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Can anyone be only interested in a friendship when they are friends with a girl that they are attracted to?
I cant. And yet people tell me that the reason I aint getting a woman is because I give them the impression that I want to be more than friends.
wtf? Excuse me, but I have a dick. That doesnt mean I'm going to want to have a relationship with every girl I meet. But if they are attractive, I will consider that as an option, and progress slowly with them. Whats wrong with that?
Here's a conversation that I go into with a guy on another forum, about this topic:
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Other guy: (in reply to one of my threads)
Hey man.
Just be yourself. Who cares what people think. Im about 173-175 and have a little fat, not ungodly but a little and im pale and have big pecs, but i dont care. There are people 10x worse than you. I used to be 210 thats when its bad not 175. I mean hell i have been with more hot woman, 2 models as well no lie and it wasnt cause the way i looked compared to others. It was because i have a very confident personality and make them laugh and they have good times around me and feel comfortable. I mean my last GF when dressed up and all is prolly one of the top 50 hottest girls at my school of 20,000. Every other frat guy hated me for going with her cause they tried so hard and failed. Guess what. I put no effort into it. I met her outside one day she lives next door and just shot the sh%t with her not looking for anythig like other guys do and in the end it payed off with her being my gf for a year. I mean she would joke how i put on some weight but she found it sexy. And i would joke how she didnt have big boobs. I mean your problems are small compared to others and a few imperfections aint sh! T. I mean my ex seemed fine around everyone but let me tell you. She had mental problems, would spend hours in the mirror dolling herself up, wouldnt go out if her hair was out of place and would stay home. She couldnt hang out with me and my roomates who she's knows well if she wasnt wearing proper cloths. Thats sick sh!t man not your problem. I bet if you looked around everyone of them had there own problem. Girls are selfconcious about there weight even if there a stick or about thier boob size.
Dont be a big PUSSY, just be confident. I know what your thinking. A girl or whoever will like you for you and once you get into college most people are mature and look past imperfections. It weird when your little or in highschool you zone in on those imperfections but now you just dont notice them.
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Fyxgel2:
I congratulate you on your success with women. Here's the thing though, and this is probably what helped you out a ton:
You said you didn't try too hard, like all the other guys do.
My problem is that I always put in an effort to talk to the girl, I try not to be invasive, but I definately show interest. And maybe that is what penalizes me.
Let me guess, did you just kinda become her friend, and eventually it grew into a relationship? How long did that process last? I have a hard time hiding my interest for females, when they are attractive. It's hard for me to see girls as just friends, and to not think about anything more.
I mean the reason I get to know most of the girls that I get to know, is to see whether they are compatible with me or not.
If girls get turned off by guys who do this, then how the hell else am I suppose to get to know a girl? lol.
There are a very limited number of girls that I have sought purely on the notion that I just wanted to be their friend (the kind of friend that hangs out with them). (I can probably count this number on one hand) And not surprisingly, I wasnt romantically attracted to any of them (or they already had boyfriends), which is probably why I desired just a friendship.
For me, here are my priorities:
1. Have a girlfriend
2. Have female friends
If I tried to put #2, before #1, I would only be lying to myself. I would take a girlfriend over a friend thats a girl, any day of the week.
I cant. And yet people tell me that the reason I aint getting a woman is because I give them the impression that I want to be more than friends.
wtf? Excuse me, but I have a dick. That doesnt mean I'm going to want to have a relationship with every girl I meet. But if they are attractive, I will consider that as an option, and progress slowly with them. Whats wrong with that?
Here's a conversation that I go into with a guy on another forum, about this topic:
--------------------------------------
Other guy: (in reply to one of my threads)
Hey man.
Just be yourself. Who cares what people think. Im about 173-175 and have a little fat, not ungodly but a little and im pale and have big pecs, but i dont care. There are people 10x worse than you. I used to be 210 thats when its bad not 175. I mean hell i have been with more hot woman, 2 models as well no lie and it wasnt cause the way i looked compared to others. It was because i have a very confident personality and make them laugh and they have good times around me and feel comfortable. I mean my last GF when dressed up and all is prolly one of the top 50 hottest girls at my school of 20,000. Every other frat guy hated me for going with her cause they tried so hard and failed. Guess what. I put no effort into it. I met her outside one day she lives next door and just shot the sh%t with her not looking for anythig like other guys do and in the end it payed off with her being my gf for a year. I mean she would joke how i put on some weight but she found it sexy. And i would joke how she didnt have big boobs. I mean your problems are small compared to others and a few imperfections aint sh! T. I mean my ex seemed fine around everyone but let me tell you. She had mental problems, would spend hours in the mirror dolling herself up, wouldnt go out if her hair was out of place and would stay home. She couldnt hang out with me and my roomates who she's knows well if she wasnt wearing proper cloths. Thats sick sh!t man not your problem. I bet if you looked around everyone of them had there own problem. Girls are selfconcious about there weight even if there a stick or about thier boob size.
Dont be a big PUSSY, just be confident. I know what your thinking. A girl or whoever will like you for you and once you get into college most people are mature and look past imperfections. It weird when your little or in highschool you zone in on those imperfections but now you just dont notice them.
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Fyxgel2:
I congratulate you on your success with women. Here's the thing though, and this is probably what helped you out a ton:
You said you didn't try too hard, like all the other guys do.
My problem is that I always put in an effort to talk to the girl, I try not to be invasive, but I definately show interest. And maybe that is what penalizes me.
Let me guess, did you just kinda become her friend, and eventually it grew into a relationship? How long did that process last? I have a hard time hiding my interest for females, when they are attractive. It's hard for me to see girls as just friends, and to not think about anything more.
I mean the reason I get to know most of the girls that I get to know, is to see whether they are compatible with me or not.
If girls get turned off by guys who do this, then how the hell else am I suppose to get to know a girl? lol.
There are a very limited number of girls that I have sought purely on the notion that I just wanted to be their friend (the kind of friend that hangs out with them). (I can probably count this number on one hand) And not surprisingly, I wasnt romantically attracted to any of them (or they already had boyfriends), which is probably why I desired just a friendship.
For me, here are my priorities:
1. Have a girlfriend
2. Have female friends
If I tried to put #2, before #1, I would only be lying to myself. I would take a girlfriend over a friend thats a girl, any day of the week.
