Divorce!

[Freak Show]

Since George wants the convos elevated a bit.....

How do you guys feel about people getting divorced? Think its getting out of hand? What are your personal opinions?

My folks raised me a bit old fashioned so I believe that I'm not settling down until I'm damn sure I found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. In todays society I know alot of people think its unrealistic, but I still believe it can happen.
I think too many people treat marriage like a high school relationship. They never truly get to know someone before they commit and as a result, they realize later that this person has qualities they can't live with. These things take time. I thought for sure that I was going to marry the last girl I was with. It took me almost 3 years to realize that this may not happen. You can learn something new about someone almost every day you're with them. You don't know everything after a year.

 

[velvett]

I think people get married entirely too easily and spend to much time planning the event and not enough time on learning how to communicate, how to negotiate and how to be and independent person within a relationship.

Many people, not all, cry I'm getting a divorce because it's just easier then trying to solve the problem. It's easier to walk away than admit the possibility of being wrong.

Divorce with young children involved is a completely different matter and one that I will not comment on.

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Practice polygamy, but w/out the marriage part. Make them wear electric shock ankle bands to keep them in check.

 

[WODIN]

What velvette said.

 

[runner]

i read where the divorce rate is higher for those who actually live together first. interesting...one might think a "test drive" would make the marriage's prospects better....

 

[TxCollegeguy]

Yeah I think divorce rates are too high, my parents are the latest to join that statistic after 23 years together...I will do my part to keep the number down by Staying single for as long as I can

 

[Bikini Mod]

Anyone who thinks that getting a divorce is "easy" doesn't have a clue.

 

[HeavyDutyGuy]

Divorce is NOT easy - on anyone involved.

 

[HeavyDutyGuy]

If you haven't been through it, you really have no clue.....

 

[Zebo]

Unfortunately, I think I'm headed that way.

We're going to try counseling, but.........I don't know.....

Why the hell am I telling you guys this?????

 

[Bikini Mod]

Brotha Zebo - I am sorry to hear about it. If you want to, email me.

DIVORCE SUCKS ASS......but sometimes it is waaaaaay better than staying where you are and dying on the inside and hating the shit out of your life and those that you care about and that care for you.

Yes, if it were a perfect world, couples would stay together and *POOF* WORK IT OUT, but THIS TAKES TWO....and even when one SEZ they want to work it out, their ACTIONS SOMETIMES SAY OTHER WISE. It is sooooo easy to SAY, "Let's work it out"...but quite another to ACTUALLY DO IT.

 

[Freak Show]

Yes, if it were a perfect world, couples would stay together and *POOF* WORK IT OUT, but THIS TAKES TWO....and even when one SEZ they want to work it out, their ACTIONS SOMETIMES SAY OTHER WISE. It is sooooo easy to SAY, "Let's work it out"...but quite another to ACTUALLY DO IT.

Yes, true. But I think alot of these problems could be avoided if people spent more time truly getting to know each other before they made the big step.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Actually anyone who says that they are getting a divorce because they did NOT know the other person is just plain silly.

The truth is, that life is long (hopefully) and it is a learning process. People change, their desires change, thier situations change...I beleive that it has more to do with how the individuals handle these changes AS A COUPLE.

 

[Mtime1]

I think many people marry too young. They also don't take enough time to get to know each other and talk about everything they can. Talk about all the important things like religion, kids(raising them), politics, careers, money, the "what ifs" that can arise, etc.

And yes people change over the years. Their attitudes, interests, ect. It's hard enough just staying friends with people you grew up with sometimes because we change so much over the years.

 

[RADAR]

i dated mine for 5 yrs -married 2 yrs...she started running around....the story gets lots better.....RADAR....yup i'm divorced

 

[Warik]

If you're not going to stay together, don't get married.

duh...

-Warik

 

[Formula]

Divorce suck ass. I'm going through one an it's tough. We still care for each other but we are not good for each other. We've tried to work it out for over a year but its time to let it go. Dating 7 yrs--Married 3yrs. So its the toughest thing I've gone through.

 

[Slice of Peach2]

everyone has been through it. who gives a shit. you cant bitch about it anymore because everyone fucking has been through it. no whining you faggots.

Shut up, bitch, you know nothing!

I went through a divorce, although it was easy with not having kids, it was still hard emotionally.

 

[Warik]

In most of the cases I've heard of couples getting divorced, a problem usually existed before the marriage took place. Of course, there are exceptions, but there's really no excuse for marrying someone with whom one has problems in the first place.

My friend's mom, for example, hates her husband because he is a "stupid cop" who "works 80 hours a week," "is grumpy and has a bad attitude," and "never has time for his family." Well what the hell was he doing before he got married? Knitting? People these days have no clue. Marriage these days seems to be turning into more and more of a temporary relationship. Isn't that the whole point of dating?

You know, I often find myself upset with the fact that I'm single, but I JUST AS OFTEN find myself RELIEVED that I don't have to put up with the crap associated with not being single.

I have no kids, almost no stress, complete freedom, no extra expenses, and absolutely no responsibility for anyone but myself. Now if only my job didn't suck ass.

-Warik

 

[Slice of Peach2]

you had a divorce? how old are you? anyway i didnt say its easy. i said everyone goes through it. life goes on. no bitching. especially no bitching from chicks.

Okay, I'm sorry I yelled.

 

[Slice of Peach2]

plant them kisses right here on deez nuts.

I will stomp of them nutz!!!!!

 

[Slice of Peach2]

you will kiss them gently and lovingly.

No no no, I will stomp on them!