close your eyes (after you finish reading this) and imagine yourself sitting in a chair in a large, empty, white room. A door opens and your best friend walks in and stands in front of you.
what do you feel about them? about the person they are, not necessarily about how they look.
Now
imagine yourself in that same chair, same room. The door opens and YOU walk in and stand in front of you. now how do you feel about the person you see?
what do you feel about them? about the person they are, not necessarily about how they look.
Now
imagine yourself in that same chair, same room. The door opens and YOU walk in and stand in front of you. now how do you feel about the person you see?