first thing you notice about a man

[Heart of Steel]

I met my baby's father on a different bb board and was first attracted to his sense of humor and his intelligence. Once we met face to face, it was his smile that immediately melted my heart. Then I noticed the rest of his amazing body!

 

[pimparealwoman]

..Before answering that question truth to be said, I've never had a relationship with a non-bodybuilder. I have been lifting weights since I was 16, and started dating after that...(I'm a bit slow, I know..hehe..I'm not really the relationship type anyway..I always thought of a relationship as a friendship on fire..might be mistaken there though..) In between relationships I've been going out with guys that don't lift..or just go to the gym every now and then, but I keep running into the same phenomenon.

Maybe it's me..but every time I 'date' a non bodybuilder I tell them from the start what my 'lifestyle' entails, just not to waste anybody's time or set myself up for disaster..'I'm a bodybuilder, that is what I do..that's how I live my life... I walk around with Tupperware all the time...I go to the gym every day, I get up before the crack of dawn to do cardio..I eat funky stuff...That's what makes me tick.. If any of that bothers you, I'm not the girl for you..'....Fair enough not??...

Every time...and this happened about 3 times now..they say it's not a problem at all, that's what attracts them to me. They appreciate the discipline, time and dedication I put into it..and they look forward to train with me...rah..rah..Then after say 2 weeks or so the trouble starts. 'Want to go and grab a burger at MacD, hun?..'..'Erm, no..don't do Mac D..Sorry'..'Aaahhh, come one...one burger won't do nothing to your six pack..on top of that, I like you with or without six pack'......'Do you have to go to the gym again, today?..I arranged something special for us this afternoon'...'You went yesterday,...not going one day won't hurt'......'Erm..I'm going today, and to give you a sneak preview on the near future..pretty sure I'll go tomorrow as well!!'.....Needless to say...that's me done relating!

Obviously dating bodybuilders is a different ballgame, even if you just met,..feels like coming home, because you have such a large part of your daily life in common. Trouble is to find a half sane bodybuilder... ..I'm kidding..

So, to answer the question..(I'm soapbox Annie again..Oh dear me..Sorry!)..I like nice teeth, a glorious smile..and legs, bodybuilding legs..I think legs make the difference between a bodybuilder and a beachboy or a bouncer (no offence). Not only the look of them, but also knowing the amount of work, sacrifice and effort that has gone in them to get them that way.

But above and beyond everything else I like intelligence, men with character and interests, who value honesty and integrity. I dont do drama, and I refuse to fuss and argue. Life's too short!!..

I like people who appreciate the simple things in life..a free spirit, who looks for solutions instead of problems, is honest, true to self and the people around him, masters the art of conversation and chooses to display compassion over power. Erm...needless to say...haven't found 'him' yet...hehe.. no hope, no glory!..(..don't wake me.. ignorance is bliss!....)

B!

 

[*ebony*]

..Before answering that question truth to be said, I've never had a relationship with a non-bodybuilder. I have been lifting weights since I was 16, and started dating after that...(I'm a bit slow, I know..hehe..I'm not really the relationship type anyway..I always thought of a relationship as a friendship on fire..might be mistaken there though..) In between relationships I've been going out with guys that don't lift..or just go to the gym every now and then, but I keep running into the same phenomenon.

Maybe it's me..but every time I 'date' a non bodybuilder I tell them from the start what my 'lifestyle' entails, just not to waste anybody's time or set myself up for disaster..'I'm a bodybuilder, that is what I do..that's how I live my life... I walk around with Tupperware all the time...I go to the gym every day, I get up before the crack of dawn to do cardio..I eat funky stuff...That's what makes me tick.. If any of that bothers you, I'm not the girl for you..'....Fair enough not??...

Every time...and this happened about 3 times now..they say it's not a problem at all, that's what attracts them to me. They appreciate the discipline, time and dedication I put into it..and they look forward to train with me...rah..rah..Then after say 2 weeks or so the trouble starts. 'Want to go and grab a burger at MacD, hun?..'..'Erm, no..don't do Mac D..Sorry'..'Aaahhh, come one...one burger won't do nothing to your six pack..on top of that, I like you with or without six pack'......'Do you have to go to the gym again, today?..I arranged something special for us this afternoon'...'You went yesterday,...not going one day won't hurt'......'Erm..I'm going today, and to give you a sneak preview on the near future..pretty sure I'll go tomorrow as well!!'.....Needless to say...that's me done relating!

Obviously dating bodybuilders is a different ballgame, even if you just met,..feels like coming home, because you have such a large part of your daily life in common. Trouble is to find a half sane bodybuilder... ..I'm kidding..

So, to answer the question..(I'm soapbox Annie again..Oh dear me..Sorry!)..I like nice teeth, a glorious smile..and legs, bodybuilding legs..I think legs make the difference between a bodybuilder and a beachboy or a bouncer (no offence). Not only the look of them, but also knowing the amount of work, sacrifice and effort that has gone in them to get them that way.

But above and beyond everything else I like intelligence, men with character and interests, who value honesty and integrity. I dont do drama, and I refuse to fuss and argue. Life's too short!!..

I like people who appreciate the simple things in life..a free spirit, who looks for solutions instead of problems, is honest, true to self and the people around him, masters the art of conversation and chooses to display compassion over power. Erm...needless to say...haven't found 'him' yet...hehe.. no hope, no glory!..(..don't wake me.. ignorance is bliss!....)

B!

i can imagine how frusterating that must be! i believe there there is a right person out there for everyone( as cheezy as that may sound) and they might not be what you had in mind but completly different. i know this b/c i witnessed a dear friend of mine fall for a man who was.... "lets just say definatly did not fit into the profile she constantly yapped about). so i'm glad that you branched out from bodybuilders to explore other possibilities evan if it not working out too well now. just keep your head up and have an open mind i guess and one day you will meet him whether he be what you expect or not....its just not the right time.

 

[BlondeBombshell27]

Smile and eyes. Most of all their hot and sexy bodies.

 

[jeepchick]

Eyes- bright smiley eyes and intelligence not just smart but geeky smart! I can get him to work out and put on mass but you can't add IQ points just by reading books. I'm weak for a geek. My DH has big blue smiley eyes with camel lashes and a masters in Physics with a minor in math and economics.

 

[Rebecca D]

I noticed my husband's arms first and then his eyes. The next things I noticed were how he treated his mother and his dog.


Rebecca D

 

[debij]

His overall cleanliness - is he clean looking, nice shoes, neat clothes (doesnt have to be expensive stuff) but neat. After that its his hands - the more beat-up the better, his eyes & if he looks in mine when he talks to me, height - tall is good,and his voice. But mostly, and I know you'll all puke at this, but truly its how he treats a woman. I like to watch and see how a man cares for the woman he's with. Does he show he cares, holds her hand, arm around her or is he 6 feet ahead of her?? Just all the little things.

 

[nangiggles]

Up front I notice arms, back/chest, smile/teeth and eyes, including eyebrows, I like arched ones but natural, no plucking! I must admint I don't like big/gonzo noses....
Others include voice, laugh and sense of humour