I don't think I can tell anyone what to do. I've asked nicely. Nan and I had whatever misunderstanding, but even she should be able to confirm I sent her a PM last week in which I said please and thank you and ended it with a sorry, knowing I was asking for a favor.
I don't know where the disconnect was, but I have said it nicely several times and I'm hoping people respect it. That doesn't mean I think I'm an authority of the board, not at all, but I would like to have some authority over my life.
I'm sorry if you take issue with that. I'm not going to fight over something when I know my only intention is to keep that situation as private as possible and minimize any damage here affecting the bigger issue in my real life.