on 6 weeks in a 3 year relationship without SEX with someone you "love" is not normal...understanding the dialogue Oak expressed between he and her- would lead me to believe "greener-pastures" have been found by said GF...to each his own...we all have our limits with what we can put up with and what we cannot...her actions speak (or lack of) louder than words...

 

[TheOak84]

We did talk about it before, she said the fact that I dont trust her, the little bickering and me puting her down about certain things makes her not want to. I can understand that. I used put her down about not goin to the gym or not having any hobbies other then shopping etc. that was years ago, she might be dwelling on the past. Ive changed 100% since then. I dont argue about petty shit, I stand by her throughout and im more envolved in the relationship, she said this is the best the relationship has been and she is happy. Maybe it was me and i took her feelings for granted?

 

[damnitmannn727]

Save yourself sometime and break up her. Trust me bro, I went through the same shit. Bitch is most likely cheating on you. Good luck!

 

[needtogetaas]

holy shit bro you cant be that dumb.she is fucken some one elce.there is no arguing that.

 

[manny78]

STILL no sex from my GF... Since my last post which was a lil over 6 weeks ago... Shes just not horny, we talked about it, she said she doesnt know why. She seems to have more fun with her friends then with me. I suggested we break up, she said no she loves me etc. Does this happen after 3 years of being together? Is it normal? we see eatchother at LEAST 1 hour a day. when we do spend time its usually a whole day or days in a row like a weekend.

im so stressed over it. it cant be my body. maybe its hers? maybe she thinks shes not attractive, but then again, she doesnt do anything to change herself.

Is it apathy?

Bro. You're young, you havent been with her long enough to jsutify any real and serious efforts and she's definitely not worth it so leave and fuck other girls cuz she's most likely having her hole drilled by other guys.

 

[TheOak84]

Bro. You're young, you havent been with her long enough to jsutify any real and serious efforts and she's definitely not worth it so leave and fuck other girls cuz she's most likely having her hole drilled by other guys.

ive been friends with her since 8th grade (as well as liked) and been dating her since 2003. Thats a dam long time. About half my life.

 

[manny78]

ive been friends with her since 8th grade (as well as liked) and been dating her since 2003. Thats a dam long time. About half my life.

Who cares if you were friends. You've been dating her for 3 years and she's already pulling the no-sex card ? Again, get another one...

 

[Gymgurl]

You would be cut off the first month that you got married....run boy run

 

[redsamurai]

You would be cut off the first month that you got married....run boy run

right on....and this is coming from a woman. If she's never been happier than she would be "at least" affectionate with you. Everyone goes through times when they're not interested in "sex"....but they still understand you have to remain somewhat affectionate with the person or you risk them feeling like they've been shunned.

 

[TheOak84]

Well I wish I can have a swinger wifey like GG

<3

 

[TC2]

We did talk about it before, she said the fact that I dont trust her, the little bickering and me puting her down about certain things makes her not want to. I can understand that. I used put her down about not goin to the gym or not having any hobbies other then shopping etc. that was years ago, she might be dwelling on the past. Ive changed 100% since then. I dont argue about petty shit, I stand by her throughout and im more envolved in the relationship, she said this is the best the relationship has been and she is happy. Maybe it was me and i took her feelings for granted?

fuck her...she's lying to you.

 

[deco]

We did talk about it before, she said the fact that I dont trust her, the little bickering and me puting her down about certain things makes her not want to. I can understand that. I used put her down about not goin to the gym or not having any hobbies other then shopping etc. that was years ago, she might be dwelling on the past. Ive changed 100% since then. I dont argue about petty shit, I stand by her throughout and im more envolved in the relationship, she said this is the best the relationship has been and she is happy. Maybe it was me and i took her feelings for granted?

nagging and fighting and all that other bullshit really kills my desire to have sex with my girlfriend. Shit I'd rather have her talk to dudes and make me jelous as opposed to having her talk about how I'm talking to too many girls and the risk of cheating etc etc. That shit always kills any sort of joy to do anything, be a man about it and make it exciting instead of depressing. If you want to take her to the gym, grab her hand and drag her out. Be exciting and spontenous so you can provide some fresh energy to the relationship. I also think you guys spend too much time together, which was the problem with my current girlfriend but not anymore. I was turning into a couch potatoe, would spend my nights and weekends with her or getting shitfaced with some friends. Life was getting boring and creating this negative energy around me. That's why I had to stop and start living again.
I mean think about it, why did your girl first like you? or better yet, what type of guys do girls generally like? is it the boring fat asses sitting at home with no life or any sort of prosperity. It almost seems like these girls want to bring you there, seperate you from your stupid friiends that they hate, get all the attention from you and so on. But when that happens, I think the fact that your life have become absolutely fucking boring might actually hurt a few things, inculding you and her.
So this is why I think you need to cut that string that's atached to your balls right now, stop bitching and get after it. Put some energy back into your life, fuck that only will take your mind off the bullshit thats going through your head right now. I don't think she fell in love with a pussy, and don't get me wrong I'm not trying to hurt your feelings here or anything, as a matter of fact I've come to realize this myself here a few months ago when I made thread saying how I don't wanna fuck or kiss my girlfriend. The problem was, I slowed down in life, we became like and old fucking couple nagging and bitching. Fuck sex, I didn't even wanna masturtbate. You need to fire those engines up and stop letting bullshit get to your head.

 

[TheOak84]

Ya, thats what im trying, I also have a shitty home situation, my gf knows this. I try to make the best of us. It has been getting better.

but today, just now we were flirting and shit on my bed, about to get touchy feely and shes like, i wana nap. I took that as a sign of no sex, so i came here. she was like wtf, why did u leave ect. so, am i over analyzing shit?

 

[deco]

well that just created a conflict so it probobly put both of you out of the mood. You shoulda started playing with her pussy, don't rape her but do initialize sex and be in control since she doesn't sound like she's a wild one. If she rejects again, try not to make a huge deal about it cause then she will feel guilty and do it, neither of you might enjoy it too much and it will blow up in your face at the end anyway.
Try talkin about sex to her, be open and see what happens. Make her feel comfortable without any tension. Find a way to get her horny. If not it's probobly better to not stress it as much cause I think it will only make it worse.

 

[rnch]

usually this doesn't happen until AFTER you get married.

if she still wants to be "just friends", fine....nothing wrong with that.

but YOU need a new GIRLFRIEND.

 

[medical]

We did talk about it before, she said the fact that I dont trust her, the little bickering and me puting her down about certain things makes her not want to. I can understand that. I used put her down about not goin to the gym or not having any hobbies other then shopping etc. that was years ago, she might be dwelling on the past. Ive changed 100% since then. I dont argue about petty shit, I stand by her throughout and im more envolved in the relationship, she said this is the best the relationship has been and she is happy. Maybe it was me and i took her feelings for granted?

Then change back to Mr. Asshole....I bet you were hitting it hard then. Some girls just can't get horny with a nice guy....she feels she has "changed" you all she can so the thrill is gone for her. Either way it is over....and you already know that. Dump her, get some strange, and you'll probably have her showing up at your door at 2am for some wild sex.....for a short time. Then just move on....please.

 

[deco]

Then change back to Mr. Asshole....I bet you were hitting it hard then. Some girls just can't get horny with a nice guy....she feels she has "changed" you all she can so the thrill is gone for her. Either way it is over....and you already know that. Dump her, get some strange, and you'll probably have her showing up at your door at 2am for some wild sex.....for a short time. Then just move on....please.

that will probobly work too

 

[solidspine]

Sounds like a tough situation.

 

[Cutiebaby]

I am sorry to hear about this. I am going to try not to be too harsh here...

However, She is not worth it.Let her go. What good can possibly come out of a sexless relationship, especially one where the fem has more fun and interests with her friends than her "lover".
You wanna know my opinion? Here it is....She is either a lebian or cheating on you.At first I thought that maybe she had issues but dude..Really how many couples do you know that have this problem? She has made it clear that she is not attracted to you. She does not want to have sex and she does not enjoy spending time with you. If you ask me, she is not worth it. The aggravation of it all... And at this point there is no need for an ultimatum. Just leave her. I am sure there is far better out there for you!

 

[_n8o_]

who wears the pants dude? how much control doe's she have over your feelings? ditch it, feel sad, rebound on some sluts, feel better for it

 

[heatherrae]

You would be cut off the first month that you got married....run boy run

Hallelujah! Marriage to a person with a low sex drive is TERRIBLE! Run for the hills!!!!! You will never get a good blow job from this chick ever again, if she ever did. Dump her.

 

[kanda98]

I hate this topic but I believe it's my duty comment on it...

I was in the same boat as you but I think I have it worse than you. I was with this girl for 8 years since I was 15 years old in high school. We were each others 1st in every sexual aspect imaginable. We won our high school's cutiest couple superlative. Everyone wondered when we were going to get married.

We went to Junior college together, did everything and anything...went on trips to Islands, Florida, you name it we did it. Both tied at the hip Her father went to jail for Real Estate Fraud and I helped take of her family w/ money and mental support. Her family loved me, her parents/siblings said they couldn't wait till we got married.

Her dream as a little girl was to go to NYC to become a dancer/singer, so after Junior college she left for a 4 year college in NYC to get her BA in Dance/Theatre and then after that, start her adventure to be a successful dancer/singer.

She didnt want to leave me but I was only 50 miles away from where I lived to NYC so it was only little 45min drive. The 1st 2 years she commuted back and forth from NYC to our hometown so I saw her every night when she got back from school. That was great and plus her not being attached at my hip 24/7 was also good for us both, because it made us want to see each other that much more.

After the 2 years she recieved her BA at in Dance/Theatre, and everything was great.....Sex was great, communication was great, we knew that we would be with each other forever. This year 2006, she insisted that she wanted to try and live in NYC for 1 year to see if she could conquer her dream as a professional dancer/singer. Shame on me if I didnt let her live out her dream. What kind of BF would I be if I wouldnt let her do what shes been to dieing to do? She wanted me to live there with her but I'm not a city guy, plus I had just started my career in our hometown. I lent her $2000 to put down on an nice apartment on the upper east side with a girl that she knew from her college. I helped her move, bought her a laptop, a $700 mattress, new odds and ends for her new apartment. I went to visit her every weekend to site see Manhattan and to of course be with her. But then all of a sudden the SEX went bad. I'd figure that she would be all over me since we only saw eack other on the weekends, but that just wasn't the case. She said it wasn't me and that she was stressed out with money and the living conditions. I agreed that $400 a week as a hostess wasnt going to cut a $1900 month rent, plus other daily expenses. I brushed it off and continued to love her as promised, even though were only having sex 2x a month.

Well, time went on and I began to get very suspicous over her phone bills being very high. Her bill was under my name so I always could find out who and when she was making calls. I never did this before, but I had a hunch to see who she's been talking to. A city number that she was calling 20x a day kept showing up...I called it to see who it was It was a guy at her work that she was with for the last 8 months. I spoke with the guy and she was playing him like she was to me. If a girl is going to cheat on me it better be with a RICH Justin Timberlake looking mutha fucka. This guy was an ugly piece of shit waiter who worked with her. He thought he had a ligitiment girlfriend for the last 8 months, so he felt it was his duty to tell me everything. He explained that even before him, that she dated his friends from work 2 years ago. What's strange is that she once introduced me to this guy when I went to visit her at her restaurant a while back. I guess she told him I was a friend from school or something. Sneaky bitch!!!

So all in all, this girl who I thought was my soul mate, has been cheating on me for the last 3 years with multiple guys, and I never cheated on her.

I thought that if I couldnt trust this girl, how the hell could I trust another one?

If you're having doubts on whether you think you're girl is cheating on you...some how get "her" cell phone bill and call the number that keeps popping up on the bill. Remember she is innocent till proven guilty. So do your investigation!!!!

This is very new to me only 2 weeks ago I found all this out.

 

[deco]

holly fucking god damn

I have to very close friends who were in a simlar situation. One guy was dating this girl since they were both 15, 7 years later he transfered schools and 3 months down the road the girl had a new boyfriend. Kept telling him everything is okay and not to worry, bitch even put him on myspace as #1(pretty bad in this case) while still not breaking up with the current one. Plus this guy bought her shit and they had a whole lot of memories together, where as the other guy is some creepo who dresses up like neo everyday.

The other guy actually got engaged to his girl and few years later she left him for his best friend.

So don't expect much from women and you won't get hurt. Mind your own life, it's worth so much more than stressing over some dumb bitch with no respect for herself or anyone around her. If you're succesful, anyone girl out there will be kissing your ass, even if they deny this.

 

[TheOak84]

dam, girls arnt worth it.

i should just become a pornstar

 

[KD1]

So all in all, this girl who I thought was my soul mate, has been cheating on me for the last 3 years with multiple guys, and I never cheated on her.

I thought that if I couldnt trust this girl, how the hell could I trust another one?

<snip>

This is very new to me only 2 weeks ago I found all this out.

Damn bro,
sorry to hear such a fucked up story.

I gotta say, 90% of women are fucked up, out for themselves evil selfish bitches who lie, cheat, do whatever it takes to get what THEY want.

I say 90% because there are some good ones, some really good honest people who just happen to be girls.

But most women are fucking evil.

Go out there and get some payback bro, get as many girls as you can, tell them you are crazy about them, whatever it takes - hit it till you are bored then move on. Play them before you get played.

 

[wootoom]

dude end it NOW!!!! u will fuckin thank me