HELP, Relationship problems, i can't figure this out?

[drrman]

OK, here it all goes. I've been with this girl for almost a year. She is a very special girl to me. But she has some problems in her life, she's had it rough, works her ass off 40+hours a week for 9 bucks an hour, barely gets by and none of her family helps her. She just has bad luck in general. I love this girl to death, but i am so young and feel so tied down. I have to answer for everything i do, and i guess thats the way a relationship supposed to be. I know i will never marry this girl, so that is one point that keeps telling me to leave her. We broke up last night, i can't stand to hear this girl cry, it kills me. I feel as if im all she has in this world, her family is all on the other side of the USA. I feel almost as if im killing her by leaving her, i need help. I just want to see her completely happy and well off, but i feel as if im the only person that will ever be able to do this for her. And i don't just want new pussy, i just need space, i need to feel young again. shit, im only 23 years old. All my friends keep telling me she's killed all my spirit in life, they say i never look happy. They think fucking other girls will make it better, but i know i can't do that, and i don't even want to. I just need space in my life, i want to be on my own again? can anyone relate or give some advice? im dying here, i feel as if im ruining her.

 

[rich197]

bro that is a hard as postion, I wish I could give you a straight answer bu tthere is no way to give one, but I have to say if don't think you can marry her then it is better for her in the long run if you bounce if she thinks you will get married someday. better to cut string before they get to big. but it is a very hard place and it is so hard to walk away from someone you care about.

i wish you the best of luck

 

[Pamela]

I think you need to set down and tell her what you told us..

Be open and honest. Tell her your way to young to make a
commitment. Trust me it is better to do it early in a relationship
than later..


Good Luck

 

[crash3837]

DRRman, if you can't see yourself being with her as in marrying her, and if that is what she is hopeing for than sit her down and tell her that nicely ( kind of hard to put that nicely)
But what you are feeling usually comes hand in hand with a relationship, it shouldn't but it does.
I've been with my girl about the same amount of time you have and I'm less than a month shy of being 23 also. I have to say I don't hang out with the guys half as much as I used to, and I do miss it just getting crazy and all. I don't even have to hear it from other people that I've changed, because I myself know I have.
For one, I don't go out as much as I used to because before most of the time when me and the guys went out we were looking to meet chicks and hook up with the,,, eerrrr I mean we were looking to meet girls with nice personalitys and talk to them ha ha. Now for about 1yr I have'nt been looking to meet anyone because I have someone there all of the time. So right now I'm out of the game, and I have to admit the game is fun lots of eye candy.
For 2 I don't want to even get into it because there are so many other factors ect.
You are not alone though, I think the same thing your thinking. But in my situation she out weighs all of my other thoughts right now(what I mean by thoughts is how the grass always looks greener on the other side).
If you really know that this girl is not for you than let her go, let her find someone that will eventually be the one for her.
Yes it will be hard for her, she has become attached to you as I'm sure you have become with her ( even if you think shes not right for you). But, don't just end it if it is a whim you are acting on because your out of the game and want some new pussy, or want to hang out with the guys ect. If you just need some space at the moment let her know, she won't like it but she will deal with it if she likes you as much as you say she does.
Just take some time to get your head clear, and make your decision, make sure you are makeing the decision that you truely want regaurdless of if you feel bad for her or not. It will be better for the both of you. I don't mean be a dick about it even if it hurts her, just do what you think is right.

 

[firewitch]

I have known 2 people in my life who married because they didn't know how to break up.

DON'T DO IT!!!!!

Did it ever occur to you that it is in a way an insult to think that this adult woman will not be able to make it without you? If she had kids, it might be different, but one person who is willing to work can make it in this country by themself.

Go get your space. If you find a year from now that you can't live without her, call her up.