dealing with being fit question

[MeatheadJD]

In your situation your best bet is to simply diffuse the situation by telling people exactly what they don't want to hear. Tell them you gave up your social life for 6 months and spent your free time training and being meticulous about your diet. Explain how you eat 40 grams of protien every 3 hrs and never miss a workout. Explain to them that they can do it to if they'd just give up all of the things in life that they enjoy too-which ain't gonna happen. This is passive aggressive at it's best. By explaining to them your hard work and discipline in detail, it will probably make them feel like shit that they don't possess the mental strength that you have to attain fitness. Avoid the topic of juice when it comes up-laugh it off-or make jokes about horses, etc. They'll be dying to hear that you use them-so deny it. It's not like they give a fuck about your health. They just wanna be able to gossip with others and say that they heard from your own mouth that you are a cheating, roid abusing, felon(not a great resume builder) so they can feel better about their own pathetic lives.

Personally, I just avoid contact with anyone that doesn't accept me for who I am. Fortunately I don't have a boss or coworkers to worry about-but I realize that most people don't have that luxury.

Still, prepare for the worst. It's coming. Almost everyone I know that has a job surrounded by fat ass, sedentary lifestyle types end up being persecuted by their coworkers and boss for being into fitness. Just the mere sight of you makes most of them want to cry. Revenge is sweet-but it's not gonna help you climb the corporate ladder any faster in most workplaces.

THATS exactly what you should do, peopel dont wanna hear it takes hard work so when you say that you are crazy dedicated theyll leave you alone bc they dont wanna feel inadequate
and congrats too on your progress

 

[mendo]

If that's you in your avatar, you can't honestly tell me that you accept this as your fate??? There are exceptions to the rule-which I'm saying that you probably are-and it's not a coincidence that you're not American me thinks.

Traditional marriage balances different privileges and obligations for men and women. Modern woman wants all the benefits of "equality" without any of the responsibilities. They want special privileges from the traditional system (men paying, being "gentlemen" by using special deferential manners and language to women, being the main breadwinner, etc) but not the old-fashioned obligations (being modest and ladylike, being a housewife, etc).

They want the positives of equality (rights, equal access to work and education, etc) without the responsibilities (paying your own way financially a full 50% for life, taking risks with no safety net, and taking your lumps without complaint like men do...not expecting to be protected or sheltered from harsh reality, etc).

You can't take only the good from both systems...you have to take the bad with the good in any balance you strike. When women try to have their cake and eat it in this way, the bad doesn't disappear...it gets paid by men, and this is why the current culture is one of exploitation by selfish hypocritical women...and it's why men are tired of the inequity.

If American women chose one system or the other and took their full share of the bad with the good there would be no problem. But current American culture discourages women being looked at critically, instead projecting all blame unjustly onto men; and so the inequity is rationalized away.

This is why other cultures which haven't got this fucked up as far as gender relations go, start to look attractive. At least non American women usually expect to give as well as get-and they don't seem to let their appearance go as often either.

I agree with this, even though its off topic. lol. Another major perk that women like to keep from the old days is the legally unbalanced divorce. Back when men made all the money and had all the rights...and women were only supposed to clean and care for the kids...alimony and automatic child custody (with child support of course) for women actually made sense after a divorce. But those days have been over for awhile now. Equal means equal in my book.

 

[maldorf]

holy shit what do I do about this. I never go out, I mean never. However tonight I went out to a local bar and there were several people that I knew there. Rewind, I have spent the last 6 months in the gym and 1 cycle(no parting or even going out, wake up work gym bed). So anyway I spent about 3 hours in this bar and had 4 different people, who I knew from before come up to me and say are you on roids out of nowhere. Added to this I had several women throw themselves at me(this is way out of norm), not the hottest ladies in the joint but they literally ask me to go home and fuck. Mind the fact I did't hit on or even approach them. ?= I plan to grow a lot in the future and if I am getting this now( the ? about roids) how do I handle it in the future? Not so much the bar scene as much as people knowing I'm pumping up really fast.

I always jsut said I eat have been increasing calories and working out like a madman. The changes you go through will be less evident after you have been lifting for a longer time and have been cycling longer. I do get a bit of a yo-yo effect though, vary weight about 15 pounds, when I am off and on. You can always use the excuse that youre using certain supplements, the general public for the most part believes all of the marketing those companies use and thinks they really do work.

 

[Xconcept00]

all i do is laugh at them and tell them nope
(about the juicing of course)

 

[LVTitan]

and yes, cracker, that's her in the avatar

 

[wayneboard1]

In your situation your best bet is to simply diffuse the situation by telling people exactly what they don't want to hear. Tell them you gave up your social life for 6 months and spent your free time training and being meticulous about your diet. Explain how you eat 40 grams of protien every 3 hrs and never miss a workout. Explain to them that they can do it to if they'd just give up all of the things in life that they enjoy too-which ain't gonna happen. This is passive aggressive at it's best. By explaining to them your hard work and discipline in detail, it will probably make them feel like shit that they don't possess the mental strength that you have to attain fitness. Avoid the topic of juice when it comes up-laugh it off-or make jokes about horses, etc. They'll be dying to hear that you use them-so deny it. It's not like they give a fuck about your health. They just wanna be able to gossip with others and say that they heard from your own mouth that you are a cheating, roid abusing, felon(not a great resume builder) so they can feel better about their own pathetic lives.

Personally, I just avoid contact with anyone that doesn't accept me for who I am. Fortunately I don't have a boss or coworkers to worry about-but I realize that most people don't have that luxury.

Still, prepare for the worst. It's coming. Almost everyone I know that has a job surrounded by fat ass, sedentary lifestyle types end up being persecuted by their coworkers and boss for being into fitness. Just the mere sight of you makes most of them want to cry. Revenge is sweet-but it's not gonna help you climb the corporate ladder any faster in most workplaces.

Excellent answer.

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

Women are literally throwing themselves at you in a bar saying come home and fuck me? What bars are you hanging out in, I never get that kind of luck .

And bro, why did 4 different woman approach you and ask to fuck? By your own admission this is not normal for you. In that case you should have been bouncing the first girl that asked before the second even noticed you. You could have PIITB bro! What were you thinking?

 

[BigCracker]

I agree with this, even though its off topic. lol.

Yeah, sorry about the thread jack-but I had to let the Sheila know how I really felt. lol

 

[BigCracker]

and yes, cracker, that's her in the avatar

Damn, that could be my future ex wife!!! Maybe I should just cut the preliminaries and buy her a house and start hating her now?

 

[Megalomaniac]

And bro, why did 4 different woman approach you and ask to fuck? By your own admission this is not normal for you. In that case you should have been bouncing the first girl that asked before the second even noticed you. You could have PIITB bro! What were you thinking?

Not what the thread was intended for but mainly it was unusual because I never go out. I just tend to find the women out at night not what I'm looking for, thus the reason not to leave with the first one available. Also it is important to know I am in NC not Florida or Cali, the quality of ladies here ahhhh, not so much.