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And yet another update thread on the ex

Lestat

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So many of you will remember the post I had about whether or not to go to my company event at the races... that was a couple weeks ago.

I just got this from the ex this morning:

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Hey Brian,

I noticed you left the races shortly after I arrived; I would like to hope that we can eventually be civil to each other, especially at work functions. With that in mind, I thought I’d let you know that I’m playing in the company softball tournament. I hope all is well.

Sincerely,
Sarah
 
She paid attention to you leaving........odd.
 
not even sure how to repond to this one.. I gotta say I am impressed that she is giving me the heads up on something that we would both likely be at... at least giving me the chance to mentally prepare for it.. or not go if I wanted to avoid that situation all together.

What I really feel, which is not sure what I should tell her, is that seeing her is painful, it brings back memories that I want to forget. I'd be happy if I never had to see or speak to her again. When I see her, I don't see the same person that I knew, but it reminds me of the person I used to know, and that hurts.
 
She has nerve contacting you.

I wouldn't answer her email and I would bag the softball game (if I had planned to go) just out of spite.

Of course all of this lacks maturity and appropriate behavior but someone times you just have to say F**k it and be a bastard.
 
i dont think she is direct enough. but maybe im naive there

anyway just forget about her entirely. be civil but that does not force you to go anywhere or do anything
 
velvett said:
She has nerve contacting you.

I wouldn't answer her email and I would bag the softball game (if I had planned to go) just out of spite.

Of course all of this lacks maturity and appropriate behavior but someone times you just have to say F**k it and be a bastard.
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the fucked up thing is.. I've worked here 6 years.. she's been here 1. I've managed a team every year, she played on mine last year (her first).

To not go would mean a BIG change in behavior on my part. But at the same time, the thought of being there that day (its an ALL DAY event) and playing against her team (which we would for sure)... it just sickens me.
 
she noticed you leaving because she knows she holds some power over you. she does have nerve for bringing it up.
if you reply at all, make sure she knows that you left because you had someplace to go (like a date), and that it had nothing to do with her.
 
Lestat said:
the fucked up thing is.. I've worked here 6 years.. she's been here 1. I've managed a team every year, she played on mine last year (her first).

To not go would mean a BIG change in behavior on my part. But at the same time, the thought of being there that day (its an ALL DAY event) and playing against her team (which we would for sure)... it just sickens me.
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If you go you have to show that she holds nothing over you, that you feel nothing for her and show no discomfort as if she never existed in your life the way she did.

You actual choices are very clear, it's just what direction you choose to go that is most unclear.
 
manage your softball team. pop a vicodin and you wont care about anything and the rest Velvett summed up nicely
 
Lestat said:
What I really feel, which is not sure what I should tell her, is that seeing her is painful, it brings back memories that I want to forget.
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Don't tell her it hurts to see her.

But I would ask her not to play in the tournament. Tell her you have always been in it and would appreciate her not polluting the event with her skank ass....

If she refuses, make sure she knows that you will not be there because nothing is fun if she is around.
 
velvett said:
If you go you have to show that she holds nothing over you, that you feel nothing for her and show no discomfort as if she never existed in your life the way she did.

You actual choices are very clear, it's just what direction you choose to go that is most unclear.
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Not going would PROVE she has power over him. He HAS to go. I'm reading this differently than most. I don't feel like she's trying to fuck with you. I think she's probably a pretty classy girl, but you need to make her understand you don't want to see her anymore than you have to for the time being.
 
velvett said:
If you go you have to show that she holds nothing over you, that you feel nothing for her and show no discomfort as if she never existed in your life the way she did.

You actual choices are very clear, it's just what direction you choose to go that is most unclear.
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Why should he have to pretend anything? Who cares if she knows that she holds some power over him? There's no shame in showing your emotions.

It seems weird to me that its the women on this thread that are giving this advice, almost like you're speaking from experience.

Surely women aren't so evil that they take satisfaction in seeing their ex (that they dumped) uncomfortable?
 
I agree with Dial Tone, not going would prove that she has some power over me.

The thing is though, its not that she has the power, well maybe it is, but its that I just don't want to be anywhere near her, I don't want to see her, I don't want anything to do with her. is that power over me? Maybe so.. but I can't really change it.

Luckily, when I saw this email from her it didn't tie my stomach up in knots like her emails would have done 2 months ago... that is a good sign.
 
Dial_tone said:
Not going would PROVE she has power over him. He HAS to go. I'm reading this differently than most. I don't feel like she's trying to fuck with you. I think she's probably a pretty classy girl, but you need to make her understand you don't want to see her anymore than you have to for the time being.
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so will going and crumbling.


One could suggest that by not going and expressing to her that I will change my life to NOT include you because I don't want you in my life even though you try and appear into it when you can without questionable notice.

If she really cared for his feelings she would NOT go to play in the softball game, she would spare his feelings since she would most likely know his personality and habits well since she dated him.

Like I said - Lestat (sorry to talk about you like you aren't here) either has to not go or go and make a statement of strength and even better as Strangebrew suggested bring a hot date and ignore her.
 
I could bring a date, that is definitely feasible as I've been seeing someone semi regularly now... (who knows if I'll still be seeing her then, but I know I could bring a date if I wanted to spend the day with someone.)

That's really not in my nature though, to do something so intentional and deliberate to throw in her face...

I don't really wish my ex any ill will.. but at the same time when I think of her I think of an immature, cold, selfish bitch. Not because she dumped me really... that HAPPENS.. I realize that and always have.. I've had to break things off with women and I know I've been the source of some hurt and some pain.. its never fun, never easy...

my big thing, and I've said this before I think here, is that I think she treated me like complete shit with the way things ended... the suddeness.. the things she said.. lack of real explantion... etc etc... I imagine how I would have handled things had I been the one to break up with her and it would have been completely different.

I'm very easy going, very rational, a realist, I may have initially been upset at the idea of breaking up, but with a little respect and compassion we could have talked through things and had they still ended, we could have been left in a far more comfortable place for both of us. I know this is easier to say then do, but its really what I believe.
 
Lestat said:
That's really not in my nature though, to do something so intentional and deliberate to throw in her face...
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WHY THE HELL NOT!?

Why can't you publically show that you have moved on with your life? (Even if you still have feelings for the ex)

What are you afraid of, that she won't see you as still available and waiting for her to want you back again?
 
velvett said:
You don't know most women then.
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I asked a question...so tell me what most women are like.

I realise some women/bitches might be like this but not most. Now go on...are women really this fucked up?
 
jd_uk said:
I asked a question...so tell me what most women are like.

I realise some women/bitches might be like this but not most. Now go on...are women really this fucked up?
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It's not just women, it's also men so that makes it a people thing.

People can be cruel and heartless, once you know this and accept it nothing that could be thrown your way should rock your world for more than a temporary period of time.
 
velvett said:
It's not just women, it's also men so that makes it a people thing.

People can be cruel and heartless, once you know this and accept it nothing that could be thrown your way should rock your world for more than a temporary period of time.
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Ummm we're not talking about 'people' here, we're talking about WOMEN.

You just implied that 'most' women would be happy to see their ex (that they dumped) uncomfortable/upset/unhappy etc. Is this true? Because that's seriously news to me.
 
jd_uk said:
Ummm we're not talking about 'people' here, we're talking about WOMEN.

You just implied that 'most' women would be happy to see their ex (that they dumped) uncomfortable/upset/unhappy etc. Is this true? Because that's seriously news to me.
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Yaaaaaaah, we're talking about women (one woman actually) and YES they would love to know that their ex is miserable without them and MEN can behave in the very same manner.
 
jd_uk said:
Ummm we're not talking about 'people' here, we're talking about WOMEN.

You just implied that 'most' women would be happy to see their ex (that they dumped) uncomfortable/upset/unhappy etc. Is this true? Because that's seriously news to me.
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some women. some men.
thats how some people are.
if you've ever been tortured by an ex in any way, you'd know.
 
okay, so I am new here and dont know the whole story but.....you do have a life outside of the work place right? not saying you should let her run you off but there are alternatives other than going and feeling like shit or staying home and being the same.
 
randk said:
okay, so I am new here and dont know the whole story but.....you do have a life outside of the work place right? not saying you should let her run you off but there are alternatives other than going and feeling like shit or staying home and being the same.
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thanks man, valuable second post.
 
Sugarplum said:
some women. some men.
thats how some people are.
if you've ever been tortured by an ex in any way, you'd know.
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Velvett didn't say some women though, she said 'most'.

Hmmm this has put me in rather a bad mood. Time for some exercise.
 
I didn't read any of the replies but she is only being nice to you. She's not trying to stir up any feelings IMO. She is over you by the looks of it. :(
 
alien amp pharm said:
I didn't read any of the replies but she is only being nice to you. She's not trying to stir up any feelings IMO. She is over you by the looks of it. :(
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she apparently was over me before it ended...
 
It seems to me that most of you people approach this, like she's an evil witch trying to collect all the souls she can, to present them like a gift to Satan or something.

Haven't any of you just considered the fact, that she might just a regular person with some concern for her ex boyfriend, and some curiosity on how he's doing. Expecially considering that he was pretty beaten up about the whole breakup.
For her to notice his departure is nothing short of normal behaviour. Wouldn't any of you be a bit curious about seeing your ex after so long, especially considering the circumstances?

The way I remember the initial threads about this breakup, was that it had nothing to do with her being mad, spiteful, vengeful and all that. She ended the relationship, because she fdidn't love him anymore. Not because he cheated, abused or did something terrible. If that where the case, I would agree with the sceptics here.

The not that she left, shows IMO a bit of decency. With this note she tells him that she knows/suspects that he's still hurting and is therefore giving him a heads up regarding the softball game. She's not gonna put her life on hold because of this, but is giving him a choice to decide on attending this softball event, with the knowledge of she being present. I think it shows maturity. But I may be wrong, I may be reading this incorrectly. But I think I'm on to something.

Mr. Lestat, in my honest non-professional opinion. I think you should go, I think this will not only make you stronger, but it will also make you take the first/another step towards "recovery" (in lack of a better word). Avoiding her will not solve anything, and in a way only make things worse.

Whatever you decide, good luck
 
ringperm said:
Haven't any of you just considered the fact, that she might just a regular person with some concern for her ex boyfriend, and some curiosity on how he's doing. Expecially considering that he was pretty beaten up about the whole breakup.
For her to notice his departure is nothing short of normal behaviour. Wouldn't any of you be a bit curious about seeing your ex after so long, especially considering the circumstances?
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Of course it's natural to notice but she was asked not to contact him and yet she found the need to anyway. If she were sensitive she would not continue to appear in his life in any way or form.

I dated a guy who's ex behaved the very same way and they broke up months prior to my meeting him the very same as as Lestat. After three years of her passive aggressive behavior and final straw of her dropping by his house near midnight b/c she ran out of gas (yah ok) I was like "you can have him".

I mean it's over - they are not dating, thay can't be friends at this point in time - why, WHY contact this person if you know it will hurt them?
 
Remember what you said at your last communication with her. Are you a man of your word? She`s contacting you when you told her not to. I think your sanity is more important than a softball game. I can understand how you don`t want to see her, so don`t. or... E-mail back saying the Softball is your thing and tell HER not to go BECAUSE of what you said about seeing/communicating with each other.

If she refuses, then YOU should not go. That`s just what I would do. Stand your ground. I`m sure that is`nt a popular way of doing it... but if you go, it would reduce your "No contact" message to nothing but an emotional outburst that made you feel better that day.
 
gonelifting said:
Remember what you said at your last communication with her. Are you a man of your word? She`s contacting you when you told her not to. I think your sanity is more important than a softball game. I can understand how you don`t want to see her, so don`t. or... E-mail back saying the Softball is your thing and tell HER not to go BECAUSE of what you said about seeing/communicating with each other.

If she refuses, then YOU should not go. That`s just what I would do. Stand your ground. I`m sure that is`nt a popular way of doing it... but if you go, it would reduce your "No contact" message to nothing but an emotional outburst that made you feel better that day.
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Ouuuuuu good answer.
 
velvett said:
Of course it's natural to notice but she was asked not to contact him and yet she found the need to anyway. If she were sensitive she would not continue to appear in his life in any way or form.

I dated a guy who's ex behaved the very same way and they broke up months prior to my meeting him the very same as as Lestat. After three years of her passive aggressive behavior and final straw of her dropping by his house near midnight b/c she ran out of gas (yah ok) I was like "you can have him".

I mean it's over - they are not dating, thay can't be friends at this point in time - why, WHY contact this person if you know it will hurt them?
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I see your point, but are these situations comparable. I might be missing something here. But I was under the assumption that she hadn't contacted him since she was told not to. When two people are working for the same company, do you excpect that the one that broke it of, to stay away from work related functions to avoid hurting the ex? Especially since it has gone a few months since the breakup?
I'm just askin, since this strikes me as odd. But we're all different I guess.
 
Her email is praiseworthy for its maturity and directness. I am at a loss to understand why Lestat cannot handle this interaction as if it were with any other adult.

B: Hi Sarah.

S: Hi Brian. How's it going?

B: Not bad.

S: Cool. Good luck in the tournament

B: You too, catch you later.



She's over you. Follow her example; she's doing more than a little to be courteous to you.
 
gonelifting said:
Remember what you said at your last communication with her. Are you a man of your word? She`s contacting you when you told her not to. I think your sanity is more important than a softball game. I can understand how you don`t want to see her, so don`t. or... E-mail back saying the Softball is your thing and tell HER not to go BECAUSE of what you said about seeing/communicating with each other.

If she refuses, then YOU should not go. That`s just what I would do. Stand your ground. I`m sure that is`nt a popular way of doing it... but if you go, it would reduce your "No contact" message to nothing but an emotional outburst that made you feel better that day.
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what about you, tough guy? Did you actually get cigarettes or not? :)
 
ringperm said:
But I was under the assumption that she hadn't contacted him since she was told not to.
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Did you read the first post on this thread?
If was about an email from her to him.
 
If it were me Lestat, I'd go to the game, have fun, and be curtious and nice to her. Don't go out of your way to say hello or anything, but if she says hi then be nice back to her, and no matter how much it hurts keep your poker face on. Show her that you can be OK without her.

She will leave that game thinking how together you are and wondering why she ever left you, that's the best revenge of all.
 
velvett said:
Did you read the first post on this thread?
If was about an email from her to him.
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Yeah I know, apart from that one. (insert blush smiley)
But that's some of the whole point. This was not some sort of message from someone trying to gain power over the other. As I mentioned earlier, it was more of a heads up, telling him that she will attend the softball tournament. And since he's still hurting, and might be interested in avoiding her further, she gave him the opportunity to continue to do that. There is no power game being played here like I see it. I think she has trouble with how to deal with this herself, and is doing the best she can living her life without making any (more?) unnecessarry blunders

But what do I know. I don't even know the girl. If I'm wrong, I blame it on cultural differences :)
 
ringperm said:
Yeah I know, apart from that one. (insert blush smiley)
But that's some of the whole point. This was not some sort of message from someone trying to gain power over the other. As I mentioned earlier, it was more of a heads up, telling him that she will attend the softball tournament. And since he's still hurting, and might be interested in avoiding her further, she gave him the opportunity to continue to do that. There is no power game being played here like I see it. I think she has trouble with how to deal with this herself, and is doing the best she can living her life without making any (more?) unnecessarry blunders

But what do I know. I don't even know the girl. If I'm wrong, I blame it on cultural differences :)
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OH I totally agree.
I had suggested earlier since they have history together she would know if whether or not an email such as that, even a non threatening one as that could be taken to heart in a greater way.

Hope that makes sense.
 
MattTheSkywalker said:
Her email is praiseworthy for its maturity and directness. I am at a loss to understand why Lestat cannot handle this interaction as if it were with any other adult.

B: Hi Sarah.

S: Hi Brian. How's it going?

B: Not bad.

S: Cool. Good luck in the tournament

B: You too, catch you later.



She's over you. Follow her example; she's doing more than a little to be courteous to you.
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Damm good point... I was going to say go and ignore her but if you think about it taking the high road is probably better.
 
Didn't you send to your ex a direct to-the-point email that you copied from Goldendelicious clearly stating NOT to contact you again??

If so, your ex either can't read and comprehend very well or is playing games.
 
wutangnomo said:
Didn't you send to your ex a direct to-the-point email that you copied from Goldendelicious clearly stating NOT to contact you again??

If so, your ex either can't read and comprehend very well or is playing games.
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THANK YOU.
:supercool
 
When I had a girlfriend dump me. She tended to show up at things just to see how I was getting along without her. That was absurdly annoying and painful. Thankfully I have always had women freinds so, a couple of them told me they were going with to one of the softball games and after game beer fest. They told me to just play along and they'd make sure it was fixed.

They were ALL over me throughout the whole time. I didnt' know how well the one woman could kiss, but she about melted me into my socks with her kisses. It was tough to maintain perspective about what they were doing, but I"d known them for years, so the brain won out over the massive erection they were causing.

In any case, we went to the beer party after etc. I got a SCATHING phone call from the ex about the two WHORES I was with and how she never wanted to see me again!

Funny, but that was what she said when she broke up with me. ;)

I had a tough time looking at the two women as just friends as easily after that though as you might imagine...
 
wutangnomo said:
your ex either can't read and comprehend very well or is playing games.
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I agree as well... BUT- I would act as if it doesn't bother me (even if it does)

DON'T EMAIL HER BACK OR ACKNOWLEDGE HER EMAIL

Go to the softball thing if you want - be nice but short winded if you run into her (re MTSW suggestions)... Kick her teams ass... Act as if she is just anyone else that you barely know/barely acquainted with...

Move on with your life for your sake, or just act like it (even if you are pretending)...

If she IS playing some kind of game with you... the best plan is to act as if she really effect you anymore (that will burn her up)... If she ISN'T intentionally messing with you - she will see you have moved on and leave you the hell alone...

Just go about your business like she doesn't effect you (even if you have to pretend) and don't acknowledge the email...



BTW if when you are at the softball thing she bumps into you and asks about the email - then you know she is evil...

I already think she is by asking why you left early at the baseball game, that was not necessary (and snoopy)

I would have an answer prepared for both 1) why you left the baseball game early (say you had a date) and 2) her email (thought she could read and understood you didn't feel you had any good reasons to talk with her anymore) - just in case she pulls some crap at the softball thing
 
strongsmartsexy said:
They were ALL over me throughout the whole time. I didnt' know how well the one woman could kiss, but she about melted me into my socks with her kisses. It was tough to maintain perspective about what they were doing, but I"d known them for years, so the brain won out over the massive erection they were causing.

In any case, we went to the beer party after etc. I got a SCATHING phone call from the ex about the two WHORES I was with and how she never wanted to see me again!

Funny, but that was what she said when she broke up with me. ;)
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This is so much more fun than the civilized route...
 
I agree with MTSW in principle, but in practice that is easier said then done.

Believe me, I'd love it if I was able to just go, do things as I normally would, even casually say hi and have it not affect me. Have it not turn my stomach or put me on edge. That'd be great. But for now, its just an act, and an act I don't like playing. Its far easier just to avoid then to act is my point.

And I don't think she's being malicious, as much as I'd like to because it adds more fuel the the fire of angre I have buring towards her, I think she is just young, not sure how to handle things, and making her best attempt at keeping things civil. She doesn't always do or say the right things.. but then again, neither do I.
 
Lestat said:
And I don't think she's being malicious, as much as I'd like to because it adds more fuel the the fire of angre I have buring towards her, I think she is just young, not sure how to handle things, and making her best attempt at keeping things civil. She doesn't always do or say the right things.. but then again, neither do I.
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Then none of this should bother you.
 
velvett said:
Stop analyzing, keep dating.
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Analyzing?

It seems to me that most people here including yourself are over-analyzing the situation.

If it were me then i'd go the tournament and i wouldn't pretend anything or play any revenge games to show her that i was 'alright without her'. If when i see her i feel a bit uncomfortable, then i wouldn't put on a fake smile or anything to disguise this fact.

It's up to Lestat of course, but my advice to Lestat is BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. If she really is a bitch and it gives her some satisfaction to see that you're still hurting then fuck her, take satisfaction in knowing that you're better than her (I'm assuming that like me you wouldn't ever enjoy to see an ex hurting because of something you'd done).
 
jd_uk said:
Analyzing?

It seems to me that most people here including yourself are over-analyzing the situation.

If it were me then i'd go the tournament and i wouldn't pretend anything or play any revenge games to show her that i was 'alright without her'. If when i see her i feel a bit uncomfortable, then i wouldn't put on a fake smile or anything to disguise this fact.

It's up to Lestat of course, but my advice to Lestat is BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. If she really is a bitch and it gives her some satisfaction to see that you're still hurting then fuck her, take satisfaction in knowing that you're better than her (I'm assuming that like me you wouldn't ever enjoy to see an ex hurting because of something you'd done).
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I'm sorry, I have a terribly sarcastic sense of humor - I was only playing with you.

As a side note, you should go back and read all of Lestat's other threads about the ex and come back and see/say what you think.
 
Lestat said:
Believe me, I'd love it if I was able to just go, do things as I normally would, even casually say hi and have it not affect me. Have it not turn my stomach or put me on edge. That'd be great. But for now, its just an act, and an act I don't like playing. Its far easier just to avoid then to act is my point.
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Why act? There's no need. If she see's your'e still hurt, who cares? It doesn't matter

Go with your feelings . I don't think you really need all this advice being thrown at you about revenge games etc. You seem a far more mature and decent person than most people both on EF and in real life.

I personally don't think there's any need to act any differently from the way you're feeling. If you feel uncomfortable, don't hide it, if you feel like you're getting over her, again dont hide it.
 
jd_uk said:
I don't think you really need all this advice being thrown at you about revenge games etc.
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No one has suggested that he be revengful - just strong and if strength is not an option don't leave yourself wide open to be hurt.
 
I apprciate everyone taking the time to read this, to think about it, and to reply. It means a lot really. I hope that I can one day give back as much as you all have given to me.
 
Lestat said:
I apprciate everyone taking the time to read this, to think about it, and to reply. It means a lot really. I hope that I can one day give back as much as you all have given to me.
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You're too nice of a guy to be tortured like this, I hope and I think I can speak for the whole lot of us, (varied opinions and all) that we just want to see you happy.

Focus on the positive and new girlie in your life.
 
velvett said:
You're too nice of a guy to be tortured like this, I hope and I think I can speak for the whole lot of us, (varied opinions and all) that we just want to see you happy.

Focus on the positive and new girlie in your life.
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Oh I am, she is a cool chick too.

I've got other issues there. I'm starting to feel a bit smothered.... I'm not really looking to go out and date a ton of chicks as I have been.... but I hung out with this girl last night till around midnight, then today she basically asked to hang out today and/or tomorrow after I had already invited her over Thursday...

She just enjoys spending time with me (who wouldn't).. but I need my personal space.. its pretty crucial to me.. my workweek is filled from 8-5 or so.. then with working out and softball league the majority of my evenings are fairly filled. I have no problems seeing someone a couple times a week, which I think is more then enough at first... when I started getting serious with my ex we started seeing each other nearly every day and it was fantastic, but early on, I had to tell her to chill out, and don't assume we're gonna hang every night. I felt like shit having to say that, because I'm always assuming the chick just thinks I don't like her much or am seeing someone else. but that's not it.. I just like time on my own.. like tonight, the idea of getting home, watching some football, having nothing to do and no one in particular to see.. that appeals to me. I'm not a loner or anti social by any means.. its just that when I start seeing someone everyday or too frequently... I stop looking forward to it and start looking forward to the time AWAY from the person which is fucked.
 
velvett said:
No one has suggested that he be revengful - just strong and if strength is not an option don't leave yourself wide open to be hurt.
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Plenty of people have suggested that he Lestat should put on a front and pretend to be completely 'over her' in an effort to try and get something back on her.

This is both revengful and a game, i see no need for it.

To pretend only shows weakness IMO.

I understand you're only trying to help lestat but just don't agree with your methods.
 
jd_uk said:
Plenty of people have suggested that he Lestat should put on a front and pretend to be completely 'over her' in an effort to try and get something back on her.

This is both revengful and a game, i see no need for it.

To pretend only shows weakness IMO.

I understand you're only trying to help lestat but just don't agree with your methods.
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Pretending not to be hurt is not revengful, having your new girlfriend introduce herself to your ex as so and so's girlfriend is revengful.

Getting through all aspects of life you need to "save face", in both personal and business relationships.

If you get fired are you gonna start bawling to you boss that you have no job and you were unfairly let go when you run into him in the supermarkert or are you gonna be polite say hello and keeping going on with your life even though your feel like shit inside.
 
Damn, I have to admit I was wrong about never taking advice woman about relationships. Velvet is right on everytime. And, sugarplum is looking at thing objectively also.

Lestat, take it from an expert. No one has been dumped more than me. However, (like you) I have used the experiances as drive to improve my body, income, and self happiness.

Like vel and sug are telling you women (and some men) take pleasure in knowing that they still have an effect on you.

My suggestion

1. e-mail her back saying "I was having at the company party, but I was late for something else and had to leave." Thats it no Hi or bye

2. Goto the game like its no sweat. (I know its hard)

3. Say exactly what Matt sky said. Except, I would throw in the optional joke like.."keep your eye on the ball" or call her "Wiff" or something.

4. I wouldn't bring a chick unless she was flaunting a guy in your face. She already knows you are seeing other girls. Trust me girls find this shit out

5. Do not get angry or tell her not to contact you or go anywhere you will be. (I know its hard) And, definately dont try to get revenge. Your revenge will come later. (thanks in part to her dumping you) I promise she will regret her actions when she see's how much you improved your life, how good you are compared to the others, and how happy you are and could have made her.

Batter Up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
awittyusername said:
Damn, I have to admit I was wrong about never taking advice woman about relationships. Velvet is right on everytime. And, sugarplum is looking at thing objectively also.

Lestat, take it from an expert. No one has been dumped more than me. However, (like you) I have used the experiances as drive to improve my body, income, and self happiness.

Like vel and sug are telling you women (and some men) take pleasure in knowing that they still have an effect on you.

My suggestion

1. e-mail her back saying "I was having at the company party, but I was late for something else and had to leave." Thats it no Hi or bye

2. Goto the game like its no sweat. (I know its hard)

3. Say exactly what Matt sky said. Except, I would throw in the optional joke like.."keep your eye on the ball" or call her "Wiff" or something.

4. I wouldn't bring a chick unless she was flaunting a guy in your face. She already knows you are seeing other girls. Trust me girls find this shit out

5. Do not get angry or tell her not to contact you or go anywhere you will be. (I know its hard) And, definately dont try to get revenge. Your revenge will come later. (thanks in part to her dumping you) I promise she will regret her actions when she see's how much you improved your life, how good you are compared to the others, and how happy you are and could have made her.

Batter Up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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thanks man. solid.
 
I agree with everything Velvett said.

Also, I advise against sending unsolicited penis picks to her as well. Thought that should be mentioned:)

So

(1) Dont respond to the email

(2)Go or dont depending on what you can handle

(3)If you do go, bring a hot date:)
 
JerseyArt said:
I agree with everything Velvett said.

Also, I advise against sending unsolicited penis picks to her as well. Thought that should be mentioned:)

So

(1) Dont respond to the email

(2)Go or dont depending on what you can handle

(3)If you do go, bring a hot date:)
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#3 Translates to: Send Velvett a plane ticket and pray she comes out to REALLY have an impact.
 
velvett said:
People can be cruel and heartless, once you know this and accept it nothing that could be thrown your way should rock your world for more than a temporary period of time.
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Pretty thick skinned
 
strongsmartsexy said:
#3 Translates to: Send Velvett a plane ticket and pray she comes out to REALLY have an impact.
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If I thought there was a chance she'd say yes, I'd offer.
 
id have like 500 posts if it wasn't for these threads on the ex
 
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