I'm new, but from what I have read and know about you, you don't come off as "scary" or "harsh". I think you have great views and you're not afraid to say how you feel. And as a woman, that scares people, both men and women!! In real life you are picking your friends so I doubt people you associate with would call you such things. Unfortunately on line you have to put up with peoples ignorance and that they don't know you, they just know your posts!!