Girls as friends

[GoldenDelicious]

fyxgel. mailorderbrides.com. now stfu.

cheers

 

[fyxgel2]

fyxgel2-
i see one problem. your TRYING to be the friend of a girl so that you can get some nookie. as the conversation you quoted said, not trying is the most important part. why should you have to try to be someone's friend? it naturally happens, it's not something that requires effort. if you like hanging out with someone (that you may/ may not be interested in) and you like being with them, tell them just that. don't ask them for a date. tell them you enjoy thier company. the relationship starts with them knowing you like and respect them- and you know it too. go from there. also, find a few girls that are funny and ugly and be their friends. its a start on your #2 goal.

but it does take effort though, to become someone's friend. yeah, some of it is natural, but it still takes effort. You dont just get to know someone without spending time with them.
To ask them to spend time with you doesnt just happen without effort, you have to make yourself say it, (regardless of the fears you may have about getting shot down)

And as far as I'm concerned a date, and hanging out with someone, arent all that much different. The word "date" puts a different image in our mind, but the concept is still the same, which is "getting to know someone better" by spending time with them.

 

[fyxgel2]

okay, so why the hell would anyone wanna be "just friends" with a girl that they are attracted to?

 

[vinylgroover]

Just remember, once in that 'friend category' it's hard to persure any relationship with them.

I know when I look for a girl I look for ones I don't know at all. Some of the ones I'm 'friends' with are hotties, but I would not date them even if they wanted. I seem to have to start fresh with a girl to see them as a potential mate.

agreed.........if i start as friends i cannot go any further than that.

 

[UA_Iron]

agreed.........if i start as friends i cannot go any further than that.

buttplugs are certainly out of the question if you're friends. Remember that fxygel.

 

[fyxgel2]

buttplugs are certainly out of the question if you're friends. Remember that fxygel.

so why is it that people tell me that I should just "look to find girls as friends" and then if a relationship blossoms, go from there?

 

[Delinquent]

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[vinylgroover]

so why is it that people tell me that I should just "look to find girls as friends" and then if a relationship blossoms, go from there?

because you're a good christian lad with morals........the rest of us are just looking to bury the bishop and then move on.

 

[fyxgel2]

because you're a good christian lad with morals........the rest of us are just looking to bury the bishop and then move on.

im not looking to bury the bishop, but I still would rather let a girl know that I am interested up front. I just dont understand what this deal is, about how you shouldnt go on dates at first, but just be friends and hang out in group settings, and then once you get to know each other, then go on dates.

A lot of people give me this advice, even those who aren't Christians. It makes no sense though to me, it just seems incredibally limiting.

 

[wootoom]

i hate chicks that have all guy friends it bugs me so bad