Helping a Mom that is Desperate! Please .

[SouthernLord]

Ark, make her get a physical before starting any serious physical activity. 20 minutes of walking around the neighborhood would be a great start and she could easily build upon that. She has to get active.

I know your diet She could practically follow it to a tee and I bet she would start dropping weight. She prepares all your meals now. All she would have to do is prepare double portions.

A regular sleep schedule (7-8 continuous hours) would be a big help for her too.

 

[ark94]

Ark, make her get a physical before starting any serious physical activity. 20 minutes of walking around the neighborhood would be a great start and she could easily build upon that. She has to get active.

I know your diet She could practically follow it to a tee and I bet she would start dropping weight. She prepares all your meals now. All she would have to do is prepare double portions.

A regular sleep schedule (7-8 continuous hours) would be a big help for her too.

Thanks Southern, i know for sure i am starting her up with cardio atleast 2 times a week, just walking and then progress to 5times a week.

So you think she can follow my diet? I told my mom that, and she said she could except for breakfast, that 4 eggs would be too much.

Also, i come to this new question. I said before she works nights, comes home and sleeps from 8 till whenever she wakes up. (her set pattern has been waking up between 12-1) Then she stays up until 6 or 7, and sleeps until 10 and goes to work for 11. She doesn't work like that everyday day, she works 3 on, 2 days off, then 2 on, 3 off and rotates.

So she asked me this morning, when she comes home in the morning at 7, i will make her the same breakfast as i eat, but should she eat before she goes to sleep? That was her main question because i have heard, and she said that it isn't good to eat before bed, so can she eat that at 7, then sleep at 8? Or eat that breakfast at 12? when she wakes up? OR, should she eat it before going to work? Because she is up the most then? Any idea on how to set this up?

 

[Rebecca D]

I struggle with my parents weight as well. No matter what I told them in the past they would not change their lifestyles. I finally started visiting them more often (they live about two hours away) and started walking with them. I also got in the kitchen with them. I found that they are much more receptive to my actions than my words. If you can, make time to walk with her and eat as many meals as possible with her. That should help motivate her. See if you can get any of her friends to walk with her as well. Once you get her on a better diet and regular walks during the week then you can move toward more advanced workouts.

Rebecca D

 

[ark94]

I struggle with my parents weight as well. No matter what I told them in the past they would not change their lifestyles. I finally started visiting them more often (they live about two hours away) and started walking with them. I also got in the kitchen with them. I found that they are much more receptive to my actions than my words. If you can, make time to walk with her and eat as many meals as possible with her. That should help motivate her. See if you can get any of her friends to walk with her as well. Once you get her on a better diet and regular walks during the week then you can move toward more advanced workouts.

Rebecca D

Thanks Rebecca! Well i have realized that if i sit down and eat with my mom she will eat the same as me. Only thing is, i go to school all day, and don't come home until dinner. So i have no idea how to make my mom eat the 5 meals she is supposed to eat at home if she doesn't have somebody to sit down and eat with. And she doesn't even want to eat the same portions as me, and my diet would suit her perfect. (Btw, southern im going to send you a message about that).

I try and get my mom to walk as much as possible, instead of her saying she is too tired from now on, i am just going to have to get her to walk. We live out in the country, and there is nobody she knows here, everybody is like 45minutes away at minimum that she knows, most of them live in another city. So i try and walk with her as much as possible.

It sucks seeing my mom like this, she just needs that kick start like everyone has been saying to get her going with the diet and walking. Need to find out a way to get this for her, any tips?

Also, any idea on how to get her to eat the way i do? I am doing a very clean and strict cutting diet, and it would fit her great. But she says she can't have 4 eggs because she has high cholestrol, and she can't have the 4-6oz. of meat, only 2-3oz. because she doesn't want to gain weight... but my calories sit at around 1700-2000 each day. That would be more than enough for her, but i don't know how to convince her to eat the same portions. Going to try and sit down with her after school today and tell her why and show her some stuff on here about why its important.

 

[Rebecca D]

A lot of it is going to be trial and error. Different things motivate different people. The way I get my kids to eat healthy is controlling what comes in the house. No sodas, pop tarts, or chips. If it is not in the house she can't eat it. Of course that is easier with kids versus a full grown woman.

Rebecca D

 

[trex74]

A lot of it is going to be trial and error. Different things motivate different people. The way I get my kids to eat healthy is controlling what comes in the house. No sodas, pop tarts, or chips. If it is not in the house she can't eat it. Of course that is easier with kids versus a full grown woman.

Rebecca D

+1

This is also how I control mySELF...if it's not around, I am not tempted...I am of the sort of person that if I eat a little bit of something "bad", I eat a lot...so cookies, chips, sweets, etc. etc.
Just. Not. Allowed.
lol it's the only way for me.

 

[slat1]

I think just getting out there with your mom walking and talking will be something she enjoys. Then once she notices it is making a difference her self confidence will increase along with her motivation.
You are doing a great thing!

 

[ark94]

Thanks everyone. So today i come home and find out she didn't follow anything. I really have to get her to motivate herself to eat while im at school every 2 hours, as opposed to big lunches.

Also about the food in the house, my dad and bro just bitch like no tomorrow if there isn't any junk in the house. So its not even possible. I myself though, i have mad willpower and i make cookies, cakes and stuff and don't even come close to licking the spoon, i would never even eat something junk. I just need to get my mom to be the same, but its hard. During the summer holidays i know i am going to be able to be a shit load more strict, but how can i get her to eat while im at school.... :S

Also, how many times should she start walking a week, after literally no exercise for sooo long. I was planning on at minimum 2 days the first week, when she is off work, then 3 days the next, and gradually work up to walking everyday in a month or so?