How often are you asked...

[buffalogal]

Where I used to work, they bought cases of bottled water for the office & I prefer my water cold - so since noone else would do it (lazy asses!) I'd put the cases into the fridge when needed. Well I could carry 1 case in each hand - 2 at a time.

The men would just stand by & watch me with their jaws open.....wussies!

That happened to me at Kroger yesterday. Walked out of the story carrying a 24-pack of bottled water in one hand. When they saw me lift it, the men scattered - guess they knew to stay out of my way. And, they sure didn't want to offer to help...

 

[strawberry2]

I hate it when men offer to help pick-up or carry something that is obviously not THAT heavy. Or they see you pick it up, then they run over to help you when you don't need it. Also, at the gym they offer to help you put on or off the 45lb weights...its like "hey, this is a gym, I'm here to workout, not have you reduce what I came here to do -- lift!" If I need the help, I'll ask for it...but this "women are helpless or weak" is BS! (I used to get the same looks or comments when I would ride my motorcycle)

That happened to me at Kroger yesterday. Walked out of the story carrying a 24-pack of bottled water in one hand. When they saw me lift it, the men scattered - guess they knew to stay out of my way. And, they sure didn't want to offer to help...

 

[Sassy69]

See my sig -- "Pink weights or Big Plates --- which are you?"

Rack 'em girl!

 

[iceprincess]

Hey, everyone, I just noticed this thread after checking out the “Thread of the Month” poll and had to chime in…

I just recently got married and about 6 weeks before the big day, I started dieting down for the honeymoon night… I was really happy with how progress was going…great ab lines, the beginning of quad cuts, etc. When I saw some people that I hadn't seen in awhile, they just looked at me and were like, “you have lost WAY too much weight.” My fiance (at the time) tried to stand up for me by explaining that I was keeping or gaining muscle but reducing my fat, and they were like “gaining muscle our butt”. The general population just doesn't get it!! It is funny because now that the wedding is over, I am trying to actually gain some muscle, and I am sure they would be THRILLED to see me now!! What a messed up mindset we live in today!!

To make it worse, these are lifelong friends who have watched me go through figure skating and know that I am (thankfully) blessed with being “fit” to begin with. It’s a lot easier to ignore the occasional people that just don’t get it or will never understand, compared to people that know you so personally. But, friends or not, everyone here is right: it comes down to knowing you’re doing this for yourself and enjoying it, because we will always be “strange” in the eyes of the normal population.

 

[buffalogal]

To make it worse, these are lifelong friends who have watched me go through figure skating and know that I am (thankfully) blessed with being “fit” to begin with. It’s a lot easier to ignore the occasional people that just don’t get it or will never understand, compared to people that know you so personally. But, friends or not, everyone here is right: it comes down to knowing you’re doing this for yourself and enjoying it, because we will always be “strange” in the eyes of the normal population.

You said it girl - it hurts a little when your friends think you're "strange." But, I think most people eventually get to the point where they realize you're happy with this lifestyle.

As I've slowly discovered the past few weeks, they will soon accept it and be happy for you. Either that, or they realize if I'm not happy, nobody's happy...

 

[fitbabe]

my mother in law came out with "why dont you get your hair cut now? Because when you do your hair like that (straightened) your face looks too thin." Then my sister in law said "thats not the words you used. You said she looked haggared."

I just laughed at her

 

[treilin]

I was thinking the same thing today when I was sitting at Cracker Barrel for my reward meal. Obviously, people in there eat like that ALL the time. And I was thinking how horrible it would be to live like that, especially now that I'm used to this way of eating. I could not wait to get out of there, for fear I would go back to eating like that. These supposed "reward" meals are opening my eyes to how much I really don't like the way I used to be.

That was one reason for my divorce. I just couldn't take being married to a man who didn't share my enthusiasm for the same things. Now, I look forward to finding someone who actually does...

Girl we have a lot in common. I got divorced also. One of the main reasons was he put on the health nut phase before we got married and then he fell off to the waste side. Didn't work-out, ate, slept, sat on the couch. I couldn't take it. I feel exactly the same as you! If I get married again the guy will definitely have to prove that he is as crazy about being healthy as I am!

I get the comments all the time. Funny when I was dieting down I got you are getting to thin, and now that I'm adding muscle I hear you're getting big, or please don't beat me up, or your arms are bigger then mine, or you lift more weights then half the guys in this gym. Some of those I take as compliments the other ones I just brush off. Most of my co-workers like some others actually come to me for advice and a few have listened. At least they all understand that I don't eat the junk so don't offer it up to me! I have some friends that stand up to other friends of mine that say"Don't you think she's overboard?" They always back me up and say,"No she's healthy and I would love to have half the motivation that she has!"
Just keep plugging away.. People usually have a hard time supporting you at first I think they are secretly jealous of your will to look good and be healthy. They don't have enough control to do it themselves, and now they admit it to me.
P.S. My favorite restaurant is Caracker Barrel!!!