how do you ask your mother...

[Carmen]

Well it has been a significant amount of time since she recieved the letter and still no reply back-- so in return i have not really waited just keeping everyone up to date since i said i would. I am upset a little but i know that is just from the fact that i knew this would happen.
She apparently is now being avoided by my father as well.
I went and saw my dad last night and i have to say it felt so good seeing him. He really is the best part of my life and for that im thankful.

I figure as long as i have him i will be okay; Im not going to sit and wait for something that will never happen.
Thanks to all the ladies who replied to my thread i totally appreciate everything.

Dakotah

sorry hon, i know what it feels like to toss out a line and not have it taken.
you tried. you can't feel guilty and you did what you could.
hugs to you baby.

 

[MandieG]

Sorry you didn't hear back from your mom.........

Don't feel guilty you did what you HAD to do and got it out of your system....

Hugs
Mandie

 

[Dakotah]

I dont think i feel guilty just really tired and exhausted.

I have been so busy working lately that i dont have time to feel anything else.
But i am changing the subject a little -- my dad is doing alot better now he is working on staying sober for permanent.
Im super proud of him.

 

[Carmen]

I dont think i feel guilty just really tired and exhausted.

I have been so busy working lately that i dont have time to feel anything else.
But i am changing the subject a little -- my dad is doing alot better now he is working on staying sober for permanent.
Im super proud of him.

EXCELLENT!
i wish mine had (he didn't drink, just smoked pot every day of his life).
i bet your dad's pretty proud of you too.

 

[Miss24k]

Well Dakotah, you did what you thought you needed to, it really is her loss not yours. You just need to cut her out of your life and move on with the more positive things and people in your life. I'm glad to hear your dad is trying to fix his problem. I wish you the best of luck girl. Keep your head up

 

[jenscats5]

BIG *HUGS* girlie.....

 

[Dakotah]

Hugs to all of you and thanks for the support during my uneasy time.

 

[eroticnsweet]

Hi there, i am new to this sight and saw this and just had to write. It seems like this has kind of been closed, but wanted to give you maybe a different way to look at it. I had a terrible child hood at the hands of my mother's boyfriends. Once she found out everything that had happened to me with these men, she cut contact. I tried and begged for her to talk to me. I didn't understand and i had so much anger, because i was going through so much and didn't understand how she could just abandon me. After i had my daughter 4 years ago, her and i talked about it. She said the hardest part for her was that she felt like she had done me wrong. She knew that what i went through with these men would scar me for life, and she felt it was her fault because she brought these men into my life. She had told me she wanted to be there for me every day, but was afraid. She did not know how to make up for cutting contact for me, and as every day went by, it put more and more time and made it more difficult for her. Perhaps your mom knows she has done wrong, and it is hard for her. You realize more once you become a mother yourself, and i am sure what your mom is probably going through with not having her obviously wonderful and courageous daughter in her life is extremely hard for her, and even thought you opened the door, or you feel you did, perhaps she took the letter as attacking her, which inturn made it even harder on her. I am sure she knows you are hurt and are in pain, but maybe she is afraid, perhaps she doesn't know how to answer your questions just yet. You hang in there and i think you did the right thing by writing her, just try to step over that fence and think about how she might have took your letter. I know it is hard when you are hurt and upset. And congrats about your dad!!! I hope all works out for him!!!!!!!!