GF on BC, no sex drive AT ALL...help..

[DontRevMe]

Sex happens maybe once a month now.. Its killing me.. She had a miscarriage in June, which hurt the libido big time. Now she got a rod in her arm for birth control. She has no sex drive at all, doesn't even like the idea of sex. What the hell can i do to fix this. She said its not me, shes attracted to me, but doesn't want sex,

can i spike her damn coffee with something or what
thanks

 

[captainahole]

She needs to see someone. It sounds like she is in a form a depression from the loss. It will be money well spent.
Call and set up an appointment for her, if you tell her to she will probably say she isn't and will avoid it.

Could also be caused by the hormones in the bc check online and see what sides they say can happen for that form.

 

[Chrisco915]

Anavar. I have a friend who went through the same thing. She start working out again seriously, took Anavar and her sex drive came back 10 fold. She can barely contain herself now. A few weeks ago in the middle of a workout she actually had to hit the ladies room to rub one out. Now that is a libido rebound.

 

[goin on 4T]

Drugs are not going to help her. She needs to see someone and receive therapy emotionally.

 

[DontRevMe]

I just want to add, the miscarriage was a good thing for us, we didnt want the baby and were planning on having it taken care of (6 weeks in)

 

[DontRevMe]

thanks for the help btw

 

[ExtraMile]

She can barely contain herself now.

I feel her bro. Im like that at school somtimes. I go to the toilet, I get back and everyone is like "Wow you where a long time" lol.

 

[10001110101]

dude it's the miscarriage. and the birth control may not be helping, but it is not the cause.

give her some time, talk to her about it, issues like this usually don't just go away you have to work through them... sure you could get a quick fix w/drugs but they probably won't work entirely and it would just make this problem worse and bury it deeper. would you advise someone to take aas if their diet and training weren't in check? no you'd tell them to get their shit straight then when they had the basics worked out if they still weren't happy to use drugs.

sex and procreation are directly linked... it's funny how modern man separates them and deals with sex as if it has nothing to do with procreating. sex without the possibility of a child may seem pointless to her now and in her despair she has given up on it, this is just one possible scenario she's dealing with...

so yeah dude step up and be there for her but let her work it out at the same time... miscarriages/unsuccessful pregnancies are very painful to women and can cause deep psychological trauma

...i just read that she's your GF and not your wife... were you the baby's father? if not you may need to distance yourself from the situation because she may be hanging on to whoever the baby's father is and not a situation you need to be in. also did she go on birth control before or after you started dating? b/c that would be a warning sign to me as well... but i could be paranoid.

 

[KD1]

Women aren't as "simple" as men and I don't mean that to be disrespectfull. For men, their drives are relatively non-complex. For women it isn't that simple.

Thats fucking bullshit.

Get off your cloud. Men are not all stupid, sex craving meat heads, just because those are the only type of men you have met.

 

[Arabian]

Seek counseling