fat trouble

[danaf1]

is it wrong to not have sex with ur gf cuz shes fat. (or gotten fat)

her body is beginning to be unappealing.

if she was expecting, itd be different

shes just plain lazy.

help peeps

Man, I'm in the same boat as you. My wife has put on a few pounds the last couple years. Not that she is fat, but the whole cottage cheese ass and boobs are sagging topped with the whole stretch marks after the kid make my hand more tempting to sleep with than her. I try to get her to come to the gym or do some calesthinics with me at home but she wants to lay on the couch and eat chips instead. If it weren't for my kid I would just move on, so be careful because if she is like that now just imagine a few years down the road.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Man, I'm in the same boat as you. My wife has put on a few pounds the last couple years. Not that she is fat, but the whole cottage cheese ass and boobs are sagging topped with the whole stretch marks after the kid make my hand more tempting to sleep with than her. I try to get her to come to the gym or do some calesthinics with me at home but she wants to lay on the couch and eat chips instead. If it weren't for my kid I would just move on, so be careful because if she is like that now just imagine a few years down the road.

Maybe she's just worn out. You & I know that going to the gym is energizing, but if you don't KNOW that, you're not gonna want to do it.
Try finding interesting stuff to do. Ride real bicycles, play golf (& walk the course). Tell her it excites you to see her sweat.
Good luck.

 

[TheOak84]

You know what drives me crazy?? I see these men who are big fat whales and they expect their woman to be skinny......to me if she gets big too...at least when they have sex shes protected from being squooshed
These women have your kids, clean your house and wash your nasty ass underwear....maybe she doesnt have time to go to the gym because shes busy taking care of your kids while you go to the gym

ya... were 21... not married, dont live together, and no way in HELL have anykind of offsrping... not even a goddam gold fish...

 

[danaf1]

Maybe she's just worn out. You & I know that going to the gym is energizing, but if you don't KNOW that, you're not gonna want to do it.
Try finding interesting stuff to do. Ride real bicycles, play golf (& walk the course). Tell her it excites you to see her sweat.
Good luck.

I tried to convince her to just do some minor things in hopes that she would see that working out will make her feel better as well but it is always unsuccessful. She says going to the gym is too difficult because there is no one to watch the kid(even though I offered to go at a different time so I could stay with the kid). She told me if I designed a calesthinic routine for her she would do it at home but every time I do this she doesn't even give it a shot. I tried to get her to take a run with me but that doesn't work even when she gives it a shot because I have to stop and wait for her so much I don't get a workout. She seriously can't run 1/4 mile without stopping. I hate running anyway, but I am out of ways to get her to do anything. I have told her I think it is sexy to see a woman getting a little sweaty but it doesn't get me anywhere except "I'll start tomorrow" and endless excuses why she can't start today. She loves watching me workout and of course loves the results but she can't seem to understand it works both ways.

 

[Gymgurl]

Man, I'm in the same boat as you. My wife has put on a few pounds the last couple years. Not that she is fat, but the whole cottage cheese ass and boobs are sagging topped with the whole stretch marks after the kid make my hand more tempting to sleep with than her. I try to get her to come to the gym or do some calesthinics with me at home but she wants to lay on the couch and eat chips instead. If it weren't for my kid I would just move on, so be careful because if she is like that now just imagine a few years down the road.

First of all....Oak..try to come up with some things to do that are activity related...so she is getting in exercise without really knowing it...if she mentions it to you talk to her about it but NEVER AGREE with her.....just offer advice.....

Yes I think we owe it to our partner to take care of our bodies...BUT..BUT stretch marks from children, sagging boobs from age, and cottage cheese ass can sometimes not be helped no matter what and that kinda shit pisses me off.....I have had three kids and will be 40 in a couple months...I have gained 40-45 pounds twice and 60 pounds the last time....I have taken all that weight off every single time.....for who???My hubby and myself...but he has never ever ever said anything about my body not once.....If he would have I would have most likely kept all the weight on just to piss him off.....

So be gentle and tell her if you have to...but she will never be the same in bed or in just being naked around you...that I can promise you....

 

[SoKlueles]

ya... were 21... not married, dont live together, and no way in HELL have anykind of offsrping... not even a goddam gold fish...

Well then you dont see yourself in the future with her then....you dont love her enough
I think the weight thing is just an excuse to break up with her.....and for your sake and her sake, maybe you should
and im not being a butt...it just seems that you really dont find her attractive....and the weight isnt the REAL problem

 

[pintoca]

shit man, considering leaving your wife solely based on how she looks is WAY FUCKED UP in my book... try to remember what made you decide you wanted her to be your wife in the first place... was it only looks, then it might have been the wrong decision. Looks don't last forever

 

[danaf1]

First of all....Oak..try to come up with some things to do that are activity related...so she is getting in exercise without really knowing it...if she mentions it to you talk to her about it but NEVER AGREE with her.....just offer advice.....

Yes I think we owe it to our partner to take care of our bodies...BUT..BUT stretch marks from children, sagging boobs from age, and cottage cheese ass can sometimes not be helped no matter what and that kinda shit pisses me off.....I have had three kids and will be 40 in a couple months...I have gained 40-45 pounds twice and 60 pounds the last time....I have taken all that weight off every single time.....for who???My hubby and myself...but he has never ever ever said anything about my body not once.....If he would have I would have most likely kept all the weight on just to piss him off.....

So be gentle and tell her if you have to...but she will never be the same in bed or in just being naked around you...that I can promise you....

I've tried about everything I can think of. She doesn't even want to walk the dog yet alone go hiking with me or something like that which doesn't seem like you are just training. I didn't mean anything by the stretch marks, I know they can't be helped and she got them from having my daughter which I greatly respect her for. However, she is not even 21 yet, so the ass and boobs cannot be blamed on age. If she would just do activity of some sort her ass would go back to how it used to be and a little strength training focused in the chest area woyld help bring her boobs up. She is always complaining that I don't want to have sex but she doesn't do anything about it. I am always trying to continously improve my physique for her as well as myself, but she doesn't understand it is a two way road.

 

[danaf1]

shit man, considering leaving your wife solely based on how she looks is WAY FUCKED UP in my book... try to remember what made you decide you wanted her to be your wife in the first place... was it only looks, then it might have been the wrong decision. Looks don't last forever

It's by far based soley on that. Sadly, that is all that is really left in our relationship. We try to make it work for the kid, at least until we return from overseas where if worse comes to worse, I will be able to see my kid whenever I like.

 

[Saint V]

Leave some subtle hints laying around the house. A thigh master here, some fat burners there. Maybe sprinkle some Special K on the bed. You get the idea.