Girlfriend motivation help!!!

[Dieselgoku23]

! I do love her no matter what!!! thats not the issue I have been with her for 4 years!!,. Looks to me doesnt matter, we all get old eventually thats the last thing but I think she can take care of herself better I mean anyone can agree with me here, that we do work our asses off at the gym training, etc to look good for our significant one, all I ask for her is to change some of this nasty habits she has picked up. I mean I'm asking advise here, how can I bring the issue with out her getting upset???? every time I bring up the issue she starts saying some of the things you guys are saying "You should love me no matter what etc......". I far as her friend anyone would care if you see your significant other hanging out with someone that they are up to no good or whatever....., Anyways thanx guys!!! =)

 

[*Bunny*]

! I do love her no matter what!!! thats not the issue I have been with her for 4 years!!,. Looks to me doesnt matter, we all get old eventually thats the last thing but I think she can take care of herself better I mean anyone can agree with me here, that we do work our asses off at the gym training, etc to look good for our significant one, all I ask for her is to change some of this nasty habits she has picked up. I mean I'm asking advise here, how can I bring the issue with out her getting upset???? every time I bring up the issue she starts saying some of the things you guys are saying "You should love me no matter what etc......". I far as her friend anyone would care if you see your significant other hanging out with someone that they are up to no good or whatever....., Anyways thanx guys!!! =)

Next time be a little bit more specific about your relationship to avoid any confusion mmm k?

IMO, there is no EASY way to tell your girlfriend what you want PERIOD... no matter how you say it you will hurt her feelings and she will take it the wrong way. Tell her flat out, "I'm sorry, my intention is to NOT hurt your feelings... I care about you dearly and I think you can take better care of yourself." Tell her you are worried and you think she should change some of "these nasty habits she has picked up."

As you Know communication is a big part of a relationship - what did she say when you said this 'friend' is bringing her down? Also, tell her right back "You should Love me no matter what" and give you respect for trying to be honest with her.

You are in a no win situation hun. Good Luck

 

[Firecracker]

! I do love her no matter what!!! thats not the issue I have been with her for 4 years!!,. Looks to me doesnt matter, we all get old eventually thats the last thing but I think she can take care of herself better I mean anyone can agree with me here, that we do work our asses off at the gym training, etc to look good for our significant one, all I ask for her is to change some of this nasty habits she has picked up. I mean I'm asking advise here, how can I bring the issue with out her getting upset???? every time I bring up the issue she starts saying some of the things you guys are saying "You should love me no matter what etc......". I far as her friend anyone would care if you see your significant other hanging out with someone that they are up to no good or whatever....., Anyways thanx guys!!! =)

I know you're concerned about her and love her, but people will only change if they want to change. Like Bunny said, communication is key. Make sure she knows how you feel and how it affects you. You're only trying to help her and not be mean. If she gets upset, then she's not ready to change or confront that issue right now. She might be content with her habits and her friends. She's saying "you should love me no matter what", because it's true. She may change and she may not. The question is, are you able to wait and see? I'm not a wait and see type person simply becauce I believe there is somebody out there (I'm with him now), who will accept you 100% no matter what and would never ask me to change. I mean it's not like she's doing something totally off the wall. Maybe she's just going through a "phase" or something. Good luck to you, you will be fine. As long as you communicate your feelings and not get upset with her, she should listen openly and acceot what you are saying.

It will get better!

 

[Dieselgoku23]

Thanx girls!!! well at least I have start for now! =)

 

[Firecracker]

Thanx girls!!! well at least I have start for now! =)

Be confident, stay strong, and go get em!