my GF is hard to get off, Zoloft plays hell on her in that area, so I always try ond get her at least one. But sometimes I can't get her to cum and she will have to try masturbating, which is fine, I love touchng her and watching while she does her thing. But to answer this thread, women are different, some and get arroudsed and almost to hte point of orgasm just by rubbing her nipples and kissing, while others are more like my GF, so the moral of the story is, due your best to make it good for her, whatever that is....
one point that I'd like to make though is one that I talk about to my GF, if you get your BF off first, while he is doing oral for you, that is a good recovery timeperiod for him. When he finishes, it shoukd be OK for him to go again. My SO doesn't seem to grasp that idea.