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As you all know I just had a baby, everything is awesome but her mom is here for a month and she's trying to tell me what to do and shit. I have raised 2 boys and I'm sick of being told what to do in my house...and now her friend is coming for a month...all they will do is speak Dutch and now the freedom is nothing...I can't even enjoy being a dad..I'm losing it...fucking depressing..

Then my boys come stay at my house all the time because I have them a lot and now when they go home to their moms I really miss them...like bad...I just can't wait till no one is here..my gf is crying because breast feeding is such a pain in the ass...thoughts?
 
I can't imagine having my mom stay with me like that. Seems like it should be private for you to enjoy too. It's your baby too. I wouldn't have my privacy invaded like that. Breastfeeding is hard though. I remember crying alone in a room by myself one day with my shirt off. I gave up, so don't listen to me. I wasn't as dedicated to the idea as I should have been. I regret it now though. :/

I wish I could say something to make you feel better. If it were me, I'd be pulling my wife aside and telling her that mom has to go home or has to stay in a hotel. I wouldn't have accepted a situation like that in the first place. Can she stay in a hotel in the evenings?
 
cindylou said:
I can't imagine having my mom stay with me like that. Seems like it should be private for you to enjoy too. It's your baby too. I wouldn't have my privacy invaded like that. Breastfeeding is hard though. I remember crying alone in a room by myself one day with my shirt off. I gave up, so don't listen to me. I wasn't as dedicated to the idea as I should have been. I regret it now though. :/

I wish I could say something to make you feel better. If it were me, I'd be pulling my wife aside and telling her that mom has to go home or has to stay in a hotel. I wouldn't have accepted a situation like that in the first place. Can she stay in a hotel in the evenings?
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I don't think she expected it to be this bad...her mom is driving her insane already..she barely sees her since they are back in holland so a hotel is out of the question...now her brother wants to come also..I will have a nervous breakdown..i just can't wait to be alone..
 
Go get the blu rays of total recall, rocky 4, and waterworld and youll be stress free in no time
 
cindylou said:
What are some examples of her telling you what to do?
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Not really telling me, just undermining me...like she's not warm enough, she's not wrapped good enough...you can't do this...you can't do that...she doesn't need a soother...fuck...
 
I was gonnna say...go 'away on business' for a day or two every once in awhile when your kids aren't there to reset your sanity. What I mean is, check into a hotel downtown and have a good boys' night out with your buddies. It's better than losing your shit on the mom and causing intense bad blood going forward.
 
Hey. I start my job soon. I'll help you out with your problem. Just point her out to me and run the other way. Water bombs away!


Sure, sounds wimpy...but it's going to be -30...
 
You just need to flip out over something and go over the top with it ( swearing throwing shit) she should be freaked out enough to give you space, or smoke a fattie and just not give a fuck
 
What is big deal about breast feeding? If its hurting stop! She is a new mum, hormones all over the place the last thing she needs on top of that is pain! Change to bottle that way you can be involved too!

As for the mother in law, tell her straight!! Or get your Mrs to.
 
wootoom said:
As you all know I just had a baby, everything is awesome but her mom is here for a month and she's trying to tell me what to do and shit. I have raised 2 boys and I'm sick of being told what to do in my house...and now her friend is coming for a month...all they will do is speak Dutch and now the freedom is nothing...I can't even enjoy being a dad..I'm losing it...fucking depressing..

Then my boys come stay at my house all the time because I have them a lot and now when they go home to their moms I really miss them...like bad...I just can't wait till no one is here..my gf is crying because breast feeding is such a pain in the ass...thoughts?
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1) I hate mother in laws.

2) They clearly overstay their welcome and overstep their boundaries.

3) First baby for your girl though... so what's routine for you now is all new to her.

4) Your wife's hormones are probably going nuts, which are making you and your mother-in-law both hyper-sensitive to situations.

And here's the big one:

Having a baby, holding a baby, bonding, etc. etc. completely trashes your own (male) hormones. Just be careful, because it's not unusual for a guy to show signs of low test simply by having a baby.

My solution (as the father of six kids):

1) Do a light cycle. Testosterone only. That will fix those hormones right up. But treat it like a real one -- gym time, eat right, etc. etc.

2) Travel some. Not massive three week trips to China (but I did do that after the twins were born). Just do some 2-4 day trips to get out of the house.

3) Hire a doula -- especially for your wife's first baby. These women are freaks of nature when it comes to kids. Does mom-in-law think she knows babies? She won't know anything compared to a doula. My wife calls her doula "the baby whisperer". Ask her to come a few nights a week and even sleep with the baby. Formula for a couple of nights won't hurt the kid one bit. Hell, we're seven months into the twins and we still have the doula come out 1-3 times per week just to put them to sleep. So instead of a stressful night of getting two kids (plus our four year old) down for the evening, we slip out and have a nice dinner.

Good luck and congratulations!!!
 
mrplunkey said:
1) I hate mother in laws.

2) They clearly overstay their welcome and overstep their boundaries.

3) First baby for your girl though... so what's routine for you now is all new to her.

4) Your wife's hormones are probably going nuts, which are making you and your mother-in-law both hyper-sensitive to situations.

And here's the big one:

Having a baby, holding a baby, bonding, etc. etc. completely trashes your own (male) hormones. Just be careful, because it's not unusual for a guy to show signs of low test simply by having a baby.

My solution (as the father of six kids):

1) Do a light cycle. Testosterone only. That will fix those hormones right up. But treat it like a real one -- gym time, eat right, etc. etc.

2) Travel some. Not massive three week trips to China (but I did do that after the twins were born). Just do some 2-4 day trips to get out of the house.

3) Hire a doula -- especially for your wife's first baby. These women are freaks of nature when it comes to kids. Does mom-in-law think she knows babies? She won't know anything compared to a doula. My wife calls her doula "the baby whisperer". Ask her to come a few nights a week and even sleep with the baby. Formula for a couple of nights won't hurt the kid one bit. Hell, we're seven months into the twins and we still have the doula come out 1-3 times per week just to put them to sleep. So instead of a stressful night of getting two kids (plus our four year old) down for the evening, we slip out and have a nice dinner.

Good luck and congratulations!!!
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Wow thanks Plunk..I was planning on going on my regular test cycle next anyways...I just can't handle when they try to get in your face..
 
Seriously though, I wouldn't leave. If you do that she's going to pull this shit every time she's there. My mother in law lives a couple blocks away from me, so I'll be in the same situation soon I'm sure.
 
zwhit said:
Seriously though, I wouldn't leave. If you do that she's going to pull this shit every time she's there. My mother in law lives a couple blocks away from me, so I'll be in the same situation soon I'm sure.
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Agreed! Also, your partner/kid needs you more than the mother in law!!
 
Shoot some test suspension and put your fucking foot down.

Tell that bitch if you wanted her opinion on raising your own kids, you'd ask for it. Until then, stfu.

No way I'd let her keep this shit up, she's already invading your private time.

My mother in law teamed up with my mom and tried this same shit when we had our girl a few weeks ago and I ended up telling them if they didn't back the fuck off and let us have and enjoy our family time, they wouldn't be hearing from us for a very long time.

Fuck a bunch of power tripping bitches, she'll do this every time shes around if you don't stop her now....
 
MrsMuscle said:
What is big deal about breast feeding? If its hurting stop! She is a new mum, hormones all over the place the last thing she needs on top of that is pain! Change to bottle that way you can be involved too!

As for the mother in law, tell her straight!! Or get your Mrs to.
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Who the fuck do you think you are?? Maybe his Gf is 110% committed to BF and doesn't want to give up. It's still the hardest thing I ever did. I hated it the first few months but I stuck it out because I was determined (quit after 4 days with my 1st child with no regrets)
What I'm gettin at is. You can't fucking tell someone you don't know to "just quit!"

Don't be a fucking dumbass. I'm guessing you're not a mother
 
smurf2 said:
Who the fuck do you think you are?? Maybe his Gf is 110% committed to BF and doesn't want to give up. It's still the hardest thing I ever did. I hated it the first few months but I stuck it out because I was determined (quit after 4 days with my 1st child with no regrets)
What I'm gettin at is. You can't fucking tell someone you don't know to "just quit!"

Don't be a fucking dumbass. I'm guessing you're not a mother
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Maybe she is, maybe she isnt - he didnt say either way. I am talking from experience as all I heard in the hospital with my sister was breast is best, but that isnt always the case. She struggled like hell and it put her into depression. Her milk didnt come through, baby didnt latch on etc etc. She did quit and felt better for it, no regrets either.

Not sure how saying there are other routes is 'fucking dumbass' though!
 
I don't like the going out of town part. I didn't have my Mom stay with me or anything (she came over one afternoon the second week. That's it) but I would be careful with that one unless she is encouraging you to leave.
 
MrsMuscle said:
Maybe she is, maybe she isnt - he didnt say either way. I am talking from experience as all I heard in the hospital with my sister was breast is best, but that isnt always the case. She struggled like hell and it put her into depression. Her milk didnt come through, baby didnt latch on etc etc. She did quit and felt better for it, no regrets either.

Not sure how saying there are other routes is 'fucking dumbass' though!
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Glad she felt better about fucking the baby out of all those good antibodies, hey here's an idea fuck giving the baby what it naturally needs and give it some synthetic shit...
 
'It's too hard. Might as well give up. Just quit.'



You've obviously never had kids bitch. That whole part about being selfish and just quitting when you don't like doing something? Yeah, that's over.
 
don't let her run you out of your own house woot. she'll get mad at first but she'll get over it. I'm having this conversation with my wife again right now in the waiting room for our 4D
 
bigbassturd said:
'It's too hard. Might as well give up. Just quit.'



You've obviously never had kids bitch. That whole part about being selfish and just quitting when you don't like doing something? Yeah, that's over.
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Sounds like you haven't had much sleep lately
 
wootoom said:
As you all know I just had a baby, everything is awesome but her mom is here for a month and she's trying to tell me what to do and shit. I have raised 2 boys and I'm sick of being told what to do in my house...and now her friend is coming for a month...all they will do is speak Dutch and now the freedom is nothing...I can't even enjoy being a dad..I'm losing it...fucking depressing..

Then my boys come stay at my house all the time because I have them a lot and now when they go home to their moms I really miss them...like bad...I just can't wait till no one is here..my gf is crying because breast feeding is such a pain in the ass...thoughts?
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Damn bro - a month? That is a long time especially that first month which is such a precious time. It it nice to have a mom or MIL there for the first week to help out.....but after that, it's overkill. I can see you are a bit of a unique situation here with her mom being from overseas. If it is really bothering you and you feel like it is ruining your time with your fam and your new lil one then you gotta do something about it. Because if those boundaries aren't set now, they will continue to walk all over you in the future. Personally I would make my wife have the conversation with her since it is her mom. Same as I would do it if it was my mom.

Either way bro.....make sure you don't lose this time because it is so precious and you can never get it back! They grow so fast and you don't want to look back in 1...2...5...10 years and regret it just because you didn't have a hard conversation. This type of situation is a real bitch and all of us dads (and moms) probably deal with it to some extent. Part of the joys of marriage and in laws lol. But at the end of the day this is YOUR house and YOUR family and it is up to you to make the rules regardless of other opinions from the peanut gallery.

Good luck bro! Enjoy that precious little girl she is so beautiful. I have 2 girls and your threads have made me want to have another one! Well, except for the in law stuff. That does not make me want to have another one it makes me want to smash my face into the wall lol
 
My advice is just try to help your gf out woot and do what she wants, smoke some pot and chill out bro. get some of the BC bud and you just wont give a fuck anymore ;)
 
This thread makes me realize how happy I am being single and childless.


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I'm very lucky my gf is an amazing person..she told her mom to back off. And there is no way I'm letting her quit breast feeding that's just fucking nonsense. She's been doing so well...I would never take off from my kid for longer than 2 days right now...she needs me..I like to be around her constantly and don't mind helping or waking up at all..I have done it twice already...

I just can't stand the bickering..and honestly, maybe it's not bad at all, maybe I'm being a little to harsh but I want to be alone with my family..my boys and my girls...no one else...I remember when I wanted my exes mom to stay when we had our boys because my ex was such a bitch..now it's the other way around
 
wootoom said:
I'm very lucky my gf is an amazing person..she told her mom to back off. And there is no way I'm letting her quit breast feeding that's just fucking nonsense. She's been doing so well...I would never take off from my kid for longer than 2 days right now...she needs me..I like to be around her constantly and don't mind helping or waking up at all..I have done it twice already...

I just can't stand the bickering..and honestly, maybe it's not bad at all, maybe I'm being a little to harsh but I want to be alone with my family..my boys and my girls...no one else...I remember when I wanted my exes mom to stay when we had our boys because my ex was such a bitch..now it's the other way around
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How's that craft beer cellar coming along? Can't you just retire downstairs for a drink when the bickering starts?
 
Just some pics of the bar..ran out of some stout..I have this Christmas stout it's pretty good. I also have some nice Belgian beer...on the top of the cabinet is my own cider beer..it's pretty good! I really like this beer from Australia...it's the Tahooeys extra dry..really good stuff
 
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wootoom said:
Just some pics of the bar..ran out of some stout..I have this Christmas stout it's pretty good. I also have some nice Belgian beer...on the top of the cabinet is my own cider beer..it's pretty good! I really like this beer from Australia...it's the Tahooeys extra dry..really good stuff
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I'm non-plat scum, so I can't see what you've got bottled there, but the bar looks really nice.
 
wootoom said:
Better...I actually went to his retirement in Detroit and got it signed by him!
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my college roomate saw him at a gas station and followed him back to his house.
got stopped at the gate, stevie said wtf? and my roomie had him sign
his jersey (kept it in the trunk for this reason).
he was pissed but still did it.
and you need to roid rage on this dutchbags so they don't think n/americans are nancies!
 
wootoom said:
Just some pics of the bar..ran out of some stout..I have this Christmas stout it's pretty good. I also have some nice Belgian beer...on the top of the cabinet is my own cider beer..it's pretty good! I really like this beer from Australia...it's the Tahooeys extra dry..really good stuff
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Wrong forum for gear pics rob
 
He's dispelling the myth that gay guys are witty and clever.
 
wootoom said:
As you all know I just had a baby, everything is awesome but her mom is here for a month and she's trying to tell me what to do and shit. I have raised 2 boys and I'm sick of being told what to do in my house...and now her friend is coming for a month...all they will do is speak Dutch and now the freedom is nothing...I can't even enjoy being a dad..I'm losing it...fucking depressing..

Then my boys come stay at my house all the time because I have them a lot and now when they go home to their moms I really miss them...like bad...I just can't wait till no one is here..my gf is crying because breast feeding is such a pain in the ass...thoughts?
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What's her status in life? She sounds overbearing and disrespectful. Gotta put the foot down (as nicely as possible) or else she's going to walk all over you and yours.

Damn, reading stuff like this makes me apprehensive about ever getting married.
 
I know exactly how you feel bro, my wife was a mess trying to get the breast feeding down and her family and alot of friends were always at her to quit etc which made her even more emotional. her mom lives half an hour away and seemed to always been here. One day I just snapped when she made a comment about how messy the house was. At that moment my wife realized she either needed to have my back or I was fucking out and she stepped up.I suggest talking to your girl and no matter what happens you two need to be a strong home front against the enemy. sounds fucked but thats what most people are when you have a newborn, they show up ,over stay their welcome,tell you what to do and how they would raise your kid. fuck them.
 
I'm confused, as a non child bearer things elude me, I understand the importance of breastfeeding and the nutrients, etc. But why not pump milk out of breast and bottle feed breastmilk?

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nangiggles said:
I'm confused, as a non child bearer things elude me, I understand the importance of breastfeeding and the nutrients, etc. But why not pump milk out of breast and bottle feed breastmilk?

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That's what we have been doing :) just time consuming
 
Sometimes she pumps and sometimes she breast feeds..there is a bond between the woman and child which is why a lot of women breast feed..that's why
 
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