Bi-girls, bi-boys question

[Ercole]

I have a few lesbian friends who over and over have had the experience of falling in love with a girl, it's great for a while, then the girl goes back to guys. It seems lots of women cross back and forth from straight to gay all the time.

Guys, on the other hand, seem to come down on one side of the fence or the other and stay there. It's pretty rare to hear of a gay guy who went back to doing girls, or a guy who's into women for years and suddenly changes to guys.

Any genius out there had an idea why this is?

 

[Inkman69]

Don't know where you are getting your information from but I know several cases where men have been married and have a long loving relationship with thier wives complete with kids then all of a sudden they are finding out they were gay there whole lives. Shortly afterwards they get divorced and announce they are gay which is a big surprise to everyone!

See I don't belive that people suddenly turn gay I think they have always been that way and just deny who they are are refuse to belive it due to the way gays are treated as a poplulation. How would you feel if you could lose your job your friends and maybe even your family if you announced that you were gay? Would you be temped to hide who you really are? Think about it.L2L

 

[wyst]

In my experience, there are more truly bisexual women than men. I think L2L has a good point, but except for a certain current lesbian trendiness, that stigmata can apply equally to women.

Wyst

 

[SteelWeaver]

Mmm, I agree - I've had tons of "straight" girls. My gay male friends almost never get the straight boys they're after.

 

[alexiarenee]

I agree, for some reason it seems easier for a lesbian to seduce a straight woman, than for a gay male to seduce a straight man.

 

[Ercole]

Luv2lift, I wasn't putting anybody down. This is just something I've noticed during my 42 years on the planet. I agree that a lot of closeted guys get married and have kids. Oscar Wilde was married with four children! And I guess that John Walker traitor idiot -- his father left the family to move in with a male lover.

That's not so unusual, but crossing back and forth repeatedly -- that's what seems much more common among women than among men. Don't know why ...

 

[myasshurts]

I think its a lot more socially acceptable for women to do it then men. I think some men wouldn't mind experimenting if there wasn't so much anti-gay sentiment. I know at parties I see girls being encouraged to dike out all the time. I haven't ever seen a crowd trying to guys to make out.

 

[Inkman69]

hahahhh that was a very good point myasshurts. Ercole no offence taken regarding your views. I just think that men are a little more carefull about putting thier lifestyles out in the open unlike the women. Like myasshurts said how many parties have you been to where men are egged on to make out as opposed to women. L2L

 

[dragonmona]

I believe that men and women both have bi-sexual tendencies.

The reason that women are more apt to explore their curiosity in this area is that the negative social stigma is generally towards men. How many times have you heard of "Gay Bashing" with a female victim?

All of the negative, and even violent, reactions men get for being attracted to the same gender must cause them to repress their innermost desires. Very sad.

 

[SteelWeaver]

I agree, for some reason it seems easier for a lesbian to seduce a straight woman, than for a gay male to seduce a straight man.

Hey! THEY seduced ME! I just went along for the ride 'cause they were HOT.

dragonmona - you should watch Girls Don't Cry - a cross-dressing lesbian gets gang-banged and beaten up for loving women - based on truth.

But I agree, there are far more social restrictions against guys getting together than women. Is it a patriarchy/power thing?

Or are two (or three or four) women making out together just hotter?