Hmmm... only 5 years and not enough sex, that is not a good sign. Have you spoken to him about it seriously? MAybe he is stressed/feeling un-atttactive or something - talking is step one. Once you find out what is going on, you can begin to attack the problem. If he is stressed, do activities that relax him - if he is feeling un-attractive tell him how hot he is etc etc. Then... go for the old closers - a little dinner, a little wine, some Barry White/sexy undies -> you should get the picture from here .
Bottom line though - talk about this. If it is a problem only 5 years into the relationship - think about how bad it could be after 20!
Bottom line though - talk about this. If it is a problem only 5 years into the relationship - think about how bad it could be after 20!