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How did you know when it was time to let go?
Was it a planned thing like once you got enough to move out you would go, or did you just up and go??
 
We had a general argument,nothing explosive. I asked her if she still loved me and she replied,"I don't know." It wasn't an in the heat of a vicious argument statement, she stated it as a matter of fact; I filed for the divorce.
 
Angel said:
How did you know when it was time to let go?
Was it a planned thing like once you got enough to move out you would go, or did you just up and go??
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Should Need2 be concerned about your inquiry of divorce?
 
These two need counseling. Hope y'all alright.........needto and angel are like synonymous here at EF. I'm not saying y'all should stay together just for the sake of us buffoons here at EF..........well, ok.......maybe I am............ :)
 
Once the 'pea' is gone (the love high) -- a lot of divorces occur.

This is why telling people in the 'love high' phase this reality -- they don't care.

Then 2 years later they want advice, sympathy, horror stories. Same people that didn't listen to you back then.

r
 
Mavafanculo said:
Introduce your girlfriends as "my future ex-girlfriend".

Nip it in the bud.
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lol I never like to keep a g/f around more than 3-6 months. Most exciting times of dating are the first few months when getting to know each other. After that is when all the nagging begins.
 
Angel said:
How did you know when it was time to let go?
Was it a planned thing like once you got enough to move out you would go, or did you just up and go??
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Oh shit. I hope you 2 don't get a divorce. You get on my nerves really bad sometimes and I wanna slap you, but I don't wish that upon the 2 of you.
 
I just knew it. I wok up and she was still in here xanax/soma/vicodin coma. We never had sex. She called an ex and his wife called our home phone and left a nice little message. I told her I want out.
 
Pat_McCrotch said:
I just knew it. I wok up and she was still in here xanax/soma/vicodin coma. We never had sex. She called an ex and his wife called our home phone and left a nice little message. I told her I want out.
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Never having sex would do it for me. That's one of the main reasons for being married. If women didn't have pussies, they'd all have bounties on their heads. hahahaha
 
Angel said:
How did you know when it was time to let go?
Was it a planned thing like once you got enough to move out you would go, or did you just up and go??
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I dreamt about it for years and then kept threatening I was leaving and then the straw that broke the camels back came and I just up and left. although it took me a few weeks to get all of my belongings out of the apt.
 
dabuffguy said:
Should Need2 be concerned about your inquiry of divorce?
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Man I was just thinking the same thing.

I hope everything works out if there is trouble in paradise, Angel.
 
Thanks to the bunches here with the concerns, but I dont need them like you think..I was just inquiring how people can just realize when enough is enough and when to hit the door..I mean is divorce really planned or is it a heat of the moment "screw this I am out of here" type move.
 
Angel said:
Thanks to the bunches here with the concerns, but I dont need them like you think..I was just inquiring how people can just realize when enough is enough and when to hit the door..I mean is divorce really planned or is it a heat of the moment "screw this I am out of here" type move.
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Gosh I would hope that is not the case. It does seem like people throw in the towel pretty easily though now days. I would have to put up with a lot of shit and go through counseling before I would ever just say "fuck it I'm out".
 
silverstar1025 said:
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Gosh I would hope that is not the case. It does seem like people throw in the towel pretty easily though now days. I would have to put up with a lot of shit and go through counseling before I would ever just say "fuck it I'm out".
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I think most people sit back and wait for things to change, some of them try counciling while others just sit back and expect things to change
 
Angel said:
..I mean is divorce really planned or is it a heat of the moment "screw this I am out of here" type move.
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I know of a couple of situations where one partner thought everything was fine and then the other came home one day and said: "I want you out."
 
I was divorced once. I really didn't have a choice in the matter. At the time I didnt think it was the right thing and certainly not planned. I caught her cheating and was shitty and kicked her ass out. I tried to reconcile but after about 3 weeks she decided to file. All over a stupid key. I took her house key from her and I guess according to her mother if I had given it back sooner it might have worked out.

She is now the mother of two and now single. She got the boot by another guy. KARMA BIAAAAAAAAAAAAAATCCCCCCCCCHHHHHHHHH!
 
GUARDIAN said:
I was divorced once. I really didn't have a choice in the matter. At the time I didnt think it was the right thing and certainly not planned. I caught her cheating and was shitty and kicked her ass out. I tried to reconcile but after about 3 weeks she decided to file. All over a stupid key. I took her house key from her and I guess according to her mother if I had given it back sooner it might have worked out.

She is now the mother of two and now single. She got the boot by another guy. KARMA BIAAAAAAAAAAAAAATCCCCCCCCCHHHHHHHHH!
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hahahaha that is awesome! Karma baby.
 
You just know inside its time to go. Its a bunch of things that can happen that you keep built up inside then they do one stupid thing and it sends you over the edge. You have to be ready to let go because going back and forth just makes things worse. Good Luck!!!
 
Angel said:
I mean is divorce really planned or is it a heat of the moment "screw this I am out of here" type move.
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I've seen both. The only pattern I saw was a clear lack of communication...
 
When you don't want to work for it anymore I guess. I didn't let go untill about 6-8 months after the divorce was final. But I didnt want to get divorced from the start.
 
I knew for years. Had to stay because I knew what kind of person he was (meaning, I knew if I left him he'd fuck me out of support one way or another, so I had to be able to support my son by myself). I cut him off from pussy and basically just "lived" with him. Shortly after my six month review at the job that would allow me to support myself and my kid, I hooked up with a lawyer, found an apartment and got the hell out.

As for what flipped the switch, it wasn't one big thing, it was really a whole bunch of things big and small, that just kept piling up and slowly eroded my respect and trust of him. It seemed like we argued about the same issues, over and over and over again. I think I remember saying to him that we'd been having the same fucking arguments for more than eight years. That shit just gets old. We had different life priorities.
 
Paul_Allen said:
im sad again
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Fucking masochist, why the hell would you even want to GO into threads that have the word "Divorce" in their frigging subject line? :confused:
 
Angel said:
How did you know when it was time to let go?
Was it a planned thing like once you got enough to move out you would go, or did you just up and go??
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I had waffled with the idea of divorcing several times over the course of 11 years or so. Each time he begged me to stay, said that he would change (he was always very jealous, possessive and verbally abusive when he did not get his way), we opted for counseling and things SEEMED to be ok for awhile that is, until I wore a short skirt or wasn't home (at Walmart w/3 kids in tow buying diapers) when he got home, or some other TERRIBLE behavior on my part. Several months before we actually separated things just seemed to be on a downhill that could not be fixed as I had just gotten tired of his empty promises.... Then one night he beat me to the ground. <----- THAT WAS IT FOR ME.
 
From what I have seen, it appears to depend a lot on why two people got married. How many of you have friends that met their spouse-to-be and married them within 6 months? Many of these are doomed to failure because what do you really know about a person in the 4 months it takes you to decide to spend 2 months planning a wedding LOL. Then there are the HS sweet hearts that get married because that is what everyone expects from them, 10 years and 4 kids later, they are both lookin for a little action outside because they can't stand one another (not always the case). Then there are the "I need security" unions...YUK.

But when I have seen two people that really like one another and respect each other come together, those are the unions that have the best chance, and sometimes even those fail because of timing, opportunity, divergence of goals. I find people that value comittment in all aspects of their lives do well within their marriages. The best marriages I have seen are when two people are best friends, the worst divorces I have seen is when one person does not live up to the expectations of the other....
 
mydawgs said:
But when I have seen two people that really like one another and respect each other come together, those are the unions that have the best chance, and sometimes even those fail because of timing, opportunity, divergence of goals.
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Agreed... Why like and respect and common goals are the criteria (IMHO) that one should use when surmizing a life partner. Why my first marriage failed and my last marriage isn't.

... and this notion of "love" is what those two find along the way. :heart:
 
Im not divorced, but seperated and very unsure of our future. For me its a few things. Got married way too young.....I thought it was the right thing to do because it was the next step since we were together for awhile...plus she kept asking me when I was going to propose........over time as you get older you figure yourself out and you change....sometimes people change together....other times they drift apart. I've been thinking about leaving for a few years now and even thought about leaving her when we were dating.

lol I never like to keep a g/f around more than 3-6 months. Most exciting times of dating are the first few months when getting to know each other. After that is when all the nagging begins.
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I agree with this. I think though its after a few years of dating that it becomes boring or the other person becomes a nag. Everyone is on their best behavior initially, after that reality sets in.
 
I think most people sit back and wait for things to change, some of them try counciling while others just sit back and expect things to chan
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counseling dosent always work.....tried it and still trying it......no help so far

im sad again
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Pick your head up brother.......that emotional rollercoaster sucks.

Fucking masochist, why the hell would you even want to GO into threads that have the word "Divorce" in their frigging subject line?
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when your going through similar shit like he is, you want to read what to expect or what other peoples experience have been. I've been talking to many people that have gone through or are going through the big D so I can see if I can figure out what to do in my life. What's the hardest thing is having children, that's what makes D very difficult....at least I think. But I also wonder if it really is that bad for the children if both parents are civil. You always hear..........its a shame....they have children.........but with todays' society and divorce rates so high kids from divorce parents arent really the minority anymore like 15-20 years ago. So I wonder if thats just a saying people say without any real knowledge.....idk
 
Maybe I am wrong but I do believe that it is better for children to grow up being parented civilly from separate households that are happy then for them to be trapped in *the house from hell* just so that everyone can be under one roof.

... even though I think I have probably one of the most fucked-up, gut-wrenching stories of divorce-gone-wrong...

Had I stayed, I do believe that I would be dead by now.
 
mydawgs said:
From what I have seen, it appears to depend a lot on why two people got married. How many of you have friends that met their spouse-to-be and married them within 6 months? Many of these are doomed to failure because what do you really know about a person in the 4 months it takes you to decide to spend 2 months planning a wedding LOL. Then there are the HS sweet hearts that get married because that is what everyone expects from them, 10 years and 4 kids later, they are both lookin for a little action outside because they can't stand one another (not always the case). Then there are the "I need security" unions...YUK.

But when I have seen two people that really like one another and respect each other come together, those are the unions that have the best chance, and sometimes even those fail because of timing, opportunity, divergence of goals. I find people that value comittment in all aspects of their lives do well within their marriages. The best marriages I have seen are when two people are best friends, the worst divorces I have seen is when one person does not live up to the expectations of the other....
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Wow, did you say a mouthful there!!!
 
Angel said:
lol
You know nothing about me..I could be a disrespectful controlling woman who hates men for all you know...
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i made a lil pic for you
:heart:
do you wanna see ?
 
lmfao...nice pic Bino Only thing is that i was not feeling well so I looked like shit..I still have it and will maybe take a better pic with it later!!!!
 
Angel said:
lmfao...nice pic Bino Only thing is that i was not feeling well so I looked like shit..I still have it and will maybe take a better pic with it later!!!!
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all good
:)
 
silverstar1025 said:
I don't like this name. Are you saying I look like a gorilla now?
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Well we dont know. We dont have any nudies. Post some then we can make a better call.
 
dps1822 said:
You just know inside its time to go. Its a bunch of things that can happen that you keep built up inside then they do one stupid thing and it sends you over the edge. You have to be ready to let go because going back and forth just makes things worse. Good Luck!!!
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You need to change your name to DSLs1822.
 
Bino said:
shotgun on angel if needto2 boots her
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Ill take the back seat..
 
musclemom said:
I knew for years. Had to stay because I knew what kind of person he was (meaning, I knew if I left him he'd fuck me out of support one way or another, so I had to be able to support my son by myself). I cut him off from pussy and basically just "lived" with him. Shortly after my six month review at the job that would allow me to support myself and my kid, I hooked up with a lawyer, found an apartment and got the hell out.

As for what flipped the switch, it wasn't one big thing, it was really a whole bunch of things big and small, that just kept piling up and slowly eroded my respect and trust of him. It seemed like we argued about the same issues, over and over and over again. I think I remember saying to him that we'd been having the same fucking arguments for more than eight years. That shit just gets old. We had different life priorities.
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So you hooked up with a lawyer then got an apartment? <patting MM on the back> Sweet.
 
needtogetaas said:
Lmao. You people jump to conclusions way to fast.
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PSSSTTT. Hey guys Needto is in here now. shhhhhhh.


Hey whats up needto?
 
Angel said:
lol
You know nothing about me..I could be a disrespectful controlling woman who hates men for all you know...
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Thats funny cause hes not really a man. Match made n heaven
 
PuddleMonkey said:
2006-05-17-silverback_gorilla.jpg
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Yeap your right puddle. How did you get her nuddie?
 
needtogetaas said:
Bino going to get his ass banned for good this time.
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lol for what bro?
hold off till monday or tuesday, then i'll be gone for a few months
 
Pat_McCrotch said:
So you hooked up with a lawyer then got an apartment? <patting MM on the back> Sweet.
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Oooooo, my lawyer was a chick, let your mind go wild, Pat :qt:

Christ :rolleyes:
 
When facing life altering decisions I've tried not to think situations "to death" and have relied upon the simplistic advice of my mother. A mother loves you more than anyone for longer than anyone else. In this case she would have said, "sweetie, don't settle for the one you can live with; marry the one you can't live without." I sure do miss her.
 
musclemom said:
Oooooo, my lawyer was a chick, let your mind go wild, Pat :qt:

Christ :rolleyes:
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LMAO!!!!!!!!!!
 
musclemom said:
Oooooo, my lawyer was a chick, let your mind go wild, Pat :qt:

Christ :rolleyes:
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I just rubbed one off too. man I knew I should have waited!!!
 
biteme said:
When facing life altering decisions I've tried not to think situations "to death" and have relied upon the simplistic advice of my mother. A mother loves you more than anyone for longer than anyone else. In this case she would have said, "sweetie, don't settle for the one you can live with; marry the one you can't live without." I sure do miss her.
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And so you did.
 
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