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Being in love and vulnerable.
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See now, I dont view it this way at all... I used to but then I realized that the feeling that we THINK is love is not. It is hormones.
I loved my exhusband with every cell of my being but had NO TROUBLE letting his sorry ass go once he beat me to the ground. Silly me. Had I understood more about love then I would have kicked his ass to the curb long time before, heck wouldn't have him to begin with.
I have posted up many times who truly knows what love is (at least in my estimation at least). Hopefully after 20 years of marriage to my old grump I will know what that is too. Till then I will be happy to travel through life with him as my partner, sharing good and bad.
I loved my exhusband with every cell of my being but had NO TROUBLE letting his sorry ass go once he beat me to the ground. Silly me. Had I understood more about love then I would have kicked his ass to the curb long time before, heck wouldn't have him to begin with.
I have posted up many times who truly knows what love is (at least in my estimation at least). Hopefully after 20 years of marriage to my old grump I will know what that is too. Till then I will be happy to travel through life with him as my partner, sharing good and bad.
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Oceano said:
HORMONES, HORMONES, HORMONES...
And yes, my exhusband was VERY abusive. My bad for choosing and staying with him so long.
I am not so concerned with finding love. I am more concerned with finding Kindness... I will know love once kindness has been part of my relationship even after GOBS of shit has hit the fan. Just my .02
BIKINIMOM said:
yeah, see I find this interesting.
i've seen a lot of girls get hurt and run to the next guy who's 'nice' or 'kind' to them.
But I'd hate to ever be one of those guys because they're second choice and only chosen because the girl is scared of being hurt again
not saying any of this applies in your case
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Oceano said:
No, no you have it backwards.
When a woman leaves (or is left by) a man who she loved who was less than good to her and she FINALLY "gets it" and gives her affection to a man who treats her the way she should be treated - HE is the one that reaps the benefit of her struggle. He is not her "second choice". He becomes her ONLY WISE choice.
My husband is so good to me that there is NOTHING another man could offer me that would even turn my head, not even for a glance.
How many women could say the same?
I am not with him because I HAD to be. I had gobs of men up in my shit FOR YEARS... but they were not worth my time. In the end, they wanted to be with me because they were sexually attracted to me. But as they got to see how hard it was to be with me (because of my ex and my health issues) they left me flat.
My husband was THE FIRST man to step up and make good on his commitment to me. So how could I NOT love him? I would have to be THE DUMBEST FEMALE ON THE PLANET to forsake such a good man...
Yet, when we argue I am always - out the door with my bare ass which is exactly what I came with. Even worse than that, I have TONS of debt... Everything is in my name, but I wont take a single material thing... as I can NEVER be bought. My husband knows this all too well. So he must (and willingly does) be consistently kind and loving, as am I in turn... faithfully.
I was faithfull to an asshole of epic proportions for 13 years. How long you think my marriage to a KIND and LOVING MAN will last?
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heatherrae
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I don't know. I still like to think that true love exists and that I will find it one of these days. Maybe I'm a polyanna.
