Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below
Cheating on wife
- Thread starter gUiLe
- Start date
Bikini Mod
New member
I truly hope that you are joking.
Longhorn85
New member
gUiLe said:
Use discretion. Don't get caught. Use protection.
supertech69
New member
This is a warning for you bro, it gets easier the more you do it. I'm not proud of it but, before I got divorced, things were bad & I started cheating, it got easier & easier with each time. Eventually all guilt leaves you. You also tend to get more careless.
YOU MADE A PROMISE TO YOUR WIFE TO YOURSELF AND TO GOD THAT SHE WAS THE ONLY ONE FOR YOU TILL DEATH DO YOU PART. I FIRMLY EMBRACE THAT. YOU SHOULD HAVE GOT YOUR PLAY TIME OUT BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO IS GET INTO ROLE PLAYING WITH YOUR WIFE OR BE HONEST WITH HER AND GO TO CONSOLING. BUT DON'T BREAK YOUR PROMISE TO HER YOURSELF AND ESPEACIALLY GOD.
milo hobgoblin
New member
LOL
Talk her into going with you...maybe its just the spark your marriage needs.
You never know...she may like chicks and you dont even know it.
Talk her into going with you...maybe its just the spark your marriage needs.
You never know...she may like chicks and you dont even know it.
Longhorn85
New member
The Dude said:
I think discretionate fooling around would be less harmful.
HERE IS WHAT YOU DO SWITCH THE IDEA AROUND WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF SHE WERE DOING THE THINGS YOU WANTED TO DO HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT THAT. YOU KNOW YOU COULD'NT SO WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO PUT HER THROUGH IT YOU WILL GET CAUGHT NO MATTER WHAT IT WILL COME OUT WITH KARMA OR YOU'LL MESS UP. IF YOU GET INTO THREESOMES THEN THERE IS NO TRUST ANYWHERE CAUSE SHE'LL THINK YOUR DOING IT WHEN SHE'S NOT THERE AND VICE VERSA. YOUR MARRIED IT WAS YOUR DECSIOON DEAL WITH IT LIKE A MAN.
VooDoo Lady
New member
Get a divorce? If you feel this way save your wife years of life and heartache.
dex
dex
gUiLe
New member
WOW! I am really quite surprised at some of the responses. I
thought I would get a bunch of "yeah, go out and fuck everybody"
kind of stuff. Or maybe that's what I wanted to hear to convince
myself that what I am doing is ok. Well, first off...I'm always
protected. So the chance of a disease coming into my house is
nill. (I know, that don't make it better.) The problem is, i have
two kids and I don't really like my wife. I feel like she got pregnant
to "trap" me. Sometimes I'm looking at her talking to my friends and I'm thinking inside "Got I hate her". I know it's fucked up. It
has gotten worse since I have cheating though, so my mind might
be effected by what I'm doing (as well as AS). I'm very confused.
I am seeing this hot asian chick but she's starting to fall for me
and I really don't need that shit. I am sure I need to get some
spiritualality in my life.
Almost like I'm lost and searching for something. I just don't feel
I am ready for it. My friend has set up a foursome for this Friday
evening and I really want to nail the girl he's seeing (Hot blonde)
but I think i will refrain. I need help. I really love my kids but
I HATE being married.
thought I would get a bunch of "yeah, go out and fuck everybody"
kind of stuff. Or maybe that's what I wanted to hear to convince
myself that what I am doing is ok. Well, first off...I'm always
protected. So the chance of a disease coming into my house is
nill. (I know, that don't make it better.) The problem is, i have
two kids and I don't really like my wife. I feel like she got pregnant
to "trap" me. Sometimes I'm looking at her talking to my friends and I'm thinking inside "Got I hate her". I know it's fucked up. It
has gotten worse since I have cheating though, so my mind might
be effected by what I'm doing (as well as AS). I'm very confused.
I am seeing this hot asian chick but she's starting to fall for me
and I really don't need that shit. I am sure I need to get some
spiritualality in my life.
Almost like I'm lost and searching for something. I just don't feel
I am ready for it. My friend has set up a foursome for this Friday
evening and I really want to nail the girl he's seeing (Hot blonde)
but I think i will refrain. I need help. I really love my kids but
I HATE being married.
supertech69
New member
Holly shit bro! Your situation sounds nearly identical to mine before I got divorced, all the way down to the asian chick! I have 2 kids & wanted to stay with my wife for them but, it got to the point where I couldn't stand it & I figured it is better to leave so my kids don't grow up in a totally fuct up household. The most important thing is that if you do decide to leave you make damn sure you are a good father to them! Your life should still revolve around them even after the fact. I've been divorced for over 2 yrs now & I talk to my kids every single night on the phone before they go to bed. I see them every Wed & every other weekend. No matter what they will know I love them & when they get older they will understand. I am fortunate enough that mine were very young & have adapted quite well. My life is primarily about bodybuilding but, I would drop everything & anything in an instant if my kids needs were involved. It's not their fault & they shouldn't have to suffer for it. Nothing is worse than an irresponsible deadbeat dad a.k.a. a sperm donor. I say if you're that miserable you should either work on fixing it or get out of the relationship totally.
gUiLe
New member
Supertech69- Ironic isn't it. I never wanted children. I couldn't imagine how my life would be without them. We think alike
I
am madly in love with my children (especially my girl
and still
scratch my head when I hear about some of these scumbags
that abondon their kids. I couldn't live with myself and it would
really be hard to NOT be with my kids. I think I will just have to
really try to make it work. My wife loves me more then anything in
the world and would do anything for me (except a threesome
and I (not intentionally) treat her like shit. I just don't really
respect her. Her personality could be close to a stalker!!
I used to have fights with her (pre marriage) where I would
tell her "Please, get the fuck out of here! I don't want to be
with you, can't you fucking understand?..You bitch!! Don't you
have any self respect?? And she would take all I would throw
at her. I am really not that cruel, but you get to a point where
you'll say anything to get somebody to move. It didn't work.
g
Iam madly in love with my children (especially my girl
and stillscratch my head when I hear about some of these scumbags
that abondon their kids. I couldn't live with myself and it would
really be hard to NOT be with my kids. I think I will just have to
really try to make it work. My wife loves me more then anything in
the world and would do anything for me (except a threesome
and I (not intentionally) treat her like shit. I just don't really
respect her. Her personality could be close to a stalker!!
I used to have fights with her (pre marriage) where I would
tell her "Please, get the fuck out of here! I don't want to be
with you, can't you fucking understand?..You bitch!! Don't you
have any self respect?? And she would take all I would throw
at her. I am really not that cruel, but you get to a point where
you'll say anything to get somebody to move. It didn't work.
g
TEXgrl
New member
cheating is a horrible thing. grow some balls and leave yourself, quit telling her to leave because you are too chickenshit to do it yourself. you can leave and still take care of your kids. do you actually think its better to stay and run around on your wife, and let your kids grow up with a father who treats their mother like shit? it will teach a boy to not have respect for women and a little girl to expect every man to treat her the way her dad treats her mom.
you say she's borderline stalker. you sound like such an ass, you've probably made her a paranoid freak with the way that you act.
you say she's borderline stalker. you sound like such an ass, you've probably made her a paranoid freak with the way that you act.
gUiLe
New member
TEXgrl- I sound like such an ass?? Nice. For your info, I have only
"cheated" on my wife with this girl. Hey, I know it don't make it
any better that it's one girl, but it's not like I run around with
other women. And as far as her "stalker" like personality, let
me give you a lil backround, and you tell me, ok? Hmm.. let's
see. Oh, there was the time that her boyfriend broke up with her,
and she ran up a $10,000.00 phone bill because she was depressed and needed to call the psychic hotlines! Hmm, and
the time her other boyfriend (who again left her) was getting
married and her and all of her friends went to the chuch and stood in the back!! The guys wedding day!! Your telling me
that's don't sound like stalker?? I know, next question, then
why did you marry her. Because I knocked her up, and thought I
could make it work. And no, I DON'T treat her like shit on a daily
basis. The description was in the beginning of the relationship (ya
know, when she had time to run the hell away from me?). The only reason she is a "paronid freak" is because I told her WAY
too much about my past in the beginning of the relationship (big mistake I know). Now what??
g
"cheated" on my wife with this girl. Hey, I know it don't make it
any better that it's one girl, but it's not like I run around with
other women. And as far as her "stalker" like personality, let
me give you a lil backround, and you tell me, ok? Hmm.. let's
see. Oh, there was the time that her boyfriend broke up with her,
and she ran up a $10,000.00 phone bill because she was depressed and needed to call the psychic hotlines! Hmm, and
the time her other boyfriend (who again left her) was getting
married and her and all of her friends went to the chuch and stood in the back!! The guys wedding day!! Your telling me
that's don't sound like stalker?? I know, next question, then
why did you marry her. Because I knocked her up, and thought I
could make it work. And no, I DON'T treat her like shit on a daily
basis. The description was in the beginning of the relationship (ya
know, when she had time to run the hell away from me?). The only reason she is a "paronid freak" is because I told her WAY
too much about my past in the beginning of the relationship (big mistake I know). Now what??
g
IF YOU LEAVE YOUR SCARED YOUR KIDS ARE GOING TO THINK THAT YOU DON'T LOVE THEM AND IF THEY ARE YOUNG THEN THEY MIGHT FOR A WHILE THAT IS WHY YOUR STILL WITH HER AND TRYING TO GET HER TO LEAVE SO SHE LOOKS BAD. THEY MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND NOW BUT THEY WILL ITS BETTER TO LEAVE THEN TO HAVE THEM FIND OUT THAT THERE DAD WAS SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE OTHER THEN MOMMY.
Doublewide
New member
WIDELAT said:
I thought this way for the first 7 years I was married. In time, you too will go to the dark side. At least you will think about it. And think about it alot. Especially if you have some young, hot looking girl who wants it.
Sometimes cheating on your wife will make you realize how much you actually care for your wife and will make your relationship stronger with her.
Bottom line, however, is it is best not to cheat on your wife. "The grass is always greener on the other side."
makedah
New member
I'm not trying to be hard on you -- we all come to crossroads in our lives. But it seems to me that you've really got to piss (stay committed) or get off the pot (get a divorce) here.
Based on what you've said here, your wife does sound emotionally immature. But guess what, so do you if you think sleeping around is the answer.
If you're looking at your wife and thinking "I hate her," then get a divorce. It's the grown-up thing to do. It doesn't take any guts to sneak around and continue to avoid the problem.
Based on what you've said here, your wife does sound emotionally immature. But guess what, so do you if you think sleeping around is the answer.
If you're looking at your wife and thinking "I hate her," then get a divorce. It's the grown-up thing to do. It doesn't take any guts to sneak around and continue to avoid the problem.
clusterfoxtrot
New member
Counseling. Therapy (couples and solo). More counseling and honesty. 3 months ago, my wife and I were talking about the mechanics of a separation...very similar situation.
One of the things we did on our own was each make a "priority" list of what we do/don't want in a spouse and a relationship. We are now working towards that goal and things are getting a lot better.
I have 2 kids and they are a pain in the butt sometimes. I wasn't ready for either of them when they came...but guess what, they're here, they're mine (as are yours), and they are the closest thing to "you," that you will ever have. TAKE CARE OF THEM.
Also, putting a mistress in the middle of the situation, especially one that is hotter than the old lady, maybe a little freakier or younger, makes a decision like this all that much harder. If there are emotions involved, it becomes impossible to separate fact from fiction. You will be freaking out and saying that the way your wife wipes her ass is annoying you. BTW, if you are on a cycle, it may exacerbate those moods/feeling/emotions all that much more.
Think about the kids, but do what's best for everyone.
CF
One of the things we did on our own was each make a "priority" list of what we do/don't want in a spouse and a relationship. We are now working towards that goal and things are getting a lot better.
I have 2 kids and they are a pain in the butt sometimes. I wasn't ready for either of them when they came...but guess what, they're here, they're mine (as are yours), and they are the closest thing to "you," that you will ever have. TAKE CARE OF THEM.
Also, putting a mistress in the middle of the situation, especially one that is hotter than the old lady, maybe a little freakier or younger, makes a decision like this all that much harder. If there are emotions involved, it becomes impossible to separate fact from fiction. You will be freaking out and saying that the way your wife wipes her ass is annoying you. BTW, if you are on a cycle, it may exacerbate those moods/feeling/emotions all that much more.
Think about the kids, but do what's best for everyone.
CF
THeMaCHinE
New member
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forthesakeofkids.html
For the Sake of the Kids_
_
As the author of the book, Divorce Busting, and someone who has a keen interest in the impact of divorce on families, I am eager to respond to your question, "Do you think a couple should stay in an unhappy marriage if they have children?"_
First of all, the question implies that once a marriage is unhappy, it will stay that way._ This is an unfortunate assumption. We have come a very long way in the last few years in deciphering the formula for making marriages successful and happy. Couples can now take valuable relationship skill-building classes where they can learn how to transform an empty, unhappy marriage into a more loving one. It isn’t magic. When you have children, you owe it to them to leave absolutely no stone unturned if you are considering dissolving your marriage. Once a marriage dissolves, so too, does the family…forever._
Research tells us that children benefit from divorce only in those situations where there is extreme abuse. It is estimated that only one third of the divorces in our country fit this criteria. In all other cases, lose out on many different dimensions when their parents split. Even when the adults feel happier as a result of divorce, research shows that there is no “trickle down effect” in terms of how the children fare._
With only minor exception, anyone in an unhappy marriage can do something about it. You don’t have to and shouldn’t live in misery. Once you choose to bring children into the
world, divorce isn’t a solution to an unhappy marriage. Fixing it is.
For the Sake of the Kids_
_
As the author of the book, Divorce Busting, and someone who has a keen interest in the impact of divorce on families, I am eager to respond to your question, "Do you think a couple should stay in an unhappy marriage if they have children?"_
First of all, the question implies that once a marriage is unhappy, it will stay that way._ This is an unfortunate assumption. We have come a very long way in the last few years in deciphering the formula for making marriages successful and happy. Couples can now take valuable relationship skill-building classes where they can learn how to transform an empty, unhappy marriage into a more loving one. It isn’t magic. When you have children, you owe it to them to leave absolutely no stone unturned if you are considering dissolving your marriage. Once a marriage dissolves, so too, does the family…forever._
Research tells us that children benefit from divorce only in those situations where there is extreme abuse. It is estimated that only one third of the divorces in our country fit this criteria. In all other cases, lose out on many different dimensions when their parents split. Even when the adults feel happier as a result of divorce, research shows that there is no “trickle down effect” in terms of how the children fare._
With only minor exception, anyone in an unhappy marriage can do something about it. You don’t have to and shouldn’t live in misery. Once you choose to bring children into the
world, divorce isn’t a solution to an unhappy marriage. Fixing it is.
Last edited:
THeMaCHinE
New member
http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=147759
Please read my dialogue with Jim on this thread; pretty much same situation -- less kids.
I don't have the mental fortitude to ride this coaster right now; plus, in my experience it's a waste of time and emotion to try to talk to people already involved in affairs (who are really just looking for people to tell them it's OK to lie to their wife, sacrifice their marriage and reltionships with kids as a means to justify their own desires).
I feel sorry for you, your wife and kids though. I hope you find a way to rise above this. If not for your sake, for your kids. Being a father requires sacrifice.
Clicking on the link in my sig would be a bonus too.
Damn sorry to hear about this. Seriously.
Please read my dialogue with Jim on this thread; pretty much same situation -- less kids.
I don't have the mental fortitude to ride this coaster right now; plus, in my experience it's a waste of time and emotion to try to talk to people already involved in affairs (who are really just looking for people to tell them it's OK to lie to their wife, sacrifice their marriage and reltionships with kids as a means to justify their own desires).
I feel sorry for you, your wife and kids though. I hope you find a way to rise above this. If not for your sake, for your kids. Being a father requires sacrifice.
Clicking on the link in my sig would be a bonus too.
Damn sorry to hear about this. Seriously.
Don't cheat if you truely love someone!
....But I understand that you no longer love your wife and that you are more concerned for the wellbeing of your kids.....
Getting a divorce or finding out you have cheated will hurt them
So considering if your marriage can be saved throught counceling etc...would be the FIRST thing to consider....
However.....if you truely feel it's not gonna work.....
How old are your kids?
If they are like 14-15 years old, you might wanna continue your fake marriage for another 3 years until they are 18 and more emotianally developed and a divorce etc.. would have traumatizing and at least they finished their basic education before they get an emotional shock that could lead to bad results on school etc...
Now get your divorce after those 3 years
Meanwhile you could cheat a little to make life in prison more bearable, even better not only fuck around but find a new serious realtion ship as the divorce date gets closer.
well i guess i lost a lot of credit with them ladies here at the board saying all this, but remember : I DID IT FOR THE KIDS HONEY!!!
....But I understand that you no longer love your wife and that you are more concerned for the wellbeing of your kids.....
Getting a divorce or finding out you have cheated will hurt them
So considering if your marriage can be saved throught counceling etc...would be the FIRST thing to consider....
However.....if you truely feel it's not gonna work.....
How old are your kids?
If they are like 14-15 years old, you might wanna continue your fake marriage for another 3 years until they are 18 and more emotianally developed and a divorce etc.. would have traumatizing and at least they finished their basic education before they get an emotional shock that could lead to bad results on school etc...
Now get your divorce after those 3 years
Meanwhile you could cheat a little to make life in prison more bearable, even better not only fuck around but find a new serious realtion ship as the divorce date gets closer.
well i guess i lost a lot of credit with them ladies here at the board saying all this, but remember : I DID IT FOR THE KIDS HONEY!!!
Longhorn85
New member
Re: Re: Re: Cheating on wife
You're right Legs, I shouldn't have said that. BTW you're not the only one to get on me for saying it.
Listen guiLE: "Don't cheat on your wife!"
Legs1010 said:
I am shocked!!! Don't encourage him to cheat on his wife.
You're right Legs, I shouldn't have said that. BTW you're not the only one to get on me for saying it.
Listen guiLE: "Don't cheat on your wife!"
Similar threads
