Finding a third......

[Basikstylz]

Okay so I'm looking for a little help and for someone to point me in the right direction.


So... my gf and I are potentially looking to experince our first 3some. I was wondering if there are any one here on EF that has activley sought out a 3rd and been succesfull. I'm not really looking for those guys who managed to score with two random chicks. since that is a different situation than I am in right now.


I'm not really looking for anyone to tell me the possible consequences of this situation. We have talked about and discussed them. We have not decided fully if we are going to. But it is something we would both like to at least try once.

anyways..... Input please?

OH and no M were looking for a female to join us so I know that makes the search that much harder.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Nobody has any input here?

Don't be shy... step up and share.

 

[BNG]

My only advice is let her pick. you be open to it, and treat the new cummer as a third party not thee party and you'll be fine.


................................................... next!

 

[NEO1]

Agreed, let her pick. Go to a club, wait till the drunk girls start dancing on each other, have fun!

 

[rnch]

don't do it, dood....eventually she will hold it against you, even if it is her idea.


this is called "feminine logic".

 

[Basikstylz]

Agreed, let her pick. Go to a club, wait till the drunk girls start dancing on each other, have fun!

Ya, I've been thinking about trying that.... I don't know if shes forward enough to make the first move.

 

[Basikstylz]

don't do it, dood....eventually she will hold it against you, even if it is her idea.


this is called "feminine logic".

Ya, I know what your saying. This has crossed my mind a few times.


but this is also a girl who said. "If we do do this..and you finish.... would you care if the two of us still kept at it?"

kinda makes me feel like I should be the jealous one since I will have to take the occasional break for "recovery time"

 

[Bikini Mod]

Many men *think* they can handle such a situation but those men are the exception, rather than the rule.

Not saying anything negative about such adventures. Just advising all parties to be aware of the reality of this *unexpected* turn of events.

 

[*The_West*]

3 way sex is the future

 

[rnch]

Ya, I know what your saying. This has crossed my mind a few times.


but this is also a girl who said. "If we do do this..and you finish.... would you care if the two of us still kept at it?"

kinda makes me feel like I should be the jealous one since I will have to take the occasional break for "recovery time"

"she's cheating on you"

 

[Bikini Mod]

3 way sex is the future

Actually swinging became popular with the invention of the birth control pill. It's not new, been round for quite some time. The only *new* aspect is the introduction of online dating sites for like-minded adults. As with those seeking *conventional* dating situations, a guide certainly helps individuals navigate those waters.

... and yes, I DID author a book about this too.

 

[*The_West*]

Actually swinging became popular with the invention of the birth control pill. It's not new, been round for quite some time. The only *new* aspect is the introduction of online dating sites for like-minded adults. As with those seeking *conventional* dating situations, a guide certainly helps individuals navigate those waters.

... and yes, I DID author a book about this too.

actually im pretty sure the romans and ancient greeks were loving the orgies. hell, for all we know cavemen were spit roasting their bitches.

 

[Bikini Mod]

actually im pretty sure the romans and ancient greeks were loving the orgies. hell, for all we know cavemen were spit roasting their bitches.

Hehehehehe you know it!!!

But as far as swinging becoming something that was out in the open for mainstream America the pill and (I believe) LSD, etc had a lot to do with it.

 

[Wulfgar]

porn stars work best for this situation IMHO

 

[pappad]

don't do it, dood....eventually she will hold it against you, even if it is her idea.


this is called "feminine logic".

+1^^^^^

 

[Basikstylz]

porn stars work best for this situation IMHO

Whats funny is this was actually something we considered... haha. I had a friend who was starting to talk to a porn star... but it didn't end up going anywhere. So that kinda fell through......

 

[Bikini Mod]

don't do it, dood....eventually she will hold it against you, even if it is her idea.


this is called "feminine logic".

Believe it or not most times it is THE MAN who will hold it against his female partner becoming jealous of the arousal of his partner for another woman. They end up becoming hateful and insecure calling their wife/gf a lesbian.

 

[NEO1]

There are a whole lot of risks involved, man getting jealous when your woman gets off harder from a female partner than you, woman gets jealous the minute you are "in" another woman.

My advice, lay strict ground rules of what each of you expect and stick to them.

 

[Trendsetter21]

It doesn't matter who picks you both have to agree on who it is. So the picking part really doesn't matter. You need to work together as a team.....since you have decided to do this together. Like said above most guys can't handle it, they get jealous of the woman. My wife and I have never had an issue, its just fun time.

 

[MichaelScott]

in for 3

 

[Mickey36]

You can find your third wherever you can find your partner - internet, grocery store, bar, gym... I will usually have my husband flirt with the other girl and if she shows interest in him while I am there, then I will flirt with her as well. There have been quite a few times that I was picked up by the other girl. In order for that to occur, your girlfriend needs to seem approachable and open. Good luck and try to always keep in physical touch with your girlfriend during the "act" so she never feels left out.

 

[NEO1]

IE...dont throw her off the bed to fuck the other girl..thats bad.

You can find your third wherever you can find your partner - internet, grocery store, bar, gym... I will usually have my husband flirt with the other girl and if she shows interest in him while I am there, then I will flirt with her as well. There have been quite a few times that I was picked up by the other girl. In order for that to occur, your girlfriend needs to seem approachable and open. Good luck and try to always keep in physical touch with your girlfriend during the "act" so she never feels left out.[/QUOTE]

 

[Mickey36]

LOL... Precisely

IE...dont throw her off the bed to fuck the other girl..thats bad.

You can find your third wherever you can find your partner - internet, grocery store, bar, gym... I will usually have my husband flirt with the other girl and if she shows interest in him while I am there, then I will flirt with her as well. There have been quite a few times that I was picked up by the other girl. In order for that to occur, your girlfriend needs to seem approachable and open. Good luck and try to always keep in physical touch with your girlfriend during the "act" so she never feels left out.[/QUOTE]

 

[Creepusmaximus]

Just stare at them like a dirty bastard giving them commands on what to do to each other. When you're tired of that just jump right on the new chick and go like a rabbit on vigra. Finish up quickly and then take a nap.