Rolgor, its funny that you mentioned thay you guys became friends after that. That happened a lot when I was a kid. As a matter of fact, my best/tightest childhood friendships were with other kids who Id get in a fight with the moment we were in the same space together. The first day of anything, school, camp, boy scouts, whatever, I de get in a couple scraps and then we were all a tight crew! But the stakes are a lot higher these days, if you get into it in a bar or club, those seem to be the places shit starts the most, its not much of a bonding experience. I consider myself very peaceful, I cant stand hassles, but I really dont enjoy going out too much because of all the hotheads out there. And if I go out, Ill never drink right at the bar. The shoving and elbowing is mandatory, it sucks. Ive never ended up friends with anyone Ive gotten into it at a bar. Mostly because you gotta get it done fast and bolt before a.) more people show up for the guy you just dropped or b.) security gets there - Ive had some close calls so I figure the smart thing is to avoid those situations. I think if you keep going to the kinds of places where shit starts, you may yourself be a hothead who kind of passively lets trouble find him. And house parties where you dont know too many people are always sketchy, either sausage parties or if there are any fine pieces they are jealously guarded by their local friends. You gotta pick your spots carefully these days.