Gay guys, your advice required.

[HansNZ]

How do you know whether that attractive guy at the gym eyeing you up is straight and is simply impressed by your physique, or has homosexual impulses tempting him to get down and dirty with you?

I have had more and more trouble with this over the last couple of years as my physique has matured. There was a really attractive guy checking me out the other day. Attractive men (so few in the first place), with homo inclinations aren't necessarily "out" or on the gay scene where I live, so you can't just pass up as "too complicated" these rare opportunities when they present themselves.

Because I don't come across as gay I have to be quite pro-active when appealing, potentially homo-inclined males present themselves. To cut a long story short he turned out to be straight. This frustrating situation is occurring more and more often these days.

I find that straight guys are frequently more obvious when they're checking you out than gay men who, when confronted with an attractive male of unknown orientation, have learned from an early stage the ability to thoroughly look a guy over without him even knowing they've noticed he's in the room.

Advice?

 

[TerraNoble]

How do you know whether that attractive guy at the gym eyeing you up is straight and simply impressed by your physique, or has homosexual impulses tempting him to get down and dirty with you?

I have had more and more trouble with this over the last couple of years as my physique has really matured. There was a really attractive guy checking me out the other day. Attractive men with homo inclinations aren't necessarily "out" or on the gay scene where I live, so you can't just pass up opportunities when they present themselves as "too hard". Because I don't come across as gay I have to be quite pro-active when appealing opportunities present themselves. To cut a long story short he turned out to be straight. This frustrating situation is occurring more and more often these days.

I find that straight guys are frequently more obvious when they're checking you out than gay men who, when confronted with an attractive male of unknown orientation, are able to thoroughly look him over without him even knowing they've noticed he's in the room.

Advice?

Check him out too....

 

[HansNZ]

Re: Re: Gay guys, your advice required.

Check him out too....

I did....awkwardness followed.

 

[TerraNoble]

Re: Re: Re: Gay guys, your advice required.

I did....awkwardness followed.

Are u shy?

 

[HansNZ]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Gay guys, your advice required.

Are u shy?

...a little, especially if I am not sure whether the guy does actually have gay impulses.

 

[TerraNoble]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Gay guys, your advice required.

...a little, especially if I am not sure whether the guy does actually has gay impulses.

Well, I am heterosexual and let me tell you that being shy is a big hurdle for one to get his/her point across.

I was having shy moments too, but one or two drinks it really helped me in my endevour to get that pink in my bed.

 

[HansNZ]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Gay guys, your advice required.

Well, I am heterosexual and let me tell you that being shy is a big hurdle for one to get his/her point across.

I was having shy moments too, but one or two drinks it really helped me in my endevour to get that pink in my bed.

Well, my gym is really straight. In fact my whole city is really straight - the gay boys seem to leave. Having said that HEAPS of nominally straight men (i'm guessing a third) like to dabble on the dark side from time to time. It's just a case of working out who they are and which of the attractive ones will give themselves permission to indulge.

If I lived in a bigger city i'd join a gay gym - problem solved, LOL.

 

[notoriousQQ]

Well, I'm not gay, but, here is my two lincolns. Just start with small talk and conversation, weekend plans, anything like that, where he might divulge information and insight about his own life. The next few times you see him, make sure you chat with him, even if its just about lifting, and get to the point where you discuss weekend plans or things that are going on and see what he mentions. I would be subtle about it though. That might be bad advise, that is just what I would do if I thought somebody was attractive and potentially eyeing me and wanted to see if there was any interest or purely just appreciating a nice physique.

 

[gsxr1000]

Well seeing as how I'm not gay, my advice may not be very useful, but here's what I would do.

Walk right up to the guy and just grab his package. If he starts to become unruly, just hit him over the head with a 45 lb. dumbell. Then do with his limp body as you wish.

This is my usual tactic with women, so I just assume it should work the same.

 

[TerraNoble]

Well seeing as how I'm not gay, my advice may not be very useful, but here's what I would do.

Walk right up to the guy and just grab his package. If he starts to become unruly, just hit him over the head with a 45 lb. dumbell. Then do with his limp body as you wish.

This is my usual tactic with women, so I just assume it should work the same.

Do all your women have "package"?
Make sure they are not shemales???

 

[Puddles]

HansNZ...I feel for your dillema. It's nearly impossible for me to tell if a woman is gay vs. bi; or bi vs. straight! In my situation I look for bi-women and it seems I have more luck finding gay women which is not what I want since my time with them would be shared with my husband as well.

 

[TerraNoble]

HansNZ...I feel for your dillema. It's nearly impossible for me to tell if a woman is gay vs. bi; or bi vs. straight! In my situation I look for bi-women and it seems I have more luck finding gay women which is not what I want since my time with them would be shared with my husband as well.

ever done a threesome??

 

[Puddles]

ever done a threesome??

uh huh

 

[TerraNoble]

uh huh

is that a yes??If so,how was it??

 

[Puddles]

auly: Yes, that smile was a YES.

Our experiences have been wonderful for the most part. It depends on how you view sex though. If it is viewed as a fun activity that turns you on and you can seperate the fun from intimacy, then it's cool. If you're in a ltr. and feelings develop between the three of you, there can be problems or it can be all good. It depends on the jealous natures between the people involved. If you're gonna be with the third person repeatedly, rules need to be laid out so that no one gets hurt. If the rules are broken (we're all human and sometimes we think with the little head if you know what I mean), forgiveness is a must unless you want the relationship to fail. If rules are broken repeatedly, then it's gotta come to an end to save the original relationship. Trust your gut instincts and your partner's. If one of you is getting feelings that something isn't going right, then even if the other disagrees, it needs to come to an end before things get out of control.

Very open communication is most important between the three people. If you have a lack of trust with your partner(s), then I'd avoid it all together. If you're in a casual relationship with someone, then by all means go for it at least once to see what it's like.

Since I'm bi, I enjoy being with a man and a woman. I love to see my husband happy like a child on Christmas morning (actually, that's what it's like for both of us...a gift to each other), 3-somes are just another dimension to adding some fun to our sex life. The expressions on our faces while the three of us are exhausted all cuddled up together just says it all.

There's nothing like having a "helper" too. When I'm getting fucked my my husband and our female helper is playing with other parts of my body while I'm getting to eat her out at the same time, it's just insane pleasure for all involved. The visuals are so hot! The possibilities are endless as to the pleasure you will all be experiencing.

But since I'm married, my husband and I only play with other women when we're both together, although if one of us is in a situation where we meet someone, it's ok to flirt to lay the groundwork.

 

[MikeNYCguy]

I think some of us look to others for motivation when training at the gym. If we feel someone is more attractive than we imagine ourselves to be, this is the kind of person a good eye will catch in terms of showing admiration.

Most of the time, really, these situations don't reflect a persons sexuality. My advice: quickly say "hello" and just break the ice with the person involved. I live in a big city, and it's nice sometimes to be simply noticed.

- Mike

 

[HansNZ]

Why are gay women butch and bi-women so fucking gorgeous?

A lot of gay women buy into a stereotype. Its the same as some gay guys being camp or some straight guys being overly competitive and aggressive.

 

[Tiervexx]

How do you know whether that attractive guy at the gym eyeing you up is straight and is simply impressed by your physique, or has homosexual impulses tempting him to get down and dirty with you?

I have had more and more trouble with this over the last couple of years as my physique has matured. There was a really attractive guy checking me out the other day. Attractive men (so few in the first place), with homo inclinations aren't necessarily "out" or on the gay scene where I live, so you can't just pass up as "too complicated" these rare opportunities when they present themselves.

Because I don't come across as gay I have to be quite pro-active when appealing, potentially homo-inclined males present themselves. To cut a long story short he turned out to be straight. This frustrating situation is occurring more and more often these days.

I find that straight guys are frequently more obvious when they're checking you out than gay men who, when confronted with an attractive male of unknown orientation, have learned from an early stage the ability to thoroughly look a guy over without him even knowing they've noticed he's in the room.

Advice?

I feel your pain,
at my school i have the best build in my grade, i am much larger and stronger than all but a couple guys who are very fat.

this means that i get lots of attention during my heavy sets, and a far amount of requests for me to flex, and lots of guys feel how hard my arms are(often without even asking) Somtimes i know that the guys are strait, but somtimes it gets REALLY hard to tell.

i wish that "gaydar" really existed.

 

[FitMale]

I did....awkwardness followed.

HansNZ, when I give in to my feeling of awkwardness, I invariably stay stuck and become frustrated.

I've learned to work my way through those uncomfortable feelings and enjoy the thrill of the conquest. Usually I'll compliment the dude on his hard work at the gym...that gives us a common ground to talk.

I've found most straight's will mention their girlfriend or wife early on in the conversation and so I've learned to mention my boyfriend early on as well. The first few times I was nervous as hell. Now I feel comfortable and this is what comes across to these Men and it makes it much easier to steer the conversation to sexual attraction.

Your mileage may vary.