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brianharper94

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I don't normally look at this board, much less post on it, I guess you could say that I'm just here for the Anabolics board and that's about it. So to everyone on this board, "Hi, my name is 'Brian.'"My head is a little messed up right now, but I 've been doing some thinking. You see, my girlfriend just dumped me, just like everyone of them before her did. It's like I can go out with a girl a few times and just get totally attached to her, even before sleeping with her. It's like I want to spend the rest of my life with whatever girl I'm seeing, and don't really care to bother with any other women. All I read on these boards is guys talking about how many girls they're nailing, have nailed, or want to nail. When I was with my now ex-girlfriend, I went out drinking with a couple of friends and this really hot girl came up and was all over me, and I was just like, "I'm sorry, I'm really involved with a great girl right now." I guess I'm just some kind of loser or something. It really bothers me. This weekend I'm going out with this girl that I've known for six or seven months. I totally dig her already, but I'm afraid to show it because I'm afraid it might scare her off. How about some advice or something. I just needed to get all off this out of my head.

bh
 
Women do not want men that do not present a challenge. If you act whipped, the challenge is over and she's going to start looking elsewhere.

You're probably a really nice guy and more deserving of their affection, but most chicks wind up sleeping with dickheads like me until their self-esteem and confidence is shot, and then they eventually settle down with some poor schmuck who has to listen to all the fucked up stories and things meatheads like me put them through while they were single. Do not attempt to use logic to explain the behavior of women.
 
You sound like a really great guy. PLEASE, it's going to be hard until you find the right one, but be yourself and to hell with them. yOU WILL find someone who appreciates you. Don't screw up future relationships by closing yourself off, holding people at arms length to present a challenge. Just so long as you know yo're worth your weight in gold, you won't take getting walked on. That's challenge enough for a good girl.
 
I'll agree with the great enemy of the foreskin above (Hamhock) and say that you are just bein far too easy. You'll continually get fucked over until you demand women's respect. I don't normally recommend either sex to be bastards and think fidelity is great , but you need to get a little bit closer to the "dark side". Flirt a little with other women , they use jealousy all the time - you should too.
 
HamHock said:
Women do not want men that do not present a challenge. If you act whipped, the challenge is over and she's going to start looking elsewhere.

You're probably a really nice guy and more deserving of their affection, but most chicks wind up sleeping with dickheads like me until their self-esteem and confidence is shot, and then they eventually settle down with some poor schmuck who has to listen to all the fucked up stories and things meatheads like me put them through while they were single. Do not attempt to use logic to explain the behavior of women.
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you got something there smarty pants!!!:p
 
I am a nice guy, yet firm. I don't put up with girls bullshit, but I do compromise when I think it's fair. I have had some pretty good luck being this way, and it is natural for me. The trick is to find a balance, be nice, but not a push over. Nobody will respect you if you are a pushover.
 
Mandinka brought up a good point, if you are uncircumsized, you will find it difficult to keep a women for any length of time unless you live in the Domincan Republic, Uganda, Indonesia, or similar country.
 
So I should treat women like shit? Or I should just be myself? Honestly, I can't be mean to someone that I care about. Whether it messes things up or not, I just can't do it. My problem is that the girl I'm going out with this weekend is my FRIEND. I really care about her. Hell, I've already fallen for her and we haven't even gone out yet. She's always been really good to me, it really brightens up my day whenever I see her. Is it such a bad thing to like somebody, maybe even have a crush on them. The bad thing is that since I'll be going out with my friend that I run and talk to when I'm having relationship troubles, who am I going to talk to if we get into a relationship? She's an amazing girl, I would say that she's perfect, there's no way that she's not going to know that I'm totally into her.

bh
 
Brian

Deep breaths man! ,
take it easy , you are becoming too dependent on one woman , try and cultivate multiple female friends. I'll make a suggestion - buy a copy of "Magnolia" and forward it to Tom Cruise's speech about "Men are shit" everytime you feel like falling for someone. It took me a long time to realise that no matter what women do to men , they will always get sympathy from their women friends and then at the same time they will say that men are such dogs. I've never cheated on a woman , but I did not hide the fact that other women were interested in me and hey presto - respect.
Hamhock has got an obsession with his cock and his mother - I recommend you stay away from both.
 
Brian, I'm taking you seriously here. As a girl, I can tell you that if she's been helping you through your relationship troubles it's possible she even has a crush on you. Stranger things have happened. All I can advise you is take it slow, because she won't want to feel like a rebound.
 
Honeynut...Do you really think that it's possible that she has a crush on me too? I'm just an average guy (well, a 300 pound average guy) who doesn't even have a job right now. She's sooooo perfect. She is beautiful, sweet, caring, understanding, and has her life really together. Honestly, I think she's going out with me because she feels sorry for me. If that's not the reason she's going out with me, then that would be great. I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me, especially "my dream girl".

bh
 
It is tough finding the right balance...maybe impossible. You would probably get further with them if you had a job. Every woman wants to eventually marry...to a guy with a decent job. Most people would probably go out with someone who is unemployed...then get nervous about the unemployed part. Sorry to hear your story, hope things improve soon.
 
BH - just curious, how old are you? How old are the girls you're dating?

Girls and guys have secret crushes on their platonic friends all the time, I think it's entirely possible she might harbor one for you. HOWEVER - I didn't say this to make you jump the gun, only so you keep your eyes open for any signs. Trust me, take it slow. If you confess your undying love to her now, she'll probably think you just can't take being alone and she's the next best thing.

It is also possible that she doesn't have a crush on you, she's really just your friend, and saying something like that might alter your relationship.

Either way it's way too soon to make a move, so bide your time as patiently as you can, and try and content yourself with her friendship for the moment.
 
Maybe...I think modern women hide their feelings more than men do. I sometimes have no idea what a woman thinks of me. Maybe she doesn't either.
 
If you're wondering what your friend thinks of you, ask her. Seriously bro, just ask her if she's into you or not.

I always though girls would be freaked out by this approach, but I think most of 'em appreciate the lack to bullshit involved. At the very least it'll get things out in the open.

Oh, but don't get all heavy and shit....just be cool and have fun. :D
 
Thanks everyone, this is really helping ease my nerves some. By the way, I'm almost 20, the girl I was with was 18, the girl I'm going out with this weekend (my friend, the perfect one) is 22, and I just lost my job on Monday, but I don't really think that is the problem because my family is loaded. I'm thinking on taking some classes or something, and just not having a job for awhile. I'm good at saving money, and I have good people handle it so that it makes money for me. My friend, not the perfect girl, but another one said that my problem is that I've always had everything handed to me or done for me, so whenever something bad comes up I have trouble dealing with it. He's right. I'm the type of guy that's physically strong, but mentally, I'm not shit. I want to work and make for myself, I don't want to be the guy that has it made because his family's always had money. A couple of your replies have made me think that if i mess up trying to have a relationship with this girl, that I'll lose her as a friend too. I couldn't bare to do that, so would I be right in my thinking that I should kind of stay back a little and hold off on showing her how I feel? I'm sure she already knows that I'm totally crazy about her, she's pretty sharp. I like the idea of asking her, but wouldn't that be a little forward? That's just like putting everything out on the line, you know. By asking wouldn't I be showing that I was infatuated with her, and then she might get freaked out and start avoiding me. I'm confusing myself. Oh, some more great news in my life, My car just got smashed about four hours ago. I'm okay, but it was a new car. That poor guys insurance is going to be through the roof.
 
You're having a really, really shitty week :D Sorry about your car

Putting everything on the table can be liberating. You won't have to carry this big weight of feeling inside yourself. I do think it's too soon to make a move though, because she might think you're using her so you're not alone. If she's been hearing you say how in love you are all this time, coaching you through your relationship with someone you made it seem you adored, changing lanes so fast is going to do zero for your credibility. I'd wait. Once a good amount of time has passed for her to be comfortable that you're over your ex, definitely take the "put it on the table" approach. No risk of mixed signals.

Advice: 'infatuated' is a strong word that I am scared of. If a guy tells me he is infatuated with me, I get a little worried.
 
Makes since. Yeah, this has been a terrible week, but on the bright side, I get a new car and I'm going out with the greatest girl in the world. I talked to my ex on the phone today. She was nice, but I'm still not going to pass up this opportunity to go back to her, even if she wanted me too. I guess I was a little off when I said that when I was with her no one else mattered, because my friend, the perfect one, did matter, but I thought of her only as a friend because I never dreamed anything this great could happen. Thanks for all of this help, you should be a counselor or something. Is obsessed a bad word to use? I can't stop thinking about her, but isn't that still infatuated? I'm not very good with words. Anyway, I'm going car shopping now, got to have something to take my favorite girl in the world out with. Any suggestions on the type of car? Money's not a big deal because I'm getting a ton for my car that he smashed. No Bently's or anything like that though. I'm leaning toward a Chevy TrailBlazer or an Acura MDX. I had a Toyota Highlander, it was nice, but I figured that I should get something different.
 
It's like I can go out with a girl a few times and just get totally attached to her, even before sleeping with her. It's like I want to spend the rest of my life with whatever girl I'm seeing, and don't really care to bother with any other women. All I read on these boards is guys talking about how many girls they're nailing, have nailed, or want to nail. When I was with my now ex-girlfriend, I went out drinking with a couple of friends and this really hot girl came up and was all over me, and I was just like, "I'm sorry, I'm really involved with a great girl right now." I guess I'm just some kind of loser or something. It really bothers me.
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congratulations on being a decent guy! Rejecting a girl while you're out @ a time you're involved in a relationship does not make you a loser. I was w/ a guy w/ would fuck anything that walked by @ a bar. I took his shit for too long and it leaves a huge scar just to let you know. so you sound like a great guy and so what if you fall head over heals just stop yourself as much as possible when you feel it happening take a good look at the girl and everything you know about her......if it isn't much get to know her who really cares how many chicks you can fuck in a week? some guy friends? are they really what are going to matter in this case. I'll tell you by the kind of guy you sound like you are it definately won't be the type of girl you'll want to settle down w/. :)
 
No prob, glad I could help. As for cars, if you want an SUV get the Acura. I think that this is pretty redundant though, as you should never get what someone else tells you to get, but get what YOU want instead. I have taste of my own, just like you. Get something you're going to enjoy.

I know what you mean about obsessed/infatuated, if someone's on your mind all the time it's hard not to use words like that. I'm just advising you not to use them with her, to describe how you feel about her. It's a little too heavy of a word. Don't use love yet either, as if she's a cautious, smart girl she probably won't believe you no matter how much you tell her you mean it. Tell her you really care about her, you have feelings about her. When the time is right of course.
 
If you fall for girls too easily and get really attached so quickly , then you probably have somewhat low self esteem. Not a flame or anything, just telling ya how I see it. You can work on it though.
 
freshr1....Low self-esteem? Yeah, you're right bro. I do have great taste in women too though. I can't say that I have ever gone out with a girl that I didn't want to go out with. Of course, I think most women are pretty anyway, but this girl I'm seeing tomorrow night isn't pretty, she's more than pretty, she's perfect.

honeynut..... As for saying stuff to her about love and all of that, I know that's a no-no this early in the game. I did tell her she was my favorite person to be around. Is that too much? She just smiled, maybe blushed a little, and said that she liked hanging out with me too. She's really sweet and good-hearted so I don't think she would just all out say for me to get lost or something like that. I like the Acura's too, but I was just talking to the Cadillac people about an Escalade. I think I'm going to go buy it tomorrow afternoon before my big date. If not then I guess I'll rent something because I don't want to be driving my mom's car on a date. It's a nice car, but it's my mom's and that would feel wierd.

starbrn....Thanks for saying I'm a decent guy, it helps too know that someone thinks so. I've been cheated on before too, and yeah it does scar you. Personally though, I'd rather be dumped for someone else than dumped for no one at all which was the latest case. You sound pretty nice, so just remember that you don't need some guy that's not going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Guys can be stupid some..well, most of the time, so don't feel bad about yourself when a guy messes up and ruins whatever chance he had at a meaningful relationship with you. Just kick him to the curb and find someone better.
 
I don't think that was too much, I think that was perfect :) Remember you're a great guy, believe in your worth, and you'll be fine. It's the truth!
 
Okay, I'm glad that i said something right for once!!! I'm s excited, nervous, anxious, over-joyed, thrilled, worried, confused, terrified, exstatic, oh, and I forgot happy, about going out with her tomorrow night that I don't think I'm going to be able to goto sleep tonight. I hope I don't do anything stupid or say something wrong. Now that we've gone over what not to say, any suggestions on things that I can say? I usually find myself saying something like, "I really, really,really,really like you...a lot...really." I always feel like an ass after I say something like that, but like I said, I'm not very good with words. I'm hoping that since I know this girl pretty well that I'll be a little more suave around her, but I doubt it. I'm more of the type that would just stare, drool, and make some kind of silly looking face. I can't mess this up though, I've been going through possible situations in my mind and conversation topics and stuff like that, but I still think that I'm going to mess up. Girls like to talk about themselves right? I could talk about her for hours, but that might scare her huh? I hope she's a little more talkative than normal becauseI don't want to be like the only one talking. I'm a good listener, but I have to have something to listen too. I figured we could go get something to eat at a really expensive place, goto a haunted house or something since it's near Halloween, catch a movie, and then take her back home. Maybe if I'm lucky I'll get a peck on the cheek even. I'd probably faint if she did. I know I would if she were to actually kiss me on the lips. She's sooooooo wonderful. I feel like I've won a contest or something and a date with her was the grand prize. I know it sounds corny, but I just can't believe she's going out with me.
 
Hey everyone. I just got in from my big date and i thought I'd give an update. Tonight was the greatest night of my life. I'm so in happy that i could get hit by a truck and I wouldn't know it. I picked her up in my new car, and we went to eat. We ate at this really good Mexican place (her idea). Then we went to the haunted house. She got spooked really good and jumped into my arms (the haunted house was a great idea). We went to see Corky Romano after that. It was a good movie, she held my hand the whole time. Then I took her home and she asked me to come inside (I've been in her place before, so it wasn't what you're thinking). We sat on the couch for a little bit and talked. What was so great is that she said she could see herself spending a lot of time with me because she liked me so much (okay, I'm floating on a cloud right now). After a half an hour or so of talking she asked me if I was ever going to kiss her. I was like "Hell yeah!!!!" Anyway, after about ten minutes or so of kissing I said that I had better be going (I hated to leave, but I didn't want to press my luck). I'm in LOVE. It's like everything has happened so fast that I really haven't been able to think to myself how great this is. I didn't mess up or anything, I didn't even say anything stupid. Thanks to everyone for your advice. You'll all be invited to the wedding (okay, now I'm pushing it). I'm the luckiest man in the world. Just think, I was thinking of ending it all less than a week ago. Man I'm glad I came to my senses. Thanks again to everybody.
 
Fuck her in her ass and then slit her throat while you're cumming.

Naw, seriously bro, I have a similar problem that you do, maybe we weren't loved enough by our parents or something....but I've learned from experience, do NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT get attached too easily, you'll normally end up getting hurt! (I'm not referring to KC here for those of you who know)
 
You shouldn't really even be able to fall in love so damn fast. Are you sure you've been truly in "love" with these women, or just cared a lot about them? Anyways, I hope all works out for ya, and do not give yourself totally to her unless you end up marrying her
 
Girls and me both hate pussies. Just like HAMHOCK said, If you get whipped fast, she'll get bored and bang someone else, smashing your little throbbing heart to a billion peices. Don't treat her like shit but always let her know that there are other fish in the sea and she's lucky to be with you. Extend that gratitude her way also just to keep things equal.

Remember, keep things in moderation and all should be well. NO BIG GIFTS UNLESS A VERY SPECIAL EVENT. That screams pussy whipped!
 
68GT has a very good point - NO BIG GIFTS and I know this may be hard for you. No reason to get her anything unless there's an occasion for it so please try and refrain yourself from that sort of behavior! Your company is enough.

On a lighter note, congratulations!!!!! :arty: Sounds like it was a wonderful success. KEEP YOUR HEAD ON STRAIGHT, don't get overwhelmed, you're not in love yet you're just dizzy and elated 'cause this is new. Take it slow. Good move not pressing your luck and leaving while it was still early, that was very smart!

Awwww, I feel kinda proud of you :)
 
Don't get so excited yet dude. Always expect the worst. She will end up doing you wrong just like all the others. Things can seem so perfect one minute, and you are all alone the next minute. Females are HIGHLY unstable, and you need to keep that in mind. That's why I am starting to talk with 2 girls right now, as well as having another married chick chasing me down. Always have backup. Revenge is sweet. :devil:
 
Good heads up on the big gift thing, I was thinking on getting her something, but now I'll hold off for a while. Would a dozen roses be too much? I was thinking on send her some at work. I was thinking 11 red roses and 1 white one, with a card that said, "In every crowd there is one that is special, and you are that one to me." Would this be pushing it? I just thought it would be sweet. I'm so happy right now, I've never been like this before. Thanks everybody, I guess I know where to turn to for all my relationship questions.:heart:
 
WAY too early! Nice thought, but keep it for a special occasion. NO GIFTS until Christmas or her birthday, and then - keep it small and simple.
 
After a few dates, just get her a single rose in a small vase. It's nothing big, but it shows your interest and she will appreciate it. I suggest you take my advice. You are setting yourself up to get burned by letting your hopes get too high way too early. You REALLY need to play it cool dude. Like I said, females are HIGHLY unstable and can't make up their minds about what they want.

They are most lacking in reasonable thought. :think:
 
I don't think it's reasonable of you to think that all of us don't think, Badazz... ;) But you're right about keeping it cool to avoid getting hurt.
 
Honeynut said:
I don't think it's reasonable of you to think that all of us don't think, Badazz... ;) But you're right about keeping it cool to avoid getting hurt.
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All females will claim to say they are capable of reasonable thought. All will say that they are "good" females. You can be anything you want to be to someone if you lie. Do you think any will actually say they aren't capable of reasonable thought, even if they really aren't? Of course not. It MAY not be ALL females, but around 99% is a very close estimate.
 
I feel you on the not getting something big, but flowers wouldn't be that big. I've got her stuff before, as a gift from a friend, and she knows that I have enough money to go around. If I don't get her anything at all until Christmas, then I'd look really cheap and she knows I'm not cheap. When I think of something big that I could get for Christmas, I'm thinking diamonds (not a ring though). It wouldn't be unusual for me to stop by and have like a little $20 something for her just to know that I was thinking about her. I figure since we're going out now that I should pony up a little more dough on the things i get her. Our date the other night was around $150, which was the highest first date that I've ever had, but I think she's worth every bit of it. I was thinking that if we get intimate anytime soon (normally I shoot for the third date, but I'm going to let her lead the way) that I might ask her to go up to this place my family has in the mountains for a little weekend getaway. Is that pushing it? By the way, badazzwhitedude, most of the time when I get crushed by a girl, I probably deserved it, I've never cheated on one, but I'm sure I would have had to of done something wrong. Girls are smart. This girl isn't like anybody else I've ever been with. She's really caring, and makes me feel good about myself (okay, I'll admit, as hot as she is, when walked in the restaurant the other night, and every guy in there was looking, wishing he was me, that was probably the best feeling ever). Since we've known each other for a good while before we ever went out, can't some of the dating rules (like the big gift thing) go out the window?
 
A little surprise here and there wouldn't hurt. I think it's sweet. I think diamonds are a bit much... not to say she wouldn't love them! I know I would... (HINTHINT to a certain someone! :good: )

If you treat her on a regular basis, there's no reason to change your pattern. It just sounds like you've got a lot of money, and it would be wise of you not to spoil her.
 
brianharper94 said:
By the way, badazzwhitedude, most of the time when I get crushed by a girl, I probably deserved it, I've never cheated on one, but I'm sure I would have had to of done something wrong. Girls are smart.
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Why do you say you derserved it? Because you fell for them to fast and makes you appear too, umm, "easy?" I am not saying that all girls are messed up (although the VAST majority are), and I am definitely not saying that all guys are innocent. But when you say girls are "smart," then why do they make these stupid decisions on the spur of the moment without thinking of long-term effects, and then later on they regret it when it's too late and the damage is already done? Everything could have been prevented if they gave it an ounce of fucking thought in the first place. Doesn't sound very smart to me. :confused:

No flame here brother, but it seems to me that you have lots to learn. It seems like you fall to fast for females and you fall into the traps that they set up for you. I wish you luck brother. You need it.
 
Listen man, if you even remotely think you fall for girls too easily...you do!

It's definitely too early for the roses--albiet, a fantastic idea when you are secure (which is not yet). Remember one concrete factor:

Girls never take the most obviously wise choice. I'm not sure but it seems girls almost think things are too good to be true and botch it up so they don't wind up getting hurt first so the "F" you up first. That's way it is pertinent that you feign interest. Don't neglect...just be like Fonzie--be cool!
 
I can see where everryone is coming from, I really can, and you're all right about somethings. Here's my problem: I've already established the fact that I'm a giving kind of guy to this girl. If I don't give, then it would look like I have lost interest or don't care about her. You guy's say that if I give too much, that it'll scare her off. If the flower idea (which I thought was pretty good) is too much, then what should I get her. I can't get candy because she doesn't touch the stuff. I wouldn't feel right getting clothes because I wouldn't even know where to start or what to get. I thought about a DVD of her favorite movie, but that's more like a gift. Flowers aren't like a gift, they just say, "Hey, I was thinking about you." Any suggestions? I can already see how I've messed up quit a few relationships now, by buying the wrong kind of things at the wrong times.

Badazz....You have something against women don't you bro? If being too nice is doing something wrong that I deserve to get dumped for, then I guess I've deserved to get dumped quite a few times. I can't help it, I just want to show them that I care about them. It never has made since to me why they dump me, but they have to have a reason, right? I mean, looking at myself in the mirror, I'd dump me too, no, I wouldn't go out with me in the first place. Thanks for the input even if it is flamish, I need to hear it.

Honeynut...What kind of surprises? I'm a guy, I need help. When I said diamonds I didn't mean like a $10,000 something, I meant more like $500-600. What can I do not to spoil her, but still treat her? I don't think she'd get spoiled, she's very appreciative of everything. I went to New York about three months ago and brought her back a Yankees cap. She was like, "Oh my god!!! You're so sweet. I can't believe you got me something. You're the best." All that over a little hat (I got a hug too:p ). She's like that everytime I get her something (which is about every 2-3 weeks).

68GT350....I think you go along with badazz huh? I do fall easily, but I've been falling for this girl ever since I first met her. I think I'll have better luck this time because she is one of my closest friends (at least I hope so). Glad you liked the roses idea, you can steal it if you want. I figured that it would be good for a big kiss from her.:bigkiss:
 
See, the hat was a nice idea. Cute, shows you were thinking about her while you were away. Flowers would definitely do the trick. I just thought a dozen roses was a bit, well, much. Red roses say "I love you". Each color rose is supposed to mean something - I think yellow is for friendship, for example, so you might not want to send those either.

It's a beautiful thought though. Why not get her a nice bouquet of something else? I love gerbera daisies. Ask your florist for advice.

Clothes are a little too intimate right now, and too much like a gift, as you said for the DVD.

Go with flowers :)
 
Thanks, I never thought about another kind of flower. Good idea. Well, I'm going out the door to pick her up now. I'm letting her pick everything, so this should be fun. I'll send her the flowers tomorrow at work. Thanks again.
 
Major update!!! I went out with her tonight. Picked up a pink rose for her(just one). We went to this sushi:sick: place (she picked). Then we decided we'd go back to her place to watch wrestling (I told you she was perfect). Well anyway, after wrestling went off we got to talking and she said that she had something that she needed to tell me. (Okay, I'm thinking, oh shit, here comes the you're a great guy, but... ) So I brace myself for the worst, but it wasn't what I expected at all. She said, all the time that I would come to her and ask her female opinion on what I should do about my ex-girlfriend, that all she could think about was how bad she wanted to be in my ex-girlfriend's place. She said that she had never related to someone so much and that there is no one in the world she'd rather be with. (At this point, you couldn't have washed the smile off my face with Clorox) I guess I broke the "Don't let her know how you feel" rule after that, because I just broke out with, "I feel the same way about you, and honestly I've had feelings for you for quite sometime now. This is too good to be true, I LOVE YOU ." As soon as I said it, I just got a mental picture of my computer screen saying "Don't tell her that you love her!!!" Well, she said that she loved me too. So I can't be too screwed can I? We kissed around a little after that, and then i left. If you're wondering why I'm not having sex with her right now, it's because she said she wanted to wait until she was married (which is great, as long as it's me she's marrying. I can hold out, I've got will power...and strong forearms). I don't think the roses would be pushing it now, would they? This is so great, I've finally found someone that really cares about me. I love my life.:arty:
 
It took my FIANCE 8 months to fuck another guy after I gave her the diamond ring. GT350 and whipped do not mix from now on. Life is better and so is the love life. Now I do the whipping.
 
68gt350...sorry to hear that bro. Sounds pretty shitty. So, where did you hide the other guy's body at? Since she said she didn't want to have sex until marriage, I think I'm safe from her fucking some other guy. I've just got to make sure that I'm the one who she marries, right? For some reason, that really impressed me when she said that. I figured that I would have been like, "Oh shit, no pussy," but I kind of like the idea. At least this way, if I'm lucky enough to marry her, she won't have anyone else to compare me to. Sorry about your situatuion bro, but remember, not all girls are like that, you just have to wait until the right one comes along.
 
WOW...

I still think it might have been a little soon!! Some people get freaked out by this type of early outpouring of affection. Do you really love HER, or just that this is happening between you both? Anyway, even if that's the case, it's too late, you can't take it back. And I think you mean what you say, I just wonder if you've ever truly loved before. Please forgove my questions, I just think you need to be honest with yourself to avoid getting hurt.

Then again, it sounds just wonderful over there on your end. You sound like a perfectly sweet guy who has his heart in the right place. I'm happy things are working out with the object of your affection, and I'm glad you're not letting the negative things that I and others on the board have said squelch your enthusiasm or your faith in the opposite sex.

please, just take it slow for your heart's sake.
 
Bro, keep doing what your doing. I just lost the love of my life(three years). She was so into me, we talked about marrige all the time. The mistake I made was in the beggining I played hard to get, but twords the end she knew I was totally devoted to her. I go to the University of Del. (women everywhere) yet I didn't talk to any of them, because of her.

In the end people are right on this board, be yourself, don't be a dick. But you always have to keep em guessing, a little. I thought I knew it all, roses, working out banging body, poetry, nice dinners, romance and great sex. Yet she still left, for another dude. And has never even called to say goodbye, or even a thanks.

So be yourself, go out and date, be commited if thats you, but always be ready for the shoe to drop. Sounds like you got dough as well, which might attract girls for the wrong reason. You want them to like you for you not your dough.

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But you always have to keep em guessing, a little. I thought I knew it all, roses, working out banging body, poetry, nice dinners, romance and great sex. Yet she still left, for another dude. And has never even called to say goodbye, or even a thanks.

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You just described my last situation. I gave that chick everything I had and was very, very good to her. But I was still just a bit cocky and kept myself busy with other things to keep her guessing a little, which all was working perfectly, until she hit a depression and started taking heavy amounts of anti-depressants.

The one rose thing was good. That is what I had suggested earlier. Just don't jump into big things right now. Gradually increase the quality of your gifts, as it gives both you and her something to look forward to. If you start buying her expensive gifts now, what's left? So just start out slow dude. Keep the big gifts for later.

Yes BrianHarper, I DO have issues with females. MOST prove themselves to be of absolutley no worth whatsoever. They are too indecisive and dumb the majority of the time and don't make logical decisions. Just look around you dude. It's not hard to see it. I am not saying all, but the vast majority. But I still know how to show a female a good time and I am usually pretty good with surprises and gifts. The white rose idea is great for later on though.

Dude, you have no self-esteem. You need to do something to think better of yourself, and you act as if you are deserving of having being treated like shit in the past. Also, how old are you? Just curious man.
 
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High intensity...that's a sad story bro. I'm feeling for you. 3 years, I've never had a relationship go more than 7 months. Can I ask you this? Since she did you wrong, do you regret ever being with her in the first place, or do you think of the time you had together as a good thing? Would you have rather not met her, missed out on the good times you had with her, but not wind up broken-hearted? I don't know how I would feel, but I try to look back on past relationships as favorably as I can. Good luck bro, you'll find someone.

badazz...I'm almost 20. I'll remember to try to take it slow, but it's hard. I just get so excited and want to do something about it. I can promise that not all women are bad, they all have bad spells (but so do we), but they all aren't bad. Thanks for the one rose suggestion, she really liked it. I could use a good self-esteem boost (I just started anavar and sust, I always feel better about my self when I'm on). She makes me feel good about myself too. I think I'm going to be alright now, I was just confused, but know I'm seeing things a little better. I should have been with this girl all along, and not worrying over another girl. To be honest, the reason I didn't ask her out before was because I didn't have any balls, and I was intimidated by her. After the big break-up last week, I was in the "Why the fuck not" mindset, and I figured that if shit got too much worse I could always do my self in, so why not ask her out, what's the worst that could happen. Anyway, thanks for the advice, and good luck to you too man.

Honeynut...Yeah, it was fast, but I really do love this girl. I would do ANYTHING for her. Hell, I'm going to go to church with her next Sunday...and I'm an atheist! You've been a big help, you really should be some kind of counselor. I'll try to keep everything in perspective, and I promise that I won't be "popping" anything anytime soon. At least not before Valentine's Day. This is amazing. She's coming over after work tonight witch means she'll be here in about 10-15 minutes, and my orang ruffy is buzzing (yes, I cook, no I'm not gay). She loves fish and I love her so I figured I'd make us a nice little dinner with candles. I even went and picked up some wine (using my fake i.d. of course). Thanks.
 
Well, the Test and Anavar is good. Always picks you up when you need it: steroids. I just don't want to see her dog you out man. I didn't say all women are bad, but of the relationships I have been in and the ones I have seen my friends in, I can honestly say about 4 out of 5 times the female is worthless. They have a horrible rep these days, and rightfully so, in most cases. They are just mentally inferior (most), don't have the common sense, and get too wound up emotionally, and these things combined make for an unstable condition. Very few are any good now days. Keep your heart on guard. Or, just do what I am doing: go out and date two of 'em, have a good time, and just lie about it. :D Chances are one of them is gonna be worthless like all the others, if not both of them.

As far as not wishing I had ever went out with a girl that did me wrong, I still wish I had seen them. If nothing else, it was a learning experience. I find that I learned a bit more about myself, about who I am, and what I want and don't want in a female.
 
What you need to do is practice running into the wall. Don't put your hands in front to block the impact--take it full force. Do this over and over again.

Eventually, you may start actually enjoying the pain...this MAY soften the blow you will experience when she eventually dicks you over some way...somehow.

Dude, I'm not being malicious; I'm being a realist. I've seen the girl be just as enthusiastic as the over-enthusiastic boy for a while...then the shit hit the fan. Talking about marriage at that point is just plain suicide. As soon as the new boyfriend euphoria wears off, you're in for a world of hurt.

HOWEVER!!! There is only one rule to all rules (except this one)...there's always an exception to the rule. You MAY be the lucky bastard who lives happily ever after, but the odds are against you and I'd hate to see a good bro get seriously hurt. Just watch your back man and for god's sakes...don't spend too much money!
 
Brian, you're getting some really good advice from people, I really like what 68GT just said:
there's always an exception to the rule. You MAY be the lucky bastard who lives happily ever after, but the odds are against you and I'd hate to see a good bro get seriously hurt. Just watch your back man and for god's sakes...don't spend too much money!
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About the whole marriage thing - I don't want to discourage you, but you shouldn't be thinking about that yet. Valentine's day is way too soon, unless you're thinking... Valentine's day, 2005. Brian, please encourage her to love you for you, and not everything that comes with you.

I am still growing and changing, and I'm 24. If I married the person I thought I loved when I was 19, I would be missing out on someone so much better, right now. I wouldn't have experienced a whole bunch of things I've had a chance to take part in, over the past three years, things that have made me come into my own. If I had managed somehow to live the life I've lived these past few years, with that person I used to love, we'd be getting divorced because he wasn't for me anymore.

I don't want that to happen to you.
 
It's official, she's my girlfriend now!!!:bday: :arty: She spent the night last night (we didn't do anything though), she fell asleep on the couch with me.:p Anyway, I woke her up at about 9:00 and fixed her some breakfast. She just left to go to work. I love her, I have never felt like this before, and I do want to marry her, but not now. Valentine's Day is 4 months away, and most engagements last about a year, so that's 16 months, I'll be 22, she'll be 24. I want to have a life with her, she's the best thing ever, and I don't think she'd hurt me on purpose. She's a sweet, wonderful girl, and I love her, and that's not a bad thing. Can't it be possible that I have met the one perfect person that is just right for me. My mom and dad got married when they were 18, and they never even fight or anything. They're still together after 22 years. It can work, and I hope it will. Even if it doesn't, like badazz said, I won't regret it and I'll look back and say "Gee, the most amazing girl in the world was mine for a while."
 
Man alive...stories like this are enough to make me start believing again. It is very hard to find a quality female these days, I think maybe you got lucky. Time will tell
Promiscuous people are not very good people as a rule. I wouldn't let the stories on the board scare you too much. A lot of them stem from people who will sleep with anything that wriggles.
I hope things continue to go well!
 
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I am still growing and changing, and I'm 24. If I married the person I thought I loved when I was 19, I would be missing out on someone so much better, right now. I wouldn't have experienced a whole bunch of things I've had a chance to take part in, over the past three years, things that have made me come into my own. If I had managed somehow to live the life I've lived these past few years, with that person I used to love, we'd be getting divorced because he wasn't for me anymore.

I don't want that to happen to you.
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This may not necessarily be true. People change a little bit over time (in a few cases, a lot). You have to keep in mind that he may have changed some too. Possibly for the better, and maybe to the point to where he might be the person you would love today. Your life may have been even better than what it is today, but then again, maybe not. You will never know, and either way is a possibility. You can only compare your current guy (if you have one) to what your ex used to be, not what he might be now.
 
Badazz, you raise a good point, however in my situation the move I made was necessary, the guy I was with was the wrong one, but I didn't realize it at the time. Not to say that he wasn't a good man, he was wonderful. Just not for me. He will make another girl extremely happy... we had differences that we couldn't live with. The one I'm with right now is my soulmate, and I would have had to let him pass me by because I was taken.

In any case, I shouldn't have strayed my focus from Brian, it wasn't the greatest analogy I suppose.

I would simply hate for such a sweetheart to get hurt because he rushed into things. Brian, I truly wish the best for you. I really hope this works out, because it would be such a shame to see you question your faith that people are inherently good.

I think I am going to be an overprotective mother.
 
I am one lucky guy. My life has been completely changed, and it is now better than ever. So to anyone that doesn't believe in love, believe.

badazz...Making generalizations about promiscuos people now huh? You're probably right, but I would have slept with about anything walking whenever I wasn't involved, so I guess I WAS promiscuous. She doesn't want to have sex before marriage, which is pretty respectable, and I'm the type that had sex twice a day with my ex-girlfriend. You would think that this would be a problem, but I love her, so I can wait. She said that is why she lost her ex-boyfriend because he kept pressureing her to sleep with him so she ended up dumping him. Well, I'm not going to make that mistake. I guess my forearms will get some good growth over the next year or so huh?:D On the topic of growth, after my anavar/sust cycle, I'm thinking of doing a couple weeks DNP. I want to shed some fat and get good looking for her, she deserves it. That's another great thing about her, she doesn't care that I juice. She said that it was cool with her, because she likes me being big and hard. All these guys on the anabolics board worrying about their girlfriends finding out should really try to find them a great girl like mine.

Honeynut...Past experiences help, I posted this originally to get some input, and that is proven input. Congratulations on finding the right guy. I guess life is just cool like that. Anyway, I hope my girl (that sounds so good saying that) never changes, but even if something happened and she wasn't the prettiest girl I know, I would still love her just the same. That's the way my parents are. My mom got a brain tumor and has had four brian surgeries. One of them left her paralyzed on the left side, but my dad still loves her, more than ever. Okay, that was all a little off topic, but anyway. By the way, don't worry, you'll probably make a great mom someday.:) :)

Thanks again guys. She told me to come over there tonight after she gets off work. I can't wait. We've been away from each other for 6 hours and it seems like forever.
 
Oh man...now you're drowning in a euphoria of "love". Nothing I say is going to make a shred of difference.

The only thing that I can say that may permiate that soft little head of yours is to lift like a madman--don't stop. Make sure you don't get soft because, should something happen, you'll be at your peak physical prowess and get a new chick quickly.

Since you won't be suaded out of getting in too deep, please accept my congrats. and my blessings. God bless you both. We'll all be here for you, good or bad.
 
Thanks bro. I am lifting like a mad man. Yesterday was my best day in the gym since my last cycle, and I just started anavar and sust. It hasn't really had time to kick in yet, but I was motivated. I benched 455 for 7. I really had a good day. I just got home:p , and I'm about to go hit legs in just a little bit. I am a mad man when it comes to legs.
 
morning Brian... just thought I'd ask how things are with your Girlfriend today :loveyou:

Glad you're willing to wait for her, this might be what makes you The One. Good luck holding out.

As for the juice, good for you for being honest. I think a lot of guys don't give their girlfriends credit. Then again, I think a lot of girls take any excuse to fly off the handle in their quest for control. Education and communication are key.

Be careful with it though, I know a few guys who can't have kids anymore, and that can be just as detrimental to your eligibility with this girl as pressuring her to have sex.
 
Things are great. She just went to work, so I want be seeing her for about 9 hours:( , but then we'll be going out:) . I'm going to take her to eat and then to a movie. I think we're going to go see "From Hell" about Jack the Ripper. She likes scary movies, but honestly, they scare the shit out of me. At least she'll be there to hold my hand and keep me safe:p . It is hard not really doing anything with her. Especially since we've shared a bed or couch everynight this week. She's so amazing though. Holding her and kissing her is better than anything. She was sitting on my lap in the Lay-Z-Boy last night and i got a little bit to excited. She kept rearranging herself on my lap, and I guess she just kind of rubbed me the wrong...well, the right way. I think it shocked her at first, but she sure didn't get up, so I guess she didn't mind it too much. As far as the roids go, I'm taking all the necessary precautions (Clomid) to keep the baby factory working, but I'm not all that sure that she wants kids. We haven't really talked about that, I figured it was a little early for that. We have talked about what our wedding is going to be like (she brought it up). She said she wants to get married on the beach. Anything for my baby. Is that a hint that she wants me to ask her, because I do love her and I want to marry her, but not yet.:confused: I'm really excited about us though. Yesterday when she came home from work, she brought me one of those airbrushed car tags with a big heart that said ******&******. I'm going to get my name put on the driver's side window, and her's on the passenger side. She's so perfect, I love her.:heart:
 
Your lucky man, nothing like new love...also responding to your post to me from a couple of days ago. No I don't regret any time I spent with her, at first the pain was so bad, that I did wish me never met. But the times we spent together were pure majic. I had the best three years of my life, and she was my best friend. She's gone now, but the girl I know will always dance free in my heart.
 
Brian -

Wait to propose, until a few months have passed, at least. If you're that sure and eager, shoot for Valentines day as you originally decided.

Glad she wasn't uncomfortable on your lap. If she brings it up (pun intended), explain to her that even if you're willing to wait, you're still a man that finds her incredibly attractive.

And I am of the opinion that any woman who waits until she's wed to have sex is a very conventional one, and those typically want to have a family.

As for the airbrushing - JMO - I think it's tacky. You're very creative, I am sure there are tons of other things you can do to surprise her.
 
every man does....women posess a power over men that we cannot deal with and they can use to their own advantage!!!!
in short we are all screwed!!!;) ;)
 
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every man does....women posess a power over men that we cannot deal with and they can use to their own advantage!!!!
in short we are all screwed!!!;) ;)
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The simple solution, in all seriousness, is to be seeing 2 girls. That way, when one decides to play games, you won't give a flying fuck as you are already seeing another one. That's the way to deal with women. Always be on top of things. If you are seeing just one girl, you are seeing one too few. If you end up getting married one day, then dump the other bitch. I will now live by this 'till the day I die. Bitches are way too worthless now days. You can have the advantage if you really want it.
 
Okay, "From Hell" was a very bad idea. Just a tip, never take a girl that you care very dearly for to see a movie where every women in it ends up with her throat slashed and her box removed. BAD IDEA. Atleast we got to spend all night together holding on to each other shivering in fear. That was some sick ass shit. She's taking a shower right now (which is normally an hour long deal), so I figured I'd sneak over to the computer and give an update.

Honeynut...She does want kids, we talked about it before the movie. I didn't mean get the windows airbrushed, it's like a little sticker that they put in the bottom corner of the window. The tag looks good, it was done very neatly, not like one of those things that you can't hardly read. I think it was really sweet. I'm going to hold out until Valentine's Day, if I can.

badazz & crusher....You guys crack me up. If you are seeing 2 girls then that's cheating, so then they have a reason to dump you bro. Believe me, being at a beautiful girl's mercy is not that bad. I enjoy being whipped.

Well, I just heard the water cut off (it's been about 45 minutes since she got in, guess she plays with herself in the shower too huh). I better get off, of the computer that is. Time to go eat some lunch, and then snuggle for 4-5 hours. MMMMMMMMMMM, it's the best.
 
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badazz & crusher....You guys crack me up. If you are seeing 2 girls then that's cheating, so then they have a reason to dump you bro. Believe me, being at a beautiful girl's mercy is not that bad. I enjoy being whipped.
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I really don't care anymore. I have no sympathy for females. I have been done wrong enough here lately, and now it's my time. It's my fucking time. They had no reason to do what they did before, as I wasn't seeing two females before. I am just playing the same game they do: liars and cheats. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right? I have always treated females very good. But that's not what 99% of 'em want dude. Females create monsters like myself. I will have no sympathy for the females I hurt. I have become emotionally numb to that. I am simply looking out for number one: myself. It's my time.
 
Hey badazz, I understand what you're saying, but what if you do find the right woman for you while you are "two-timing", then won't you feel bad about "two-timing" on her? It's your deal, so do as you please, but just remember that all girls aren't bad, and two wrongs don't make a right. I think you have to treat each woman as an individual and not as part of that terrible group that has turned you into a heart-breaking monster. Just my thoughts though, and for what it's worth, your contributions to this thread have been of help to me. When I was on here a little bit ago, i felt guilty because I felt like I was hiding something from her. Well, she's here with me right now as I'm typing this. She says that I worry to much about stuff, but that she's glad that I am letting out my thoughts to someone. She's like, who is brianharper94? She wants to say something. HEY EVERYONE, DON'T GIVE MY SWEETIE ANY BAD IDEAS. That was her, ain't she great. I love my baby so much.:heart:
 
Well I always reply to these threads to try and help the bro's out and just give my .02 for whatever it's worth. Or even my past experiences.

If a girl seems quite worthy, I won't break her heart right away. I will keep her around for a while, but I will not give up seeing another one on the side. She MUST prove herself for a LONG period of time before I give her my all. Don't get me wrong. There is nothing I would want more than a nice stable female that is cool to hang out with and share experiences with. But most are fucking brainless and couldn't recognize a good thing if one fell on their head.

By the way, if she is still there, congrats on everything. I hope she does you right dude, 'cause most don't. Hopefully this one will be different for you man.
 
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That's Stage 2, Anger :D

Sorry badazz , I'm not laughing at you, it's just the cycle we all go through, and our friends, and their friends.... 500 years from now we'll be writing "I hate bitches" on the flycars and teleporting in at 3 am to say "you've ruined my life and i'll always hate you forever but if you say you're sorry i'll take you back and everything will be perfect cause i love you" LOL, I've made THAT call a few times

brianharper, i'm glad you're hooked up and things are good, you had a good instinct in choosing a friend. And congrats to your lady, she's got a good eye. Enjoy!!!!!! :bday:
 
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That's Stage 2, Anger :D

Sorry badazz , I'm not laughing at you, it's just the cycle we all go through, and our friends, and their friends.... 500 years from now we'll be writing "I hate bitches" on the flycars and teleporting in at 3 am to say "you've ruined my life and i'll always hate you forever but if you say you're sorry i'll take you back and everything will be perfect cause i love you" LOL, I've made THAT call a few times

brianharper, i'm glad you're hooked up and things are good, you had a good instinct in choosing a friend. And congrats to your lady, she's got a good eye. Enjoy!!!!!! :bday:
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I have been like this for a long time dude. And also, I would never take an ex back. Once they are gone, I ALWAYS cut the line of communication off immediately and forever. That's the only way to do it IMO.
 
Dude the nice guy routine only works for the first couple months then they get bored..like the guys said on here being a nice guy you always finish last..I have learned that the hard way...
 
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Dude the nice guy routine only works for the first couple months then they get bored..like the guys said on here being a nice guy you always finish last..I have learned that the hard way...
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Words to live by BrianHarper. If you keep being this nice forever, she will leave you. Please don't do this for too much longer, doing absolutely everything for her and spending every possible moment with her. Not that you can't ever be nice. But you have to have a little bit of an attitude and be "busy" sometimes.
 
Wow, BrianHarper, dude, I pray for you.

Where I live, NYC/Miami Beach, if I tell a chick I love her, I don't want to picture the consequences.

It's eat or be eaten. But if this works out for you, it goes against everything I've ever experienced or heard. I may be cynical of "love" but damn, it's a tough game.
 
Well, tonight was eventful to say the least. To start with, when she was reading the site with me, I only showed her the last couple replies. So she found out that I was going to pop the question on Valentine's Day. She said, "Valentine's Day, that's a long time away." I guess that's another hint huh? It gets better. She was playing with my high school ring and said, "You have really big fingers, what is your ring size?" "12.5," I said. Then she said, "I wear a size 4." Hint number 2 I believe. Well, later on, we decided we would go to the mall where they have an ice skating rink. I'll get to the funny skating story in a minute. First, on our way in we were walking past the jewelry counter in Belk's and she said, "Wait a minute ******, I want to look at something." She walked over to where the bracelets were at. She said, "I like that one, but it's yellow gold, and all my jewelry is either white gold or platinum. Oh well." I take that was hint number 3. So she wants a size 4, white gold or platinum engagement ring is what I'm thinking. She also kept on talking about what she was going to be getting people for Christmas. She asked me what I wanted for Christmas. Of course I said that all I wanted was her, and a got a big kiss and hug.:p She asked me what i was going to get her for Christmas, and I told her that I wasn't going to tell because I was going to surprise her. I don't think she could have made it any clearer that she wanted me to ask her before Valentine's, but more like around Christmas. Okay, now for the funny skating story. I've never been ice skating before, but I figured that I'd be good at it since I'm good at everything:D. She is a really good skater, she can even twirl around and do that kind of Olympic shit like that. I step on the ice, fall and it felt like I broke my fucking tailbone, but I'm tough, so I got and laughed it off. Well, I tok about two steps, fell again and this I landed on my knees, the wrists and face. Well, I'm really fucking tough now, so I get back up. She suggest that she hold my hand so I don't fall again. I liked that idea, so she takes my hand and we make it all the way to the other side of the ice, wher there is no way off the ice unless you skate all the way back to the otherside. Well, I fell again and luckily she fell on top of me so she didn't get hurt. This time it was all tailbone, back, and back of my head. I believe I have a concussion at this point, but she's a great girl. She throws one of my arms over her shoulders and wraps an arm around me, then skates me all the way back to the otherside were the skating rink first aid person is waiting on me. They said I have a mild concussion, and that she should drive me to the hospital. Fuck that, I'm tough, not going to the hospital. We hadn't ate yet, so I suggest we go get something to eat. After awhile of "discussing" it, we decide to go eat. After we finished eating, I asked her what she wanted to do, and she said go to the hospital. I convinced her that I was fine, so we came on home. I got a really nice massage. She even "massaged" my ass (I put massage in quotation marks because I think she was just trying to feel me up, but either way I liked it).:D We're supposed to be eating Sunday lunch with her parents tomorrow (parents that haven't met me yet I might add), but she won't go to sleep and won't let me go to sleep because she's afraid that I won't wake up since I have a concussion, but she keeps shining this damn flashlight in me eyes for some reason. I know 100% that she really loves me after tonight. She's going to make a great wife (especially after I hide that damn flashlight). She's in the shower again (hmmm), but once she gets out I'm going to cuddle up with her and try to get us both some sleep. By the way, badazz, please don't put any quotes out of my ice skating story along with the AMAF quotes in your signature. This does sound like one of his stories doesn't it, just that mine are true, and I didn't "Give em the finger like Stone Cold and suplex em on the heater." Sorry, I just read that shit earlier today and laughed my ass off. Good night everbody.
 
Hold up!!! Your first date was one week ago and you're picking out a wedding ring??? I hope you misunderstood (or she mis-meant) those "hints". She may be horny, but getting married fast ain't the way to scratch that itch.
Y'all need to slow the hell down. Enjoy the ride, don't get taken for one. Back me up here boys!!!
 
Sunday dinner went great. After we finished eating, her mom was cleaning off the table and I offered to help. She said sure, so I grabbed a handful of plates and silverware, and took them back into the kitchen. When I was in there her mom grabbed my arm and told me that ****** had called her on Wednesday night and told her that she was in love.:) Her mom said that she could tell that we really did care for each other and for me to be good to her baby. I promised her I'd take good care of her. Her dad who has season tickets for the mighty Carolina Panthers wants me to go to their next home game with him. He was pretty funny, the first thing he said when we came to the door was "God-damn girl, you got yourself a biggin didn't you!!" I couldn't help but start laughing. They're both really cool. Her dad works at a tire and wheel store and he said he'd get me a good deal on some 22" rims for my new car (which he loved and made me let him drive it around the block). Everything is just great, and I couldn't be happier.

Island Son & Nikolai....I understand, it is fast, but we were friends first and I guess that is why we've fallen for one another so fast. I'm happy, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
 
I gave you some good karma dude, from over at the anabolic board. I wish I were in your poistion man. It's great. I am working on it though. Hopefully it will happen with one of these girls I am talking to. It seems to be going pretty good with one of them so far.
 
I hope it works for you too bro. A little suggestion though, you might want to start to distance yourself from the other girl. That way the one that you think is "pretty good" won't find out about her. Even if it is early on, being with another girl can ruin a really good thing, believe me, I've seen it happen to one of my pals. He ended up marrying the "pretty good" girl, but she still gives him hell about the other girl. Good luck man, it's a wonderful thing to have someone who really loves you. I'll send you some karma too bro.
 
Brian.....It sounds like you found yourself a good girl there!! Behold there are girls in the world that can think and have decent self esteem they don't need to be looking to greener pastures to make themselves feel better. Nor do they need some guy treating them like dirt to make them interested.

To you guys that have had girls that have given you cause to become the way you do I am sorry. I am sorry for the stupid ones of my gender. I will however tell you that if you continue in this manner you will never find the girl of your dreams. The girl that won't put up with that SHIT!! The girl that will look beautiful and has a brain and have the esteem to know she doesn't need nor will she stand to be treated that way. The woman that will stand beside you in your downtimes as well as good. The woman that will love the children you might have together and give her very soul to keep them safe. I know there are many more out there than you may care to believe several are my friends. Women that have their degrees, and can stop traffic with their looks. They are dedicated their families, their boyfriends and husbands. They wouldn't stand to be treated the way some of you suggest and they aren't.

I know your type the really good looking hot guys with the cocky attitude. I for one make a U-Turn when I see you coming. Now a hot looking guy with a good amount of self confidence but a humble attitude that is another thing. Trust me I am no wolfer either so don't get on that band wagon. I love men, I just don't like jerks. I think it is sad that you have decided to be that way cause of some bad experience.

Anyway,Brian sorry to vent on your thread.....I hope everything continues to go well!!
 
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Good reply kitkat, I think a lot of us guys needed to hear that. My poor baby has a sore throat right now. I made her some chicken noodle soup. I hope it's not contagious, but if it is, I guess we'll just be sick together then (maybe if I caught it she'd let me kiss her, but she won't now because she doesn't want me to catch it, she's so thoughtful). She's finally getting some sleep right now. She was up all last night crying because it hurt so bad. I was crying too, it just breaks my heart to see her like that and know that there is nothing I can do for her. I never want to see her cry again, that's a terrible feeling. I wanted to take her to the Emergency Room, but she wanted to wait to go see her own doctor today. He gave her some meds, and now she is resting peacefully. She looks so sweet right now. I would crawl up in the bed with her and snuggle, but I'm afraid I'll wake her up. I could gaze at her for ever.
 
I 'm giving everyone that has given me some advice on here some good Karma. Thanks. My poor baby is still feeling bad. I told her that I believed that I'm getting it too because my throat was killing me. I'm not, I feel fine, but I really wanted to kiss her. I wish I could trade with her.:bawling: I guess it's about time to wrap this thread up since I'm over getting dumped and talking about marriage now with another girl. Life's funny like that. If anything new comes up, I'll be sure to post it so you guys can walk me through it again. Don't know what I'd do without yall. Thanks again.
 
Your a sweetheart Brian.....damn lucky girl! I'll take one just like you, please.

I hope your baby is doing better tonight.

KK
 
Brian, You are truly one of the luckiest men on earth. I only hope that the next thread you post about this girl will be whether you want in indoor or outdoor wedding!

It works both ways too--treat her good, don't take her for granted, and of course remain faithful. I agree with kitKat. Despite my bitching and moaning, good girls are out there. So treat them the way you'd like to be treated and good things will eventually come.

Best of luck man.
 
Kitkat...You're in luck, I've got a brother. Oh, but he's only seven. Sorry. Thanks for the compliment, you know how to get that karma don't you. She's doing fine, thanks for asking. She's probably the reason why everybody thinks I'm so sweet. She makes me feel like I'm wanted and that makes me feel pretty good about myself, therefore I tend to have a positive outlook on things. You'll get you a nice guy one of these days, and who knows, yours might even look good.

68gt350....It's going to be an outdoor wedding bro. Next summer I hope. Springs a bad time because I have terrible allergies and I'd be sneezing all the way through it. At least I'd be able to play off crying for an allergy attack then. She wants a beach wedding. I am the luckiest guy alive, and I will always remember that. You don't have to tell me to be faithful, as far as i'm concerned, she's the only girl I ever want to even look at again. Anytime when I'm not with her is just a waste of time. Thanks for the encouragement bro.
 
Just thought I'd give this thread one last bump to say that we're engaged now, hehehehe.:D How cool is this? Thanks again everybody. I'm over on Triedia now if anyone cares. It's an awesome site, which a lot of you can verify because I see you over there too.
 
YOu sound alot like the way i used to be. Your in love with being in love. Your to nice also. I used to be same way when i was with a girl I would never think about cheating on her but all my friends would do it in a sec if they got the chance. I got shit on by lots of girls being to nice.
 
im afriad with birds theres only two positions in the game theres the nice guy that they get thier ass licked by when they want an echo boost and theres the rude boy who they fuck behind ur back till they chuck u away like a used comdom.

Birds dont like nice people i know i used to be one, think about it if that was the case when we go to the clubs every one would be competing to be the most polite and considerate person that isnt the case, birds like ass holes. ur problem is ur to nice u have to trian ur self to be an ass hole untill it becomes second nature
 
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