Friends before lovers?

[kunta]

I just had two friends that were close for many years, start dating which was a suprise....but what are your thoughts on friends before lovers, have you tried and it work out or know of anyone that has done that?

IMO it doesn't work because if the two were really attracted to each other, they both would have pursued each other(I'm talking about longterm friendships) near the beginning, unless they were married or in a very serious relationship, it seems more of I'm settling for you since I haven't had any luck with anyone else.

Opinions?

 

[Ganryu]

dud i jsut bang chiks dude.

 

[Boulder257]

My wife and I hated each other at first. Then, we became friends a couple months later. Then, a couple months after that we started dating. Seven years later we got married, and the rest is history. I think friendship before marriage makes things last longer because you are attracted to the person, and not just what you see at first.

 

[kunta]

i agree with you on the point that it helps make things last longer, but the attraction must be there at first, it still seems like settling if you've been friends for a while

 

[hardrock]

The only way it could happen is if you wanted to bang 'em all along. Like in that Billy Crystal movie, A guy can't be friends with a woman unless he wants to do her. Not just acquaintances, but good friends.

 

[kunta]

difference though between, banging and dating though hardrock....

 

[from zero]

I dated one of my closest friends. Now it doesn't even seem like we're that good of friends anymore. Sucks.

 

[kunta]

from zero was it mutual or was one of you pursuing the other when you got together with your friend, what was the reason for the breakup?......... what happened to you happened to three of my friends which furthers why i think it doesn't work

 

[crew9]

Why do you care if your friend starts dating one of his friends? Did you like the girl as well?

 

[PHATchik]

Sometimes, being friends with someone allows you to see what you would have previously missed out on.