Do men like to be hit on?

[canadianhitman]

I never heard back from him, so whatever the reason, it's all good. Could be anything, but I know I am cool enough that if I tell someone i'm going to do something and can't, I let them know. He lost major points.

So there is this guy who found me on FB, because we have many mutual friends. We had some back and forth on msg'es this morning and he is going to try to promote my business (he works in radio) and we went on and on. I said "Ok well thanks, have a great day" and his reply was "Ok a loaded question, how about i take you our for a coffee, drink or water?"
My reply "I'll see, if I do, it's as a friend only because not ready to date really"
He said "cool, I suck at dating, but you seem so amazing, would love to meet you in person"
Then find out he lives 5 blocks away.

He's really good looking, so I'm assuming he's bad news and again, he hit on me!

Opinions?

Gee, why on earth would you even give a good looking local guy a chance? At least meet for a coffee and get a 'vibe' as to whether or not he might be a good person...it's just a beverage and conversation for God's sake.

 

[blueta2]

5 blocks?......throw on a trench coat and heels with absolutely nothing but your birthday suit underneath, show up and ring the bell and when he answers flash him. You will dating him in no time.

ummm, no! That's pretty desperate...hahah!

I work much slower than this

 

[blueta2]

why is it bad news that he's good looking?? or bad news that he hit on you.. just tell him you are into woman now and see if he continues the "friendship" thing..

Cuz most good looking men are super insecure and like I said in the beginning of this thread, when they hit on me, they are usually bad news. If it's so easy to hit on me, then they hit on every girl

 

[blueta2]

give him a chance! Just dont' open up until he deserves it...have the qualifications in your head and don't be afraid to jump if he doesn't meet them. Only a certain awesome man of integrity can have your heart!

I will see. We have many mutual friends it seems so will ask around about him even before I meet him.
I'm so done with bad men, I will need the FBI to interview my next potential BF ;-)

 

[blueta2]

Gee, why on earth would you even give a good looking local guy a chance? At least meet for a coffee and get a 'vibe' as to whether or not he might be a good person...it's just a beverage and conversation for God's sake.

I may....but it would be for wine, Pick would disown me if I drank coffee ;-)

 

[redsamurai]

ummm, no! That's pretty desperate...hahah!

I work much slower than this

not desperate at all...it's taking control.

would be even more hilarious if as he's staring at you with his jaw on the floor you just tackle him back into his house/apt. Just be sure to reach back and close the door behind you so the cops don't get called by people walking by on the street.

 

[cindylou]

The only thing I see is that you said you were not ready to date really and you said that you just wanted to be friends. I hate using the word test, but it might be good test to see if he respects that boundary?

If you're not ready you're not ready. If you do end up liking him and wanting to give him a chance it may give the impression that you don't really mean what you say even though thats not the case.

 

[blueta2]

not desperate at all...it's taking control.

would be even more hilarious if as he's staring at you with his jaw on the floor you just tackle him back into his house/apt. Just be sure to reach back and close the door behind you so the cops don't get called by people walking by on the street.

no way, no control here. This to me is loss of control banging someone you don't even know.
Control is having the respect of another, no?!

Would you really respect some women who did this? I mean yes, you would love it, but would you really respect her?

 

[blueta2]

The only thing I see is that you said you were not ready to date really and you said that you just wanted to be friends. I hate using the word test, but it might be good test to see if he respects that boundary?

If you're not ready you're not ready. If you do end up liking him and wanting to give him a chance it may give the impression that you don't really mean what you say even though thats not the case.

hmmm, yes good point about the test.

Not ready yet for sure

 

[redsamurai]

no way, no control here. This to me is loss of control banging someone you don't even know.
Control is having the respect of another, no?!

Would you really respect some women who did this? I mean yes, you would love it, but would you really respect her?

I guess it would depend. If i had an inkling she was doing this to any guy that passed her by on the street no....but it would be a gas you have to admit. I just want to find someone spontaneous and alive like that. Not necessarily the tackling and taking right there on the doorstep....although that would be sweet later on in the relationship. Just someone who likes to step out of the norm like that and go flash the guy then leave. Everyone is so dirt nap boring anymore.