first thing you notice about a man

[*ebony*]

sorry if this is repetive but i was just curious.
and if you have a hubby now what was the first thing you noticed about him? also be specific please. face is too gereral.

for me, if he's facing away from me, yeah i notice the butt first..a nice ass and good strong broad shoulders.
facing me i notice the eyes, usually to see where they're directed at. then i notice lips. third is hands( is that one weird??lol)

when they're close enough i notice their smell. i was once sitting next to this guy and he smelled absalutely delicous...totally wanted get on his lap and burrow my face in his neck. lol

 

[bluey2u]

1. Does he workout?
2. Little or no body hair
3. Is he wearing white Reebok Classics, a cap and XXL tracksuit bottoms showing Primark undies

If the above can be answered - yes, yes, NO then for me its the inner beauty and attitute.

Then YES to either/both pierced or tattooed and I'm sold.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I "met" my husband online so I don't know how to answer this question.

The first thing I noticed about him, honestly, was his mind as there was not much else for me to go on.

 

[*ebony*]

I "met" my husband online so I don't know how to answer this question.

The first thing I noticed about him, honestly, was his mind as there was not much else for me to go on.

oh yeah thats right i remeber reading that somewhere on the women's forum on one of the threads. you 2 met here on EF?? can't remeber and can't find the thread.

p.s. i refuse to beleive that you have stopped noticing men after you met said hubby. come on BK fess up.

this topic come in up last night...... or more it was prbly early today when i was out with some of my girls. they had some really different anwsers. feet( the size and type of shoe he's wearing is supposed to tell you alot about a man according to one of these ladies). i also got answers: fingernails(????), hair and EYEBROWS(another???)and crotch(lol).

 

[Bikini Mod]

oh yeah thats right i remeber reading that somewhere on the women's forum on one of the threads. you 2 met here on EF?? can't remeber and can't find the thread.

p.s. i refuse to beleive that you have stopped noticing men after you met said hubby. come on BK fess up.

this topic come in up last night...... or more it was prbly early today when i was out with some of my girls. they had some really different anwsers. feet( the size and type of shoe he's wearing is supposed to tell you alot about a man according to one of these ladies). i also got answers: fingernails(????), hair and EYEBROWS(another???)and crotch(lol).

No, that was actually Smurfy and Lumberg. They met on EF. My husband and I met on a very different type of site. LOL - it was a sugardating site.

I never said that I stopped noticing men. hehehehehe I am married, not dead.

But my answer is still the same. I notice the way a man carries himself above anything else. I used to date men that were pro bodybuilders and men that could have been models, very handsome men so for me a man's body or chiseled features are like "meh"..... I realized in my mid 30's when I went back out into the dating world (after the breakdown of my first marriage which spanned all of my adult life until that point) I was much more attracted to the "overall package", not really one physical characteristic or another. Will I notice a man's forearms or smile or sense of personal style (every girl is crazy bout a sharp dressed man LOL) - yes, but that isn't what holds my attention for more than a fleeting second. It is the way he carries himself - period. And you know damned well that I have been paying attention for a lot longer than 2 seconds (which is how long it takes to notice *this body part* or *that body part*) if I am sizing up something as complex as that.

And your girl is very right when she talks about a man's shoes.

Two ways you can tell if a man is "doing well" (as opposed to playing like he's got two nickels in his pocket):

1. his shoes.

and

2. his timepiece.

 

[*ebony*]

No, that was actually Smurfy and Lumberg. They met on EF. My husband and I met on a very different type of site. LOL - it was a sugardating site.

I never said that I stopped noticing men. hehehehehe I am married, not dead.

But my answer is still the same. I notice the way a man carries himself above anything else. I used to date men that were pro bodybuilders and men that could have been models, very handsome men so for me a man's body or chiseled features are like "meh"..... I realized in my mid 30's when I went back out into the dating world (after the breakdown of my first marriage which spanned all of my adult life until that point) I was much more attracted to the "overall package", not really one physical characteristic or another. Will I notice a man's forearms or smile or sense of personal style (every girl is crazy bout a sharp dressed man LOL) - yes, but that isn't what holds my attention for more than a fleeting second. It is the way he carries himself - period. And you know damned well that I have been paying attention for a lot longer than 2 seconds (which is how long it takes to notice *this body part* or *that body part*) if I am sizing up something as complex as that.

And your girl is very right when she talks about a man's shoes.

Two ways you can tell if a man is "doing well" (as opposed to playing like he's got two nickels in his pocket):

1. his shoes.

and

2. his timepiece.

i agree with the confidence. i like it suptle also, i've notice guys that strut around with their chest up in the air like they own the world and then there is that other guy who just has the aura about him, where you feel reassured just being near him. am i making sense?lol

Whats with the shoes ladies? i never noticed shoes first. so if he wears sneaker or a pair of Jordons then he's poor. what if it just his style. i mean do you notice a man with a pair of aligator shoes by ralph lauren or prada or something that might cost thousands?
Bikinimom, timepeice..like a watch?

 

[Bikini Mod]

i agree with the confidence. i like it suptle also, i've notice guys that strut around with their chest up in the air like they own the world and then there is that other guy who just has the aura about him, where you feel reassured just being near him. am i making sense?lol

Whats with the shoes ladies? i never noticed shoes first. so if he wears sneaker or a pair of Jordons then he's poor. what if it just his style. i mean do you notice a man with a pair of aligator shoes by ralph lauren or prada or something that might cost thousands?
Bikinimom, timepeice..like a watch?

Dear lady - you *get it* and yes, you are making TOTAL sense. That young stud insecure alpha male "lemme piss on your leg to show all the other males that you are my lady" bullshit is NOT what I am talking about. You completely hit the nail on the head.

IMO if a man is wearing sneakers anyplace other than the gym then he just isn't my style. That is JUST ME. I can guarantee you that once a man has *arrived* he will opt for shoes above sneakers every single time, that is unless he is in, on his way to or from the gym.

I could care less about *designer* shoes but moreso comfortable custom shoes. You will know them when you see them. Trust me ladies, next time you are out look at the men's shoes. The dudes with bank ALL have comfortable shoes that are custom made. He could be wearing jeans and a ripped T-shirt but his feet will be surrounded in comfort.

And yes, by time-piece I meant watch. I am not talking about bling... I am talking about classic timepieces. Men with means ALL wear nice timepieces.

 

[*ebony*]

LOL. this is some interesting stuff!!!

 

[Cutiebaby]

My god this was so many many years ago. I was friends, then kinda like best friends before we got together.
I noticed his teeth, i love his teeth..Also noticed his shoulder/neck line area. I love that part on a man, and I love his shoulder/neckline to this day. I love his ass when he wears jeans.

 

[*ebony*]

My god this was so many many years ago. I was friends, then kinda like best friends before we got together.
I noticed his teeth, i love his teeth..Also noticed his shoulder/neck line area. I love that part on a man, and I love his shoulder/neckline to this day. I love his ass when he wears jeans.

now that you mention it i do look at a guys teeth!!! how bizzare! i'm drawn to the ones that give you that boyish toothy grin.
did i mention i'm a sucker for guys with dimples. so cute.

but yeah bad teeth is a def. turn off.

 

[Tatyana]

sorry if this is repetive but i was just curious.
and if you have a hubby now what was the first thing you noticed about him? also be specific please. face is too gereral.

for me, if he's facing away from me, yeah i notice the butt first..a nice ass and good strong broad shoulders.
facing me i notice the eyes, usually to see where they're directed at. then i notice lips. third is hands( is that one weird??lol)

when they're close enough i notice their smell. i was once sitting next to this guy and he smelled absalutely delicous...totally wanted get on his lap and burrow my face in his neck. lol

How a man smells is really important to me. I mean his natural smell.

I do love scents on men, but they have to smell a certain way to me, and it is not always the same, sometimes it is because they smell like babies, sometimes it is more of a clean sweat smell.

You know, the sweat you get from training when you are clean, not nervous or bacteria smelly sweat.

 

[*ebony*]

when they're close enough i notice their smell. i was once sitting next to this guy and he smelled absalutely delicous...totally wanted get on his lap and burrow my face in his neck. lol

True story Tat.lol
i had images running through my dirtly llittle mind. just wanted to crawl all over him!!

so i'm in total agreement about smell and weaty men as well. i used to have a crush( yes i said crush) on this young man and he used to play bskball. unfortuntly for me he saw me as only "just a friend" which were, great friends accually.
he always used to win his games and when he did he would always give me the big air, twirl-round hug. he would be all sweaty. gross? i didn't think so. he smelled.....kinda musky? it was kind of a turn on.

 

[dirty~d~]

It depends on 'how' I meet him.

If I see him from across a room, without speaking to him, his eyes and his shoulders will catch me first. If they manage to keep my attention I'll admire the rest. Legs will rope me in every time.

If my first contact with him is over the phone then it's the tone of his voice and the sound of his laugh. It needs to 'calm' me when I hear it.

Online? Sense of humor! If he's quick to realize that I'm a female then that's always a plus. LOL!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Online? Sense of humor! If he's quick to realize that I'm a female then that's always a plus. LOL!!

Interesting that you should point that out, that without the DISTRACTION of his physical presence HIS MIND and PRESENTATION OF SELF is most important.

Tatyana - you are correct about smell 100% but for me that is one of the last things I notice. Meaning, I've never *sniffed* a man that I didn't know already but once he is my lover I could feast on his scent alone for days....

If we are talking about purely physical characteristics barring presentation of self - meaning that we have reduced a man to his bodyparts (why not? they do it to us without even thinking about it LOL) then I have some very weird preferences. I notice veiny, well-developed forearms and strong prominent jawlines. I also notice hair-color (my preference has always been for grey above any other even when I was a teen) and wrinkles. A man with wrinkles says to me, "I have seen some life, have stories to tell and will hold your interest long after the sheets have stopped rustling."

I told you all that I am wierd.

 

[Tatyana]

LOL, I like all the things you ladies have mentioned.

I check out legs as well. Skinny legs, major turn off.

Veiny forearms, yes.

I also notice things like sense of humour, really clever cookies, and I also like quirky creative people A LOT.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Ack - there are few "flaws" that I will forgive... skinny legs ain't one of 'em. I'd rather be with a man that has a layer of huggiebearfat than to be with a man that has chicken legz.

 

[*ebony*]

Ack - there are few "flaws" that I will forgive... skinny legs ain't one of 'em. I'd rather be with a man that has a layer of huggiebearfat than to be with a man that has chicken legz.

that sounds so damn unappealing. i got a picture in my mind now of some skinny legs with bone protruding in the knee area, and another pic of a fat blob of a guy with with pudgy legs and alot of cellulite.

edit: i feel shallow.lol
but both leg options just sound nasty!

 

[Bikini Mod]

that sounds so damn unappealing. i got a picture in my mind now of some skinny legs with bone protruding in the knee area, and another pic of a fat blob of a guy with with pudgy legs and alot of cellulite.

edit: i feel shallow.lol
but both leg options just sound nasty!

It's ok we WERE being shallow LOL, it's allowed.

Men don't get cellulite, or should I say he would have to be like the dudes that need to be removed from their homes on a flatbed truck in order to have cellulite. So even if a dude has got that layer of huggiebearfat his legs will still be solid.

 

[*ebony*]

It's ok we WERE being shallow LOL, it's allowed.

Men don't get cellulite, or should I say he would have to be like the dudes that need to be removed from their homes on a flatbed truck in order to have cellulite. So even if a dude has got that layer of huggiebearfat his legs will still be solid.

LOL. your right about being shallow from the start, me posting this thread and all.

it just hit me when i was typing the reply. the shallow thing that is.

ummm...i think that fleeting pic i got in my mind of the fat man had woman legs? LOL. they had pudgy lumps of fat everywhere!

 

[silverstar1025]

If it is far away I take notice if he has big sexy arms. If I get close it is the eyes. I love nice eyes.

 

[Heart of Steel]

I met my baby's father on a different bb board and was first attracted to his sense of humor and his intelligence. Once we met face to face, it was his smile that immediately melted my heart. Then I noticed the rest of his amazing body!

 

[pimparealwoman]

..Before answering that question truth to be said, I've never had a relationship with a non-bodybuilder. I have been lifting weights since I was 16, and started dating after that...(I'm a bit slow, I know..hehe..I'm not really the relationship type anyway..I always thought of a relationship as a friendship on fire..might be mistaken there though..) In between relationships I've been going out with guys that don't lift..or just go to the gym every now and then, but I keep running into the same phenomenon.

Maybe it's me..but every time I 'date' a non bodybuilder I tell them from the start what my 'lifestyle' entails, just not to waste anybody's time or set myself up for disaster..'I'm a bodybuilder, that is what I do..that's how I live my life... I walk around with Tupperware all the time...I go to the gym every day, I get up before the crack of dawn to do cardio..I eat funky stuff...That's what makes me tick.. If any of that bothers you, I'm not the girl for you..'....Fair enough not??...

Every time...and this happened about 3 times now..they say it's not a problem at all, that's what attracts them to me. They appreciate the discipline, time and dedication I put into it..and they look forward to train with me...rah..rah..Then after say 2 weeks or so the trouble starts. 'Want to go and grab a burger at MacD, hun?..'..'Erm, no..don't do Mac D..Sorry'..'Aaahhh, come one...one burger won't do nothing to your six pack..on top of that, I like you with or without six pack'......'Do you have to go to the gym again, today?..I arranged something special for us this afternoon'...'You went yesterday,...not going one day won't hurt'......'Erm..I'm going today, and to give you a sneak preview on the near future..pretty sure I'll go tomorrow as well!!'.....Needless to say...that's me done relating!

Obviously dating bodybuilders is a different ballgame, even if you just met,..feels like coming home, because you have such a large part of your daily life in common. Trouble is to find a half sane bodybuilder... ..I'm kidding..

So, to answer the question..(I'm soapbox Annie again..Oh dear me..Sorry!)..I like nice teeth, a glorious smile..and legs, bodybuilding legs..I think legs make the difference between a bodybuilder and a beachboy or a bouncer (no offence). Not only the look of them, but also knowing the amount of work, sacrifice and effort that has gone in them to get them that way.

But above and beyond everything else I like intelligence, men with character and interests, who value honesty and integrity. I dont do drama, and I refuse to fuss and argue. Life's too short!!..

I like people who appreciate the simple things in life..a free spirit, who looks for solutions instead of problems, is honest, true to self and the people around him, masters the art of conversation and chooses to display compassion over power. Erm...needless to say...haven't found 'him' yet...hehe.. no hope, no glory!..(..don't wake me.. ignorance is bliss!....)

B!

 

[*ebony*]

..Before answering that question truth to be said, I've never had a relationship with a non-bodybuilder. I have been lifting weights since I was 16, and started dating after that...(I'm a bit slow, I know..hehe..I'm not really the relationship type anyway..I always thought of a relationship as a friendship on fire..might be mistaken there though..) In between relationships I've been going out with guys that don't lift..or just go to the gym every now and then, but I keep running into the same phenomenon.

Maybe it's me..but every time I 'date' a non bodybuilder I tell them from the start what my 'lifestyle' entails, just not to waste anybody's time or set myself up for disaster..'I'm a bodybuilder, that is what I do..that's how I live my life... I walk around with Tupperware all the time...I go to the gym every day, I get up before the crack of dawn to do cardio..I eat funky stuff...That's what makes me tick.. If any of that bothers you, I'm not the girl for you..'....Fair enough not??...

Every time...and this happened about 3 times now..they say it's not a problem at all, that's what attracts them to me. They appreciate the discipline, time and dedication I put into it..and they look forward to train with me...rah..rah..Then after say 2 weeks or so the trouble starts. 'Want to go and grab a burger at MacD, hun?..'..'Erm, no..don't do Mac D..Sorry'..'Aaahhh, come one...one burger won't do nothing to your six pack..on top of that, I like you with or without six pack'......'Do you have to go to the gym again, today?..I arranged something special for us this afternoon'...'You went yesterday,...not going one day won't hurt'......'Erm..I'm going today, and to give you a sneak preview on the near future..pretty sure I'll go tomorrow as well!!'.....Needless to say...that's me done relating!

Obviously dating bodybuilders is a different ballgame, even if you just met,..feels like coming home, because you have such a large part of your daily life in common. Trouble is to find a half sane bodybuilder... ..I'm kidding..

So, to answer the question..(I'm soapbox Annie again..Oh dear me..Sorry!)..I like nice teeth, a glorious smile..and legs, bodybuilding legs..I think legs make the difference between a bodybuilder and a beachboy or a bouncer (no offence). Not only the look of them, but also knowing the amount of work, sacrifice and effort that has gone in them to get them that way.

But above and beyond everything else I like intelligence, men with character and interests, who value honesty and integrity. I dont do drama, and I refuse to fuss and argue. Life's too short!!..

I like people who appreciate the simple things in life..a free spirit, who looks for solutions instead of problems, is honest, true to self and the people around him, masters the art of conversation and chooses to display compassion over power. Erm...needless to say...haven't found 'him' yet...hehe.. no hope, no glory!..(..don't wake me.. ignorance is bliss!....)

B!

i can imagine how frusterating that must be! i believe there there is a right person out there for everyone( as cheezy as that may sound) and they might not be what you had in mind but completly different. i know this b/c i witnessed a dear friend of mine fall for a man who was.... "lets just say definatly did not fit into the profile she constantly yapped about). so i'm glad that you branched out from bodybuilders to explore other possibilities evan if it not working out too well now. just keep your head up and have an open mind i guess and one day you will meet him whether he be what you expect or not....its just not the right time.

 

[BlondeBombshell27]

Smile and eyes. Most of all their hot and sexy bodies.

 

[jeepchick]

Eyes- bright smiley eyes and intelligence not just smart but geeky smart! I can get him to work out and put on mass but you can't add IQ points just by reading books. I'm weak for a geek. My DH has big blue smiley eyes with camel lashes and a masters in Physics with a minor in math and economics.

 

[Rebecca D]

I noticed my husband's arms first and then his eyes. The next things I noticed were how he treated his mother and his dog.


Rebecca D

 

[debij]

His overall cleanliness - is he clean looking, nice shoes, neat clothes (doesnt have to be expensive stuff) but neat. After that its his hands - the more beat-up the better, his eyes & if he looks in mine when he talks to me, height - tall is good,and his voice. But mostly, and I know you'll all puke at this, but truly its how he treats a woman. I like to watch and see how a man cares for the woman he's with. Does he show he cares, holds her hand, arm around her or is he 6 feet ahead of her?? Just all the little things.

 

[nangiggles]

Up front I notice arms, back/chest, smile/teeth and eyes, including eyebrows, I like arched ones but natural, no plucking! I must admint I don't like big/gonzo noses....
Others include voice, laugh and sense of humour